9/11 Victims' Families Have Mixed Reactions to Ground Zero Muslim Center
(Aug. 4) -- The proposed Muslim community center at ground zero is a "slap in the face," says the sister of a New York City firefighter who died on 9/11. But a New Jersey man whose son perished in the attacks is torn between his wish to help build a "better world" and his fears that the project will only spark more anger and suffering.
Families who lost loved ones when hijacked planes slammed into the World Trade Center towers on Sept. 11, 2001, were wrestling with their feelings today, a day after the controversial Islamic center cleared a critical hurdle.
The project's fiercest critics argued that the center would be an insult to those who died at the hands of Muslim extremists.
But Herb Ouida, whose son Todd died in the attacks, says he supports the Cordoba Initiative's project.
"To call it a mosque is not right. It's a community center that includes a prayer center," Ouida told AOL News today.
The 68-year-old father from River Edge, N.J., says he is deeply concerned about the tone of some of the opposition to the project.
"What we are doing [when we oppose the community center] is we are saying to the world that we are at war with Islam. And we can't be. I want my grandchildren to live in a better world," he said.
"To say that we're going to condemn a religion and castigate a billion people in the world because they're Muslims, to say that they shouldn't have the ability to pray near the World Trade Center -- I don't think that's going to bring people together and cross the divide."
But Ouida, who along with his wife started a foundation to help fight childhood anxiety, a condition Todd struggled to overcome as a boy, said he understood the grief victims' families are still going through.
"Pain just sometimes causes you to lash out," he said. "And I know is that there's a lot of pain."
Nancy Nee of Long Island, N.Y., wants Muslims to be able to build a community center -- just not so close to ground zero, where her brother, 35-year-old firefighter George Cain, died 10 years ago.
"We're upset," Nee, 48, told AOL News today in a phone interview. "Not at the fact that Muslims have a right to practice their religion here ... we're not like that. But I feel that it's a slap in the face to put it close to ground zero."
Nee said the building's size, as well as its location, was a problem. "It's a 13-story building that will tower over the other buildings," she said. "It's almost like a trophy. The whole thing just reeks of arrogance at this point."
On 9/11, Marvin Bethea rushed to the World Trade Center to try to save lives, and has had trouble breathing ever since. The former Emergency Medical Services worker says he had to retire in 2004 when the breathing problems he acquired from toxic materials at the site made it too hard for him to work. But Bethea said he supports the Islamic center anyway.
"Even though my life has changed, I don't hate the Muslims," Bethea, 50, said. "Especially being a black man, I know what it's like to be discriminated against. I've lived with that."
Bethea believes racism is stoking the controversy.
"I understand the families are hurt and lost," he said. But "how do you sit here and condemn all Muslims as being terrorists?" he said. "That's just bigotry and hatred. We're a better nation than that. The diversity that we have, this is what New York is about. But we have such prejudices, some of us. We have a long way to go."
New Jersey resident Barry Zelman says it's inappropriate to have an Islamic center just steps from ground zero.
"We can say all Muslims did not do this, which is true. But they [terrorists] did it in the name of that religion. That was a primary underlying rationale for what they did," he said.
Zelman, 56, lost his brother Kenneth in the attacks and doesn't like the symbolism of the proposed community center. "You wouldn't have a German cultural center on top of a death camp," he said.
Jack Delaney, former director of EMS for New York Presbyterian Hospital, lost two of his men on Sept. 11 and remains permanently disabled because of an injury he sustained from falling debris at the World Trade Center site.
"You could say that I'm sensitive to some of these issues," Delaney, 53, said in a phone interview.
Delaney says he has no problem with Islam, but can't understand why the group sponsoring the center isn't being more sensitive to the wishes of the victims' families and survivors.
"If they truly are concerned about reaching out to the American people, I don't understand why they need to build a cultural center there," he said. "They realize that it's a raw nerve. And ... that makes me question why they actually want to build this mosque where they want to build it."
Charles Wolf of New York City lost his wife, Katherine, in the attacks. "She was a wonderful girl," said Wolf, 56.
He said he supports the Muslim community center "100 percent."
"I'm not going to brand any group for the actions of a few of the fringe," Wolf said. "The fact that the extremists who did this to us have now moved us in this direction through our fear and hatred, to be exactly like them ... it will come back to haunt us."
He accused certain politicians, like former New York City Mayor Rudy Giuliani, of using the controversy over the community center to "foster a public backlash against Muslims." Giuliani called the project "a desecration" on the conservative Jeff Katz radio show this week.
Wolf thinks that sentiment is wrong, and said Americans can't support the rights of certain groups over others.
"This country was founded on the principles of religious freedom for all," he said. "Are we doing to start denying that to people? If we start doing that we start dismantling the values this country was founded upon."