Before I say anything I would like to request Members here to please refer us as Afghans or Afghanistani's as Afghani is the Afghan (money) currency and I don't think anyone here would like it either if I refer them as their country's currency.
First of all the, the Pakistani government should stop blaming other countries for everything and accept their own shortcomings. It's Zardari himself who travels around to collect money for the displaced people in NWFP, but where is the money? It's obvious Zardari takes the money to himself and surely he might have some kind of involvement in all this trouble in Pakistan as well. When Swat people got displaced then none more than Afghans back home felt angry and bad for the situation because Afghans themselves were living under Taliban regime for nearly a decade, they ain't that stone hearted to wish the same misery for anyone else. Plus look at the situation Afghanistan is in, where they need every penny they got to rebuild their country and every weapon they got to protect their country. You really think for Afghans and Afghanistan it's more important to destabilize other countries instead of stabilizing their own country? Think again.
I have met many Pakistani's who said Afghanistan and India were only friends so they can destabilize Pakistan. Then first of all, Afghanistan has got better things to do than destabilize other countries because our own country is in a mess. Secondly, India-Afghan friendship is nearly an century old, when Pakistan wasn't independent yet. Today India is doing a lot in Afghanistan and have helped Afghanistan on educational level plus with computer work, so that Afghans in Afghanistan can bring forward technical work and they wouldn't need foreigners for that. One the Pakistani's even said Pakistan did Afghanistan a favour by sending Taliban as they beat Russians, while it was Mujahideen who beat the Russians. Not Taliban. Plus just like Kashmiri's love both side of Kashmir as both parts are their home, exactly like that Afghans love and live in Peshawar because before Pakistan's independence Peshawar was with Afghanistan.
Afghanistan won't benefit from any disaster from it's neighbouring countries, because even today Baitullah Mehsud is sheltering Afghan orphaned kids in Waziristan and training them as Jihadi's. It's only Afghanistan's loss if Pakistan get's destabilized because Afghanistan will lose only more lives like that. And after three decades of war Afghans want peace and that can only happen if Afghan lives get saved, not Pakistani lives get taken. No Afghan hates Pakistan as an nation or Pakistani people, but their issue is with the Pakistani government which is even deceiving Pakistani people today. Afghanistan is a country with thousands of years of history and no country till the day of today has managed to occupy it, and therefore some countries might try anyway to occupy the country now, if not in the past. So I would just like to request you guys to please take a look at Afghanistan's situation first and then blame us for whatever, because Afghanistan is right now fighting for peace. Not more war and more enmity.
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"First of all the, the Pakistani government should stop blaming other countries for everything and accept their own shortcomings. "
It is a little hard to simply forget history - Afghanistan refused to accept Pakistan at independence, subsequently supported failed separatist movements in both Baluchistan and FATA/NWFP, and carried out terrorist attacks in Pakistani cities.
In addition, many key posts in the Afghan government after the US invasion (intelligence, defence, interior) have ben in the hands of Northern Alliance warlords or their cronies, and while the Taliban were bad, the NA were no saints either and received plenty of assistance from India, among other countries. So there are valid reasons to be vary of Afghanistan, and especially the Afghan-India nexus.
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"It's Zardari himself who travels around to collect money for the displaced people in NWFP, but where is the money? It's obvious Zardari takes the money to himself and surely he might have some kind of involvement in all this trouble in Pakistan as well. "
How do you know Zardari is taking the money for himself? Certainly there will be corruption and mismanagement in a relief effort of this size in a developing country, but your accusation is unsubstantiated and in bad taste.
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"You really think for Afghans and Afghanistan it's more important to destabilize other countries instead of stabilizing their own country?''
I'll believe that when the GoA officially and formally accepts the Durand as the international border between Pakistan and Afghanistan.
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"Secondly, India-Afghan friendship is nearly an century old, when Pakistan wasn't independent yet."
India was not independent before 1947 either (1947 is the year of their independence as well), so how could Afghanistan have a relationship going back hundreds of years with a country that did not exist then?
You had a relationship with the British colony of India, and that realtionship included the people and territories that comprise Pakistan and the modern Indian nation state.
Pakistanis did not sprout out of the earth on the 14th of August 1947, our ancestors have inhabited these lands going back thousands of years to the Mehrgarh, Indus and Gandhara civilizations - some of which also overlapped significant parts of Afghanistan. And the people of what are today Afghanistan and Pakistan have had cultural, civilizational and trade relationships for thousands of years, and even been part of the same empires at times.
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"Plus just like Kashmiri's love both side of Kashmir as both parts are their home, exactly like that Afghans love and live in Peshawar because before Pakistan's independence Peshawar was with Afghanistan."
Peshawar, the NWFP and FATA were not part of Afghanistan before Pakistan's independence, they were a part of British India, under the Durand agreement. Afghanistan had officially agreed to forsake any and all claims to that territory under that agreement.
All that said, I appreciate your sentiments for peace and friendship between Afghanistan and Pakistan, and believe they are sincere. The hostility that many/some Pakistanis display towards Afghanistan is a result of the issues I mentioned, and the GoA accepting the finality of the Durand would go a long way in alleviating the suspicions harbored by Pakistanis with regards to Afghan intentions towards Pakistan.
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