there will never be a war between India and China, the only one in 1962 was a result of Nehru's forward policy which has been labelled erroneous by many within India and worldwide and subsequently discontinued by Nehru himself.. now that both economies have grown tremendously, neither party wants a war to jeopardize growth, more so in view of substantial investment by China into India..
apart from the usual political war cry rhetoric in both countries to cater to the populace, there is a zero percent chance of any violent confrontation, even the periodic border violations by China are stage managed for public consumption on both sides..
I generally agree with what you just said, except for the highlighted part. I have never seen Chinese media with screaming headlines as opposed to the Indian counterpart. The pattern is invariably as follows----Indian media breaks the news ----Chinese foreign ministry spokeman responds with a low key stetement when asked about it at a regularly held press briefing. Nothing more than that.
Nehru was an arrogant son of gun but he was not stupid. He had plenty of good reasons to believe that his forward policy would work. China had a famine. China had only two unpaved roads connecting Tibet with rest of the country and passage was only seasonal. US was hostile and Sino-Soviet split was becoming more and more obvious. His only miscalculation was that he underestimated Mao Zedong, a battle-hardened revolutionary who had fought the Japanese, the civil war, and the Americans in Korea. Mao was never going to take it lying down.