In Islam, the wife must respect her husband's call for intercourse...just like how the husband must pay for all the wife's expenses and that she's treated well emotionally, financially, etc. If he allows the wife to work, then she's entitled to 100% of her earnings as well as those of her husband.
However, the husband cannot make the wife's life a living hell: He isn't allowed to abuse or exploit her, and when it comes to intimacy, it is his duty to ensure that she is on board. If the situation is such that the wife cannot muster the desire to have intercourse with the husband, then there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with that marriage and needs to be addressed - i.e. the issue isn't just sex. The Prophet (saw) dissolved a relationship because the woman was no longer attracted to the man.
The ahadith are clear cut, but they need to be taken collectively with all issues considered. Problem is that people like only one aspect of Islam (man wanting sex from his wife), but conveniently forget about treating her well in all regards and ensuring she's attracted to him.