What does that mean? Z.A. Bhutto wrote in The Myth of Independence that "mutual respect" required Pakistan conquer territory in what is now India - not just Kashmir. If that's what you mean, two thumbs down.
Mutual respect means just and simple mutual respect - It will up to you how you understand it, if it had some different meanings in English then I have to use my own language, which you may not understand.
So sure, you don't have any answer for that.
I can see that it can be frustrating to start building trust when a Samjhota or a Kargil erupts to prevent that very thing. That's probably because of the divide between the civilian and military governments in Pakistan (though Indian provocations can't be ruled out, I suppose). You just have to be persistent: once the civilian governments of Pakistan and India reach an accommodation their militaries will have to follow or stage coups.
If there is Siachin then Kargil is vice-versa (remember Kargil is not international border just LOC), things like that could erupt in future too, no one could guarantee that, until the full settlement of the problems. Remember Palestine Issue, I am sure it will never be settled as USA and Israel want to solve it on their terms which are unjustified and hence unacceptable to other party regardless of their miseries.
Same is going in Afghanistan, after 10 years of war US is back to square i.e. seeking negotiations with Taliban, which Taliban offered them 10 years before. US got its lesson and should realize that even the mightiest force on this earth can not coupe with the weakest force (in terms of weapons and resources); if it comes on principles and faith.
I remember the day, when Indian terrorist killed 68 Pakistanis in Samjhota Express bombing, even then Indian were amazingly fast on finger pointing to Pakistan which later proved otherwise. Such injustices will never bring stability to region - stability will only be visible when all parties will feel responsibility and will not start finger pointing just for timely face saving.