Help me a little regarding depression...

[Khafee]

@PaklovesTurkiye @MastanKhan

 

[British SAS]

@PaklovesTurkiye

Hey fella,

So I've taken the liberty to read through your post. Given that I work in the medical field (come across this almost on a daily basis), I have to say, it's very normal to experience a down patch, irrespective of age, sometimes our lifestyles can adversely affect our body, mind and soul. Pay attention, stress releases a very unwanted little devil known as cortisol (Branded as the stress hormone), which in turn contributes to an array of health issues and exacerbates them to a point of no return, sometimes- not always. Cortisol is what contributes to sudden weight gain, irregular blood pressure, cholesterol, depression, compromising your immune system and general wellbeing as a whole, yes you figured it- in many cases can trigger a heart attack!


But fear not, all is not lost the glass is always half- full, if it's not convince yourself it is. So without further ado; i will attempt to disseminate some sound advice, in a random order to help alleviate some of your concerns, reservations and reassure you, that everything will be okay. Because it will. At the end of the day, confidence is a mindset. It's contagious in a positive way- unlike it's very dark, sinister cousin, depression.

So here goes:

1) Right off the bat go see your doctor, GP whoever it is that you regularly visit. Get a health checkup just to be on the safe side, the thing is anxiety can contribute to high or unusual blood pressure, can exacerbate other underlying health issues and thus leading to wider implications. After you've determined you're not suffering from any underlying illnesses or diseases- you can then begin your journey in overcoming the common state of depression/anxiety. Remember it's all in the mind, what an exquisite thing the mind is, infinitely powerful, sometimes however it can turn against you, temporarily.

2) Secondly, exercise, there is no better way to release some
of that pent up negative energy and free the misery-laden soul of pessimism, than some regular good old exercise. It will not only improve your health, boost your immune system, but will go a long way in restoring your confidence and promoting a healthier state of mind. Exercise is key in most cases, just remember after a good hard graft in the gym, you'll be exhausted, which in turn means, less time to focus on negative stuff, you'll hit the hay and sleep like a newborn.

3) Diet, improve your diet. Here is another key point, drink water! Lots of it- not only will it rid the body of those nasty unwanted toxins but dehydration can also be a leading cause of depression. Water is what your body needs! Make it a habit to drink water frequently, throughout the day! But don't overdo it. Eat at fixed times and ON TIME! Don't attempt to eat meals late at night either. Which in turn may cause 'wind issues', IBS to say the least and that too can feel something like a heart attack. Coupled with anxiety you got yourself a large bowl of trouble. A big no no.

4) Your sleeping pattern- an irregular sleeping pattern can induce stress- further complicating your state of mind. Wake up on time, sleep on time, eat on time. You got the theme, some structure, order and discipline in your life.
It is then needless to say, lack of a quality sleep, is utterly undesirable as sleep regulates your body.

5) If your workload is excessive try to manage your time better, break it up. Don't do everything at once and put unnecessary pressure on thyself. Sometimes the cliche 'little and often' works a treat.. In addition, having a pal or two lend a much needed hand time to time never hurt anybody, unless of-course they have a rich history of offences and crimes against humanity, yes do laugh. It's a joke. I'm sure you hang with angelicesque folks. Make use of them.

6) Invest your time in a new hobby- no better way to distract yourself than discovering stuff that you may excel at and feed that hobby, tweak your skills; who knows where it could lead you. Honestly, the things you'll learn about yourself, when going out there and making the world your oyster. Because you have skills you don't even know about, you are unique, as everyone is (there are an abundance of motivational speeches on YouTube, which cover an array of issues/topics). All of this to say, uncover your vast potential and exploit it for the best. Psychology states be like the person you wish to be, the greater the disparity, the more confidence issues you'll likely have. Apparently 'self-actualisation' is a thing; being the best version of yourself is indispensable for self-esteem and inadvertently allowing one to be more content, if absolute happiness is indeed a folk-tale.

7) Quran. recite it, do what others have suggested and make a habit of reading those prayers (some members have even given exact phrases) used to heal oneself. Honestly there is no bigger blessing than the Holy Quran itself.

