What's new

List of countries by suicide rate

. . . . .
Well, i couldn't comment on this, strange things happen, just the women i know require more "maintenance" then a depressed guy could probably handle. And i don't mean financial support, just talking, interacting, making her laugh etc....

If a woman is not stupid she will notice that you're not 100% there...also, women judge men in first few seconds on basis of eyes and smile (i know this for a fact, numerous times when i've met someone, she first looked me in the eye when introducing herself, then when it was my turn to introduce myself, her look would "wander" slightly below the eyes, towards the mouth and teeth. Technically, you have to smile when saying your name and that it's a pleasure to meet her). Depressed guy won't smile a lot, raising red flags.
I am talking about guys who are outwardly happy and dont look depressed but are desperate souls inside
 
.
No, because if you're depressed you don't get to live the rabbit life. No woman will go with a depressed guy...unless she is also fucked up mentally.

We guys don't wear our depression on our sleeves like women do. So it is not like many woman would even know.
 
.
We guys don't wear our depression on our sleeves like women do. So it is not like many woman would even know.

DON'T lie when Dilli Baba's around. You expressive, wear my sentiments on my sleeves, dingo. :angry:
 
.
I am talking about guys who are outwardly happy and dont look depressed but are desperate souls inside

That only works on stupid women and even with them it probably doesn't last long. my 2 cents...

You can only act happy if you're desperate. And sooner or later there won't be enough energy to act and the dude will lash out, revealing his true persona. From here comes the saying "I feel like i don't know you anymore"....

Coincidentally, i watched a great show the other day, how much brain power it takes to lie/act in real time face to face. It's quite large amounts, you have to think up a plausible lie in relation to some event, you have to think about that event to come up with a plausible lie in the first place, you must assess the impact of your lies on the other persons face (whether they believe or not), you have to keep a straight face (some brain activity makes people's facial muscles twitch) and you have to keep the lie in your memory if the said event comes up at a later date, so you can repeat the same story.
They showed tests, people's eyebrows would wrinkle, they would look up breaking eye contact in order to "release" the brain power (which was engaged up until then in assesment of your success in lying) to keep on thinking plausible scenarios, people would change sitting pose from relaxed, laid back to leaning forward in anticipation, blink excessively etc....

i'll try to find some link, i know it was on BBC Knowledge. Incredible show, the face gestures they talked about are called micro expressions.

We guys don't wear our depression on our sleeves like women do. So it is not like many woman would even know.

Above is for you as well, i didn't quite understand the sleeves part, was that supposed to mean men hide depression better?
And i stand by my 2 cents that a smart woman will know something is wrong, she won't be able to put her finger on it, but she will know. Ofcourse, many women are naive fools and some can have ulterior motives so they keep up with the charade....
 
.
"For in much wisdom is much grief: and he that increases knowledge increases sorrow."

Ecclesiastes 1:18
 
.
Above is for you as well, i didn't quite understand the sleeves part, was that supposed to mean men hide depression better?
And i stand by my 2 cents that a smart woman will know something is wrong, she won't be able to put her finger on it, but she will know. Ofcourse, many women are naive fools and some can have ulterior motives so they keep up with the charade....

Well I was not talking about in a relationship, I was referencing what dillinger said acting like bunnies so basically one night stands, most woman in such a short time frame would not be able to figure the dude is depressed if he doesn't project himself such a way and it is known that a lot of depressed folks turn to sporadic sex which is what leads to sex addicts. Of course if you are in a long term relationship with a woman and she gets to know your mannerism than unless she is retarded she should be able to tell if her man is depressed by his change in behavior.
 
. .
Well I was not talking about in a relationship, I was referencing what dillinger said acting like bunnies so basically one night stands, most woman in such a short time frame would not be able to figure the dude is depressed if he doesn't project himself such a way and it is known that a lot of depressed folks turn to sporadic sex which is what leads to sex addicts. Of course if you are in a long term relationship with a woman and she gets to know your mannerism than unless she is retarded she should be able to tell if her man is depressed by his change in behavior.

Hmm, i must admit i did not know this. Depression in relation to sex addiction. Interesting.
For me the mental image of the depressed guy would be the man sitting alone at the bar, sipping on beer. And i know those never score because i served quite a few of them when i was a barman.

