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Haq's Musings: Vrindavan: City of Widows Symbolizes Shameful Treatment of South Asian Women

Pakistani filmmaker Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy has earned two Oscars by bringing world's attention to women's abuse in Pakistan. She has shamed Pakistani politicians and society at large into a series of actions to put an end to violence against women. Alas, there appears to be little attention paid to women's abuse in Pakistan's neighbor India.

Widows of Vrindavan

Indian women's suffering begins at birth and continues through their entire lives. Girls are highly undervalued, there are 35 million fewer females than males, presumed dead, killed by midwife or parent or starved to death. Unltrasound technology is used mainly to find and destroy female fetuses.Ultrasound and abortion are available even in the smallest villages with no electricity or clean water.

The girls lucky enough not to be aborted face inequality and cruelty at every turn because of low social status of Indian women, according to SuperFreakonomics, a book by Steven D Levitt and Stephen J Dubner that documents status of women in India.

Vrindavan, also called the city of widows, is the most shameful symbol of women's suffering. Satti, the immolation of surviving widows on a husband's funeral pyre, may have been banned in India, but life for many widows in India is still tragic as they are shunned by their communities and abandoned by their families, even their own children, according to a recent Aljazeera report.

The widows often live in severe poverty and are ostracized by society due to various superstitions - even the shadow of a widow can wreak havoc and bring bad luck, many Indians believe. Lack of education and any source of income forces them to beg on streets and many turn to prostitution for survival, according to the report.

The last time the issue of abandoned and ostracized widows got much attention in India was in 2005 when a Deepa Mehta film "Water" was released. The film Water features Chuyia , a 7-year-old child bride, who 40-year-old husband dies. Chuyia's head s shaved and dressed in a coarse white sari. She is then taken to a Hindu temple to spend the rest of her life there. The film shows that several young widows are prostituted to clients to raise funds for the temple.

The irony is that the film Water's only acclaim came from audiences thousands of miles from India. Deepa Mehta was forced to finish making the film abroad after receiving death threats for "insulting" Hindu culture. It was nominated for an Academy award but it did not win. It, however, did win several other prestigious international awards.

More recently, Naatak, a Silicon Valley based theater company, did "Vrindavan" as a musical production. It takes a closer look at the politics and social ills behind the city of Vrindavan. It's directed by a Silicon Valley engineer Sujat Saraf who heads the theater company.

While all of South Asia needs to change the way women are treated, it's only Pakistanthat appears to be willing to confront the issues of gender bias. Similar courage is needed in all of South Asia, particularly India, to do more to alleviate the suffering of women.

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Haq's Musings: Vrindavan: City of Widows Symbolizes Shameful Treatment of South Asian Women
 
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Very true. In our culture there is no future for widows. Shameful. However, now in cities it is changing as more widowed women getting married. The problem here is the mindset of man and his family who don't even want to consider marrying widow woman.
 
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Very true. In our culture there is no future for widows. Shameful. However, now in cities it is changing as more widowed women getting married. The problem here is the mindset of man and his family who don't even want to consider marrying widow woman.
May be in old times, yet it is much better now a days.
Only some sick minded people suppress women still. By the way, if anybody wants comparison with pak, they must divide such numbers by population and then, they should also watch rate of improvement.
Number of India vs pak threads has reduced dramatically but I can't understand what India has taken of this poster that he creates long and long blogs on India. Sometimes, even defying facts.
From India's economic growth, development to superpower bid. I can unveil all truths here yet I know I won't be able to reveal on his blogs.

Don't take him seriously. :D
 
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Dont know from where the OP posts such messages, nobody lives a widowed life in seclusion nowadays.
Either they get married or live normal life in society.
 
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Very true. In our culture there is no future for widows. Shameful. However, now in cities it is changing as more widowed women getting married. The problem here is the mindset of man and his family who don't even want to consider marrying widow woman.

UTTER RUBBISH.

90% of the "widows" who used to live in Vrindavan were Brahmins. It is the widows themselves who did not want to get remarried due to their upbringing.

In all other castes widows get remarried if they are young enough. Among the lower castes, even if they do not get remarried, they work to earn their living. Not live in vrindavan shelters.

You are a classic example of a student of British History. If I were you, I would be more worried about YOUR mindset rather than the mindset of the rest of India.
 
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UTTER RUBBISH.

90% of the "widows" who used to live in Vrindavan were Brahmins. It is the widows themselves who did not want to get remarried due to their upbringing.

In all other castes widows get remarried if they are young enough. Among the lower castes, even if they do not get remarried, they work to earn their living. Not live in vrindavan shelters.

You are a classic example of a student of British History. If I were you, I would be more worried about YOUR mindset rather than the mindset of the rest of India.