8) Take a break from the screen, it can cause all sorts of health issues. Frequently take breaks, if you must, take some time off from this forum too; given there's a ton of pugnacious, feisty little demons on here. Which may add to your own. Technology can work against you, everything in moderation amigo, everything in moderation.

9) Okay, yes a female. Nothing like a cuddle, which releases the feel good hormone OXYTOCIN produced by the Hypothalamus, but secreted by what's known as the Pituitary Gland, if indeed you're interested in scientific jargon. This hormone (oxytocin) is your best friend, it lowers cholesterol, blood pressure, promotes a healthier immune system and yes you guessed a healthy dose of oxytocin is a great way to ward off cortisol and in turn turning the ride against anxiety/depression. Would you have guessed it, a simple warm hug, priceless in it's right- can change your life around for the good. So my friend get out there and give those ladies something to think about, haha!

10) Don't feel sorry for yourself, it can become a vicisious cycle and can drive folks away from you, only creating more unwanted problems for you, as it may weaken your immediate support network. Instead, focus your efforts on a dose of positivity, constantly reminding yourself of all the things you've achieved over the years, and set new goals/aims to work towards. An empty mind (owing to excessive free time usually), is the devil's workshop!

P.S. Just some friendly advice, DO TURN to professionals and let them reinforce your to-do list.
I, along with our PDF friends wish you the very best of luck. Feel free to update us as you successfully negotiate these challenging times. Champions get up off the canvas!

Regards,

Folkhindus.

 

[Butchcassidy]

i can relate myself with this shit man.

9 years since i completed my board and i still get nightmares that i failed in maths exam

and you know failing in board exams is big. . .biiiigggg deal for North indian parents

maa baap khud se jyada society ke nam ka tana marte hain haha

but when i get up i realize that things arent that gloomy and i still have choice to change things the way i like.

you may start a little late but ultimately u 'll reach there.

Phir bhai pass ho gaya tha? Ya sapna sach tha ?

Go see a psychiatrist, might be some medical issue. Also get ur thyroid level checked.
And most importantly stop spending too much time here

 

[Piotr]

As some members already pointed out depression is often caused by nutritional deficiencies:

10 Nutritional Deficiencies That May Cause Depression
By Therese Borchard

I’m not sure why more psychiatrists don’t first test for nutritional deficiencies before dispensing Zoloft or Prozac, and especially antipsychotics like Seroquel and Zyprexa. The good ones will send you to get lab work done before upping your meds or adjusting anything. Sometimes we do need antidepressants. But other times we need spinach — think of Popeye.

In addition to seeing a psychiatrist regularly, I now work with an integrative health physician who tests my nutrition levels every year. If you haven’t ever tested your nutrition levels, you might inquire with either your psychiatrist or primary-care physician. The supplements can be expensive, but you can make it back two- or threefold by not having to see your psychiatrist as often. You should talk to your doctor before taking any supplements, especially if you’re on prescription drugs.

1. Omega-3 Fatty Acids
I was surprised when my results showed an omega-3 fatty acid deficiency because I eat plenty of salmon and take fish oil supplements every day. That shows you just how much fish — salmon, tuna, halibut — or flaxseeds and walnuts we need to consume to be at an optimal level. These essential minerals reduce inflammation and play a critical role in brain function, especially memory and mood. The body can’t make them, so you need to either eat them or take supplements. Omega-3 fatty acids are just one of the supplements I take every day for depression.

2. Vitamin D
According to Mark Hyman, MD, bestselling author of The Ultramind Solution, vitamin D deficiency is a major epidemic that doctors and public health officials are just beginning to recognize. This deficiency has been linked to depression, dementia, and autism. Most of our levels drop off during the fall and winter months, since sunlight is the richest source. Dr. Hyman believes that we should ideally be getting 5,000 to 10,000 IU (international units) a day.However, the National Institutes of Health (NIH) recommends most healthy adults get only about 600 IUs daily.

3. Magnesium
Chances are good that you are magnesium-deficient because up to half of Americans are. Our lifestyles decrease our levels: excess alcohol, salt, coffee, sugar, phosphoric acid (in soda), chronic stress, antibiotics, and diuretics (water pills). Magnesium is sometimes referred to as the stress antidote, the “most powerful relaxation mineral that exists,” according to Hyman. It is found in seaweed, greens, and beans. The NIH recommends a daily intake of about 400 to 420 milligrams (mg) of magnesium for adult men and 310 to 320 mg for adult women.