Anyhow, i guess i have to take back the comment that depressed guy don't get laid. Still can't figure out how they do it. Is the woman depressed as well in these "scenarios" and they sort of "feel" each other and try to comfort themselves mutually?
 
.
Hmm, i must admit i did not know this. Depression in relation to sex addiction. Interesting.
For me the mental image of the depressed guy would be the man sitting alone at the bar, sipping on beer. And i know those never score because i served quite a few of them when i was a barman.

Anyhow, i guess i have to take back the comment that depressed guy don't get laid. Still can't figure out how they do it. Is the woman depressed as well in these "scenarios" and they sort of "feel" each other and try to comfort themselves mutually?

Yeah man I went to one of those anonymous meeting to pick up one of my friends who was kind of an alchoholic so I sat down and there were few sex addicts there as well, at least two mentioned being depressed and seeking sexual gratification in order to not having to face their problems. The same way some may turn to drugs, sex it its own high (you know what I mean). Of course depression is not the only reason why some become sex addicts some for other reasons such as abuse in childhood etc but depressed people do get laid.

How idk man how hard is it to go to a bar and pick up a chick to take your mind of things, not hard really. Idk about the woman different woman go for hookups for different reasons examples being genuinely enjoying hooking up, liking the feeling of being wanted, depressed, etc.

Here is an article about what I was trying to reference. An Overview of Sex Addiction | Psych Central
 
.
Yeah man I went to one of those anonymous meeting to pick up one of my friends who was kind of an alchoholic so I sat down and there were few sex addicts there as well, at least two mentioned being depressed and seeking sexual gratification in order to not having to face their problems. The same way some may turn to drugs, sex it its own high (you know what I mean). Of course depression is not the only reason why some become sex addicts some for other reasons such as abuse in childhood etc but depressed people do get laid.

How idk man how hard is it to go to a bar and pick up a chick to take your mind of things, not hard really. Idk about the woman different woman go for hookups for different reasons examples being genuinely enjoying hooking up, liking the feeling of being wanted, depressed, etc.

Here is an article about what I was trying to reference. An Overview of Sex Addiction | Psych Central

I actually don't know how to reply to this. :undecided: Article is extreme and it left me quite speechless. Those are sickos, and i tend to steer clear of people that raise red flags in the weird and creepy department.
And generally, i don't like weaklings that search for an escape, because if you hang out with them, inevitably you'll have to listen to their wailing and crying when he or she hits a crisis.

I had a friend like that, dude sunk me in his troubles and problems in 5 minutes after meeting up, and they were pathetic troubles, like for example, he can't find a job, because the job schedule would interfere with his fitness. And when i suggested he drops fitness until he sorts out the mess he has caused with the lack of money (he was borrowing, lied to grandma in mid 20's to fund his protein diet and shakes and membership fee to fitness club) he said he cannot do that, he was fat in his youth, he will be fat again etc etc...
When suggested he take up a job as a bouncer, which would allow his fitness schedule to be uninterupted he said night time eating (fast food) would ruin him.
the interesting thing about this friend, he was a regular at one of the local dating sites, well it wasn't a true dating site, more like a "find a fuck buddy", which he mentioned he uses often to get laid. So in essence, he could be a person from that article.
but, i once saw what kind of a woman came to his apartment when i was leaving and she fell directly in the desperate, disillusioned category.
So, it was.... fucked up finds fucked up and they have "fun".

Maybe in regards to being easy to pick a girl up, you need to know there are just one or two types you can take home so easy, the goldigging whores (or just whores by nature) and the desperate, disillusioned (husband cheats, doesn't understand, neglects her) ones.
The woman that is seeking a partner in my years (late 20's, early 30's) is actually looking for the father of her children and she wont put out so quickly without thorough checks and vetting. I doubt it's any different in the US.

It's totally different ball game then when i was in my late teens, early 20's, we were all high/drunk or just full of youthful spirit, libido's running wild, everyone wanted to try out new frontiers, yes it's not hard.
 
.

Latest posts

Pakistan Defence Latest Posts

Back
Top Bottom