Here pakistan first move to escort crew not respected by chinese official.So how come it was either partner opinion ! They have to handle the situation carefully, allow for a limited observation of fighter jet.
The PAF official brought the gentleman casually, it was not an official thing, so if our partner did not like it there was no point in making it a matter of ego.
'Haunting' is not the word to be used. In fact we are 'Amused' by the treatment of Chinese towards fellow partner and few years down the lane we might be 'Delighted' if they start treating you like Uncle Sam does.
First comes denial. Try taking anti-depressant. But with this level of envious depression, I am not sure it will help.