Blindly believing the local religious authority when he pumps you up full of hate.
Belief that once you marry someone, you own their body and feelings.
Neither is adviced by the religion you have genius rapists with no religion...who think they own everything esp in the sense of control of the mind! Then we have corrupt politicians who also think they own the law...
You disqalified religion, but sorry to say, it can all be traced to the Quran and the blind belief everything that was written a thousand years ago is still the best option today. Some universal truths, like be good to people ofcourse still are relevant, but there's not only good (benevolent) things written in there. And people believe it. They believe it even when literate and educated, because societal pressure prevents progression and herd instinct kicks in.
I beg to differ however since this thread is not about religion try taking it in a bigger point of view...A society well educated like the West still hasnt been able to get rid of say at least 50% of the crime...
And that pressure comes from vested interests, from religious authorities onwards. After all, no denomination likes to see it's faitful getting smart all of a sudden and questioning the very lines on which they based their "being well off".
You're stuck in the past, plain and simple. Renaissance needed. Badly.
This was even the pattern when Paganism was the "so called religion" or even when people believe everything was god or even when there were no god fearing people and they indulged in crap! Quit blaming religion like you have some phobia...this can be seen in every god damn society from past till present...This literally depicts men, power and society, thinking...Almost every religion tries to preach equality yet no one hears those words and when it is not found in society then everyone blames society!
It is rather funny how people pick up words out of religious books and try to fit them in a society that refuses or isnt even practicing the religion to begin with!
I will give you an example Quran says dont discriminate yet we have societies discriminating on basis of status, colour, class, caste and whatever they can categorize! Saying this was caused by religion is purely showing lack or even no grasp of understanding and this is exactly what
the local religious authority are doing and you are doing exactly the same only on the opposite end!
Our priorities can have good intentions, but we aren't really masters of our actions in an absolutist sense. A lot of external factors and actors influence our actions. However, we can always try our level best to stick to our ideals.
If you are not the master of your actions, who is?
A murderer may use a similar excuse after stabbing your family member, will you buy that excuse?
If external factors can influence you to the point that you cant distinguish good and bad how can society distinguish you from an mentally challenged man who would even touch shit coz he isnt right in the mind? Such a man really isnt master over his actions of if you have say muscular dystrophy and somehow managed to stab someone ...then we can say your actions really might not be yours, and external factors like lack of control on muscles led to the "accident"...
If external factors can influence you soo much that it can kill your will to do good, then you def have pathetic willpower!