1. Yes it is not part of Pakistan officially, but it is ruled from Islamabad officially and unofficially. and what do you think about GB, are they part of Pakistan or not? If yes, then how could you cede a part of that to China, without asking from Kashmiri people.
2. Article 370 is the only thing that is stopping India to completely own Kashmir with pro-Indian populace just like Tibet in PRC with help of Han Chinese. So your argument is invalid. It stops people of other parts from India to buy properties in Kashmir, think what would happen if the article was not their. Pro-Indians would reside their and your so called support to secession would go in vane. Do not worry anyway, People here are discussing about that and you may soon see the end of that article.
3. IA is there to maintain sovereignty and stop terrorism. Your so called 7mil troops of IA in region did not exist before 1989, ever wondered why? Because that is the time when insurgency and terrorism started. If India had to suppress people of Kashmir, India would have long before send troops. So no, People are not oppressed with IA, they are brainwashed by Islamist extremist to raise their voice against Indian administration, and that too are handful of people so this argument does not stand ground too.
4. Your arguement of festival bans through curfews, can you prove it with any neutral and credible source. And please do not show me anything which shows only one religious pov.
If you are satisfied, Please answer my concerns now.