married yes, flirting sali no but teasing (non sexual) in the acceptable social confines yes.
re marriage, its a social contract or a gagging order IMO. I accept polygamous relationship as a genetic reality but engaging in such practice has financial and social consequences not in negative way but in terms of responsibilities.
we joke about Arabs having multiple wives but I was classed by a senior relative of mine who told me that it has a very valid and respectful/ justified reason. those marriages are done to protect the family and bring the women belonging to family and friends under protection who otherwise maybe struggling to find a partner and their biological clock is ticking.
on a sobering note I am attending a wedding of a family friends's son but his older sister is still unmarried, she is well educated hails from a respectable middle class family and has no physical reasons that she has not found a mate yet and this is depressing , if you see around you see family members who are graying their hair in the wait of marriage proposal. sorry this is a totally different subject
interesting
i will look it up
you stalked abt doing second marriages for the sake of protecting family women, then that wont be marriage that will be more like doing charity. Marriage is not meant to be a charity project. also what kind of charity will it be when for the sake of helping another woman ( who knows she will be happy with u or not) u will be destroying ur marital life with forst wife and kids.
Also the way men cheat on their wives in our society if wives start reciprocating it then what will husbands do?
Lastly, from my understanding one of the reasons u will find women in our society unmarried is because unfortunately in our part of world even a divorced and widowed man wants an untouched pure young woman as a wife, plus the brainwashing they get from their mothers. If these guys would marry divorced, widowed or unmarried women in their own age groups you wont find many educated ,beautiful woman left unmarried.
Its a hobby to criticize west but if we look at west and the arabs of pre islam and early islam period these people would not care much about womens ages and previous marital statuses.
I really like the fact that when westerners marry then dont try digging out partners past that how many women a guy had slept with or how many men a woman got laid with. Yes post marriage loyalty is of utmost importance,
Our society is very sick and ancient. Even pre islam arabs werent as backward thinkers as people do now.
As of arabs of this age doing multiple marriages, thats not healthy , i mean what good it gives to ur kids? unless they have shortage of arab men , even in that scenario their women can marry muslim men outside of their ethnic groups. Educate women, allow them freedom to live their lives on their own terms, much of the matchmaking issues will be sorted imo.
Flirting with your Sali is very common in Pak.
Even the Sali tries to accept Chullbuli and holds the opportunity pretty well. Muft men koi kuch chorta hai kya yahan?
Lmao @ sali tries to accept favors. I wanted to write abt it too many salis happily accepting bils thark advances n enjoying following perks but then on a second thought bailed out.
