Zizou
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Well guys....i haev not recovered from the last relationship, it`s been 5 years...i dont know how to deal with it anymore but rather learned to live with it....you know
I was supposed to be engaged with this girl but too many tragedies occured in our path that rather strengthened our relationship in short period ...but for the worse later. first it was her parents divorce that literally crippled her family, and then a car accident in my family... and then my older sibs weddings and then mine all delayed and pretty much ruined our prospects
It was love at first sight. Not only from my side but also from her side the moment she stepped in our house in Canada. She totally blew away my mind the first time i saw her enter my house. Her family had recently moved into our neighbourhood and my mom invited her over for chai. I was barely 20 at the time and she was 17. It was not just an emotional physical attraction love-at-first-sight sorta thing, but one of mutual honesty and respect. I found tremendous respect for her within me blc she was not just an avg girl, she was very traditional and conservative in her appearance and attitude. She had honour and haya in her eyes that you rarely see in girls of today. Also unlike other girls, she is a beauty with brains, i was amazed that she knew so much about our religion and culture, and the fact that she could reason and argue on issues beyond her age, all made me respect her even more.
And a few conversations with her over the net, we were totally in love with each other. We both could not express it out of modestly or don`t know what, but later when i confessed, she shared her feelings, and replied in positive. and every time we met in family gatherings, her sparkalking eyes were a testimony to our true love.
Because of our love and respect for each other, we both grew intellectually and spiritually. she had embraced the hijab and i had grown the beard. We stopped our online conversations out of respect for religion. But in the meantime our love grew much stronger. infact the religious phase served as a catalyst to the love.
I have never touched this woman, we have never been in a physical one. this was true love. and honestly I don`t think true love exists anymore, all i see around is physical and emotional relationships. There's no respect for women in the hearts of contemporary men, and also women have completely lost respect for men.
But recently the last standing pillar of hope has fallen. There`s a less than 1 % chance ...and we have stopped talking as both of our families have stopped talking. the fact that she belongs to a divorced family and my parents can never get past that. they have some legitimate reasons, but how can you blame the child? My dad blames her crazy mom for the divorce, and reasons that girls usualy end up becoming like their mothers. Although i disagree with him but now my mom has also rejected her due to similar reasons.
I can't stop thinking about this girl and its been years. I'm sure she hasn't stopped thinking abotu me either. We still talk once in a while. but thats about it.
It's true love b/c she has not betrayed my trust and neither have i betrayed her trust. She has never looked at other men or dated even and neither have i. We're still both single. And honestly no idea how we could work things out without pissing off both of our families.
Very few people get a sense of true love in today's time.
Today's bf/gf relationships are animal like behaviourial bonds that lack depth and quality.. forget love.
Real Love is a sacred trust. If you truly love someone, Do not break it.
Sorry for boring you guys with my 18th century style love story haha
Sooooo Refreshing and touching .... Thank you yaar for sharing ... May Allah bless you both .... That is what true love really is ..... soo glad to hear it still exists .... though very rare but im sure it still exists in every corner of the world .... if the sky has not exploded and earth has not blown up herself is because people like 2 of you still exist ....
Coming to your story ... If both of you are single than of course there is hope .... There must be someone in her family or your family who is in support of this marriage ??? .... any talk of her marriage somewhere else ??? i guess she is living with her mom .... is there anyone who can act as a messenger between you 2 ??? ... ur or her younger sis perhaps ... you may think it is wrong but unless you both know what is happening on the other side, it is impossible to take a step forward .... without talking, all you can do is hope .... In any case, i would advise you not to give up and delay any talk of your own marriage with someone else for as long as she is single ....
Your love is pure and spiritual .... im very sure that if she is the right girl for you, Allah will reward you both for your patience and even if she is not, there is a reason for that which may be difficult to understand at first but with time you will understand .... May Allah bless you both .... Ameen
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