If that is the case then very good. Rather than resorting to personal insults, I would suggest replying the original post with some articles supporting your claims?
 
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If that is the case then very good. Rather than resorting to personal insults, I would suggest replying the original post with some articles supporting your claims?

LOL... why ?

Its not my job to counter pakistani or British propaganda, but I do take it upon myself to roast those who fall of such propaganda and start parroting that view.

You are free to do your own research and find out the truth for yourself. Don't expect me to spoon feed you just because you are lazy and lack self respect and dignity.
 
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LOL... why ?

Its not my job to counter pakistani or British propaganda, but I do take it upon myself to roast those who fall of such propaganda and start parroting that view.

You are free to do your own research and find out the truth for yourself. Don't expect me to spoon feed you just because you are lazy and lack self respect and dignity.

Don't start to roast as it will give you banned from here in no time. Rather counter the argument with facts and figures. Once you give solid proof of what you saying, you roasted others in a good way :)
 
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Don't start to roast as it will give you banned from here in no time. Rather counter the argument with facts and figures. Once you give solid proof of what you saying, you roasted others in a good way :)

Unsolicited advice will be treated as worthless garbage.

I have no interest in countering pakistani propaganda and improving this site rating with my knowledge. I am only interested in the Indians who swallow that crap and try to lay it thick on other Indians.

There is no need to treat terrorists with respect. A shot in their head is what they deserve and it is what they should get.
 
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Very few widows or widowers get remarried in India whether upper caste or lower caste. There is no prohibition nor does the society frown on the practice, but people themselves do not generally get into remarriages out of wisdom or self reliance. There is a very small pool of unmarried people after a certain age unlike in the rest of the world where divorce rates are at 50% and literally half the country is unmarried or divorced. This is not the case in India and hence remarriage here does not have that high a probability.

Most widows or widowers continue to stay on with their families. The case of widows in Vrindavan are of those who have been abandoned by their families due to poor relations or some other reason. They are barely in a few thousands, or hundreds. Women make up 600+ million of our population, considering these few thousand old widowed women representative of women's plight in India is disingenuous.
 
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Very few widows or widowers get remarried in India whether upper caste or lower caste. There is no prohibition nor does the society frown on the practice, but people themselves do not generally get into remarriages out of wisdom or self reliance. There is a very small pool of unmarried people after a certain age unlike in the rest of the world where divorce rates are at 50% and literally half the country is unmarried or divorced. This is not the case in India and hence remarriage here does not have that high a probability.

Most widows or widowers continue to stay on with their families. The case of widows in Vrindavan are of those who have been abandoned by their families due to poor relations or some other reason. They are barely in a few thousands, or hundreds. Women make up 600+ million of our population, considering these few thousand old widowed women representative of women's plight in India is disingenuous.

Not strictly true. Far greater number of young widows get remarried in rural India. In urban centres you will find zero stigma to remarriage via divorce or widower.

Just visit second-shadi com and see the number of widows who have registered for remarriage.

I had a close family friend who's husband died and she remarried and she had a daughter from the first marriage (this happened 16 years back).

Of course AGE is the primary criteria for remarriage. You have to be widowed at a really young age to seriously consider remarriage. In today's times, most empowered widows find it better to remain unmarried.

Only the really really desperate end up in Vrindavan or Varanasi.
 
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Not strictly true. Far greater number of young widows get remarried in rural India. In urban centres you will find zero stigma to remarriage via divorce or widower.

Just visit second-shadi com and see the number of widows who have registered for remarriage.

I had a close family friend who's husband died and she remarried and she had a daughter from the first marriage (this happened 16 years back).

Of course AGE is the primary criteria for remarriage. You have to be widowed at a really young age to seriously consider remarriage. In today's times, most empowered widows find it better to remain unmarried.

Only the really really desperate end up in Vrindavan or Varanasi.

That is exactly what I said. It is a very small percentage, minuscule really, of the overall widows or widowers who get remarried. Does not matter rural or urban India. Very few get widowed at so young an age like the example you have given. Even my mom's cousin sister who had been widowed very young got remarried, this was in 1970s, but she is the only one I know of among so many widows who got remarried. As you said, most widows are working women in India and choose to not get remarried. This is true for widowers too.
 
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Unsolicited advice will be treated as worthless garbage.

I have no interest in countering pakistani propaganda and improving this site rating with my knowledge. I am only interested in the Indians who swallow that crap and try to lay it thick on other Indians.

There is no need to treat terrorists with respect. A shot in their head is what they deserve and it is what they should get.

Wow. You seems to be all worked up. Suit yourself and enjoy the stay :)
 
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