Hey, man.
Yes, you are right. Indians and Chinese people think differently. And yes, my name on PDF is Roach, inspired by the Cockroach. I think they (roaches) are awesome- but that's another conversation.
China is doing very well these days, as the world can see. Your trains run at three hundred kilometers per hour, your cities are the envy of the western world. Sporting events are organized with spotless efficiency, and your diplomats woo world leaders of all continents.
But many of those who have had the pleasure of befriending and working with Chinese people and examined their psyche will invariably tell you one thing-
China's Achilles heel is-you guys are terrified of Criticism.
Critics aren't polite. Critics don't care about your deep sense of being victimized over the ages and your (justified) new-found national and cultural pride. Critics are harsh, personal, incisive, and hurtful.
Critic are within and without. Unless you get used to those who are within, you will resent those without. You love to speak about a gradual movement to a more open political system, this is the FIRST step.
Trust me, I'm Indian. We get $hit about poverty, toilets, cowdung, cow urine, the CWG, infant deaths, even the father of our nation who was called a Half-Naked Fakir, and lots more. Our trains might run at 25 mph, but we know how to shift through the garbage of jealous criticism and find the nuggets of wisdom that only an enemy, or well-meaning friend, can provide.
Since this dude has won the Nobel Peace Prize, I can sense a distinct defensiveness in most (if not all) Chinese members on this forum. You guys hate it and resent it more than we can understand. IMO, this comes from not being used to criticism of yourselves. Please don't give me a few links to sites where some people have posted rants about corrupt officials. Real criticism is where you can stand stand in the middle of the street with a placard that says "This is wrong, all wrong" and have people abuse you but still go home and sleep in your bed.
I consider myself a good friend and Neighbor, and my advice to you chaps would be-
Learn to laugh at yourselves.
He with whom neither slander that gradually soaks into the mind, nor statements that startle like a wound in the flesh, are successful may be called intelligent indeed.
-Confucius, The Confucian Analects