Why Wouldn’t I get Married?

[Mav3rick]

So its all about to maintain the superiority of man over nothing else be it hijab be it woman carreer everything has to be imposed by man or done by his permission.......

Actually NO! As per my understanding:

Allah has made the man responsible for his wife and his children (as well as parents but for the sake of this topic, we shall stick to wife and kids). The burden is on the man here to work and to provide for his family. Just as a Qazi (Judge) is responsible for justice, Khalifah (ruler) responsible for the welfare of his subjects, similarly the man is responsible for his wife and children.

The woman does not have to seek a career or a job unless she absolutely has to (for financial reasons) and then there are ways to do that. She can seek permission from the husband (if she has one else she must first try and find a reasonable man to marry and take care of her), this does not mean that the husband is her master but that the husband takes responsibility in front of Allah even for allowing her to work. Similarly, Hijaab is a binding from Allah and husband is responsible to ensure commitment.

I have been told that 4 women will drag a man to hell:

1) his mother,
2) his sister,
3) his wife and
4) his daughter

What that means is that the man is responsible for these women in his life, he has to ensure that these women follow the religion as laid down and any deviance will hold the man accountable as well. Basically, the man has been made responsible for a lot of things and is accountable and answerable for them all.

 

[Mav3rick]

People have some strange thoughts about marriage. For gods sake, have a life, travel, enjoy and when there is nothing else to do, get married. What's wrong with that? What about a career, a successful business, or simple living your OWN life!

Or go the Pakistani way:

Get married @ 23
Have a child @ 24
Stay with parents or very near to parents for the rest of your life.
By the time you are 40, double up and work even harder....

Tell me where is your life?

Pakistani definition of life:

4 - 16: Study study study...
17 - 22: Study study study...
23 - 50: Look after kids....
50 - 60: Look after grand kids...
60: Hey, guess what.... you're allowed to have a bit of fun till you die!

I guess different people had very different perceptions of life and fun!

To me, fun is my family, my wife, my kids, my parents and spending time with them all, fun is when we all go out together, be it a vacation away or a dinner night out.

 

[Mav3rick]

Guys keep it between us, but I'm 20 and I like older Women.

Who doesn't mate???

 

[Mav3rick]

Marriage?! An over-rated, archaic institution which works mostly for women and for man who are very 'traditional' or insecure. A woman gets the most out of a wedding. Please go to MGTow.com site to educate yourself.
If you are good looking (like me!) then women abound. And if you have a decent career then you can get laid with a different one very frequently.
Having said all this I'd say that I could be called 'Happily Married' for almost 10 years. And to a 'Gori'. A beautiful one. We have a trusting relationship where we don't screw around. And I have to make sure she doesn't become a typical American 'consumer' and piles up debt. But I have also told her that she is the last one to get my affection.

I am a happily married man. But I am secure in myself and confident enough to be happy when single.

And, oh, the secret to our happiness is not having kids. We don't want them leeches. I got myself 'fixed' about a year ago. I mean it.

Enjoy your lives. Don't think too much about religion, God, society and their dictates. Be kind to others. There is plenty of food to eat, plenty of water to drink, plenty of places to visit, plenty of people to meet. So don't corner yourself with a marriage and kids unless you are really ready.

There's a little bit of a problem with that.......the big 'IF'! and then there is hell to follow, literally!

 

[angeldust]

Who doesn't mate???

Older men.

 

[Dubious]

And I'm all for making houses and selling them to whosoever can afford them!

So you in constructing business or real estate?

 

[Dubious]

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Tell me about it!

 

[angeldust]

Did you guys notice someone missing?

There is a big *** post coming soon.

 

[Dubious]

He is talking what is written in the HOLY BOOK. You cannot pick n choose the orders of the BOOK as per your choice. Unfortunately, in other religions books are optional to follow but in is**m, it is compulsory. So there is no hope of reform as per the time's demand. You have to follow it even if it has some very bad teachings and which may have been implanted, but you cannot question those ugly lines and this is the irony of all the M**ims.

Whats with the ** fetish? Or by writing Islam and Muslim you somehow fear conversion ?

So there is no hope of reform as per the time's demand. You have to follow it even if it has some very bad teachings and which may have been implanted, but you cannot question those ugly lines and this is the irony of all the M**ims.

Wow and we have another EXPERT in Islam! From your no. of posts I see you are new...But no excuse to talk about something you know VERY VERY little to nothing about!

 

[Dubious]

Just heard they are blocking youtube completely.

No idea! I haven't been on you tube in a while!

 

[Mav3rick]

Lolz...Well, there is nothing that says younger guys can't go for older women...Prophet Muhammad and Sayiddina Khatijah is an example...

On that occasion, it was Hazrat Khatija who proposed to prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

 

[Hyperion]

Older men.

 

[Hyperion]

So you in constructing business or real estate?

Both.........

 

[Dubious]

Lady the Islam is clear when it comes to wife and husband overall husband is head of the family and women has to take the permission for major works now about a point which I said you thought she has to take permission on everything or do everything which husbands tells her to do so in this case no for example if a women doesn't feel cooking food husband should also care for her may be cook food for her or order from outside these things have to be by mutual understanding but on big issues right remains with the husband that is what Islam says

Thank you for finally acknowledging I am a woman!

I agree to a certain point that if we have a sole provider- the MAN then he has rights to know where his money is going and how it is being used...That is the case for EVERYONE...even for the west...If 1 is earning he/ she OF COURSE would like to know where the $$ is going...

And yes, a man should ALSO help in the household stuff...that is thawaab for him...UNLIKE Pakistani men who would die if they enter the kitchen (Not all but most!) OR the mother in law will start the drama that her son is in zulm! I am not sure how getting thawaab is zulm! THAT is not Islam, THAT is DESI mentality! So, these points also need to be addressed!

Furthermore, YOU should also acknowledge that a man can not come in the way of a woman for no reason. ESPECIALLY not due to EGOIST problems like if the woman earns more or has a better position...BECAUSE EGO is also not allowed in Islam...

Like if the man fears his wife will be the bread winner...and hence stops her from working is also not allowed...

As for not working with men is ridiculous! It is allowed to work with men, just keep your hijab on rest falls in place...I work with men and women and I have my hijab on both when I am in the field as well as in the lab! FREEDOM and Respect for women in general is OPENLY preached by Islam ! Yet, it is the west who practice this law more than the east!

 

[Hyperion]

On an average the guys generally go first.

What do you mean by men go first?