The problem is we feel offended because we have ego problem. When someone check us thoroughly we think he is insulting me. The way we look at it is a problem. If you look at it thinking, he is doing a good job making sure we all are safe, we will be fine. That guy who is checking you does not know who you are and what your intentions are, I appreciate US for not being VIP centric as we are. We want VIP treatment, I read in the newspaper that there is no protocol to bypass a diplomat. Why we want such treatment, only for ego problem? What is wrong in following a security procedure?
I was given pat down in US and the guy who checked as me, do you know why I am doing. I replied, yes just to make our journey safe. I was happy he was doing it and felt safe travelling. I had no ego issue because I did not took it negatively.
That is where the problem lie, same incidence can impact you differently if you think different way. I think she took it as an insult on her, that is why she felt that way.