Mr. Mishra---we understand you clearly----but in matters of defence---you may not get the right answers all the time.
I understand very clearly where you are coming from----.
You have a certain personality type-----it is called " extremely structured to the maximum "---that is why you keep asking for written material.
As you mentioned that you are in research----completing your education---so it means that you do not have epxeperince in an open work environment.
The way that you are asking for references---that is not a norm in the west---.Once you come to the west and work in open environment---you will realize and learn it then. May take a few years----
Here is some information that you may enjoy---- try ---
www.strengths.com
click on 4 traits---and click on structure---this is who you are----and I would say---you are an extreme case in structured personality---man---I pity your wife---either she will have a miserable life---or she will beat the sh-it out of you
here is the link to your personality trait----click on all of them( traits on the bar )and read them---you might be able to learn to communicate better with people---once you learn how and why people react and do what they do.
http://www.strengths.com/Structure.html
For others---this is the personality trait of Mr. Mishra---so plz understand where he is coming from----he does not want to pi-ss you off intentionally----he just does because who he is.
Structure
The focus of the Structured person is on being right and doing the right thing.
The people that you know who are careful, precise & perfectionists ... they're Structured. Someone who has Structure as their high trait "goes by the book" ... THEIR BOOK! They can be resistant to change, not because the change isn't good but because they need some time to be SURE that its good. They need to gather facts and do the research before making a decision. They ask A LOT of questions ... they like to check and re-check ... they like to be right!
Other characteristics of Structure are:
- They HATE to make mistakes
- Keep things together in the company
- Naturally good organizers
- Usually careful, accurate, precise
- Will double check themselves and others
- Are very loyal (to circle of structure)
- Naturally good with details
- There is a right way and a wrong way ... the right way is the ONLY way
- Don't make many mistakes, might make nervous mistakes
- Need a thorough knowledge of product to sell it
- Often rely on tradition
- Good at developing systems
- Meticulous, can be fussy
- Perfectionist
- Like to gather many facts before making decisions
- Do NOT like criticism (proves them wrong) but are often self-critical
- Quality oriented
- Appreciate knowing the rules, expectations, instructions
- Go by the book ... their book/rules
The best way to work with a person who has the Structure trait is:
- Give them the facts. Show it to them in writing.
- Focus on doing the right thing. If things go wrong, first look at the procedures rather than blaming the Structured person.
- Give them the opportunity to ask questions.
NOTE: If a person has other traits above the line, you will also need to consider those traits as well.
