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I have studied this topic for over 5 years now and here's what I learned that I believe are the most important factors for spotting a liar.
1. The three emotions Liars feel during a lie is either, (1) Guilt, (2) Fear, (3) Duping Delight. Experienced liars do not feel guilt, nor do sociopaths and psychopaths, however they do feel fear and duping delight depending on how high the stakes are, if the stakes are low not really, but if high then they feel it.
2. Liars lie for 5 reasons, (1) To obtain advantage, (2) To avoid punishment, (3) social lies, (4) To avoid embarrassment, (5) To lie on behalf of others. Fun fact, women lie on behalf of others more than men. Ask yourself which motive the liar is pursuing and why, makes the lie detection easier.
3. There are 4 ways to lie, (1) Commission, to completely make up a story, (2) Omission, to leave some parts out, (3) Transference, to take someone else's story and make it yours, (4) Exaggeration, self explanatory. Out of the 4, Omission is the easiest, Commission is the hardest, Transference is easy if you really know the person, exaggeration is also easy if you are an extrovert. Fun fact, extroverts lie more than introverts, if the person is an extrovert, chances are he/she is a good liar.
4. Detecting lies, best way to detect lies is to be constantly aware and ask yourself if that person is telling a lie or not, over time you will become better at it, but that's only if you are willing to put in the effort and time, 3 years into it and I would say I am still a rookie at it. Also paying attention to verbal and non-verbal simultaneously helps, but just remember there is no such thing as Pinocchio nose, everyone exhibits these signs differently, culture and race mater. This is been proven from the books I've read (ask for more detail and I will direct)
TIPS: (1), when determining whether a person is lying or not be sure to consider all the available information, once you make a judgement that is it, any new information will be filtered into the already made judgement, thus making any new critical information useless. (2) Be suspicious, but do not show suspicion, once you show suspicion that person will have their guard up, and it could make the discovery of lies hard. (3) Although this is not proven, but in my experience liars tend to make more negative statements than positive ones, and either stay silent or give short answer or give too much of an answer, watch out for this, but don't take it for granted.
Books to read, Detecting lies and deceit by Aldert Vrij Volume 1 and 2. Lies Lies Lies the psychology of deceit by Charles V. Ford. How to spot a liar by Gregory Hartley.
1. The three emotions Liars feel during a lie is either, (1) Guilt, (2) Fear, (3) Duping Delight. Experienced liars do not feel guilt, nor do sociopaths and psychopaths, however they do feel fear and duping delight depending on how high the stakes are, if the stakes are low not really, but if high then they feel it.
2. Liars lie for 5 reasons, (1) To obtain advantage, (2) To avoid punishment, (3) social lies, (4) To avoid embarrassment, (5) To lie on behalf of others. Fun fact, women lie on behalf of others more than men. Ask yourself which motive the liar is pursuing and why, makes the lie detection easier.
3. There are 4 ways to lie, (1) Commission, to completely make up a story, (2) Omission, to leave some parts out, (3) Transference, to take someone else's story and make it yours, (4) Exaggeration, self explanatory. Out of the 4, Omission is the easiest, Commission is the hardest, Transference is easy if you really know the person, exaggeration is also easy if you are an extrovert. Fun fact, extroverts lie more than introverts, if the person is an extrovert, chances are he/she is a good liar.
4. Detecting lies, best way to detect lies is to be constantly aware and ask yourself if that person is telling a lie or not, over time you will become better at it, but that's only if you are willing to put in the effort and time, 3 years into it and I would say I am still a rookie at it. Also paying attention to verbal and non-verbal simultaneously helps, but just remember there is no such thing as Pinocchio nose, everyone exhibits these signs differently, culture and race mater. This is been proven from the books I've read (ask for more detail and I will direct)
TIPS: (1), when determining whether a person is lying or not be sure to consider all the available information, once you make a judgement that is it, any new information will be filtered into the already made judgement, thus making any new critical information useless. (2) Be suspicious, but do not show suspicion, once you show suspicion that person will have their guard up, and it could make the discovery of lies hard. (3) Although this is not proven, but in my experience liars tend to make more negative statements than positive ones, and either stay silent or give short answer or give too much of an answer, watch out for this, but don't take it for granted.
Books to read, Detecting lies and deceit by Aldert Vrij Volume 1 and 2. Lies Lies Lies the psychology of deceit by Charles V. Ford. How to spot a liar by Gregory Hartley.