4. Vitamin B Complex
B vitamins like vitamin B-6 and vitamin B-12 can provide some incredible health benefits, including reduced stroke risk and healthy skin and nails. On the other hand, a vitamin B deficiency may impact your mental health. More than a quarter of severely depressed older women were deficient in B-12, according to one 2009 study.

The best sources of vitamin B-6 are poultry, seafood, bananas, and leafy green vegetables. For vitamin B-6, the NIH recommends a daily intake of 1.7 mg for adult men, and 1.5 mg for adult women. Vitamin B-12 is found in animal foods (meat, fish, poultry, eggs, and milk) and shellfish, such as clams, mussels, and crab. Most adults should need to consume 2.4 micrograms (mcg) of vitamin B-12 daily, according to the NIH.

5. Folate
People with a low folate level have only a 7 percent response to treatment with antidepressants. Those with high folate levels have a response of 44 percent, according to Hyman. That is why many psychiatrists are now prescribing a folate called Deplin to treat depression and improve the effectiveness of an antidepressant. I tried it and it didn’t seem to make that much of a difference; however, I have several friends who have had very positive responses to Deplin. You need not try the prescription form of Deplin. You could just start taking a folate supplement and see if you get any results. Your daily recommended folate intake depends on your gender, whether you’re pregnant or breastfeeding, and age. However, most adults need at least 400 mcg daily. You can also get your daily folate requirements by consuming foods high in folate, including dark leafy greens, beans and legumes, and citrus fruits and juices.

6. Amino Acids
Amino acids — the building blocks of protein — help your brain properly function. A deficiency in amino acids may cause you to feel sluggish, foggy, unfocused, and depressed. Good sources of amino acids include beef, eggs, fish, beans, seeds, and nuts.

7. Iron
Iron deficiency is pretty common in women. About 20 percent of women, and 50 percent of pregnant women, are in the club. Only three percent of men are iron deficient. The most common form of anemia — an insufficient number of red blood cells — is caused by iron deficiency. Its symptoms are similar to depression: fatigue, irritability, brain fog. Most adults should consume 8 to 18 mg of iron daily, depending on age, gender, and diet, according to the NIH. Good sources of iron include red meat, fish, and poultry. If you really want to get more red blood cells, eat liver. Yuck.

8. Zinc
Zinc is used by more enzymes (and we have over 300) than any other mineral. It is crucial to many of our systems. It activates our digestive enzymes so that we can break down our food, and works to prevent food allergies (which, in turn, averts depression in some people, since some of our mood disruptions are triggered by food allergies). It also helps our DNA to repair and produce proteins. Finally, zinc helps control inflammation and boosts our immune system. The NIH recommends a daily intake of 11 mg of zinc for adult men and 8 mg for adult women.

9. Iodine
Iodine deficiency can be a big problem because iodine is critical for the thyroid to work as it should, and the thyroid affects more than you think: your energy, metabolism, body temperature, growth, immune function, and brain performance (concentration, memory, and more). When it’s not functioning properly, you can feel very depressed, among other things. You can get iodine by using an iodine-enriched salt, or by eating dried seaweed, shrimp, or cod. I take a kelp supplement every morning because I have hypothyroidism. The daily recommend amount of iodine for most adults is about 150 mcg.

10. Selenium
Like iodine, selenium is important for good thyroid function. It assists the conversion of inactive thyroid hormone T4 to the active thyroid hormone, T3. It also helps one of our important antioxidants (glutathione peroxidase) keep polyunsaturated acids in our cell membranes from getting oxidized (rancid). Most adults need about 55 mcg of selenium daily. The best food source of selenium is Brazil nuts, which contains about 544 mcg of selenium per ounce.

Source: http://www.everydayhealth.com/colum...ional-deficiencies-that-may-cause-depression/

IMO you should consider getting hair analysis done so you would know if you have proper levels of magnesium, iron, zinc, iodine, selenium and some other minerals.

Stay strong and remember: You are what you eat.

BTW never ever eat "food" from USA, it will make you sick.

 

[Jungibaaz]

Hello..I am 24 years old. I have been suffering from depression/negative feelings/thoughts for quite long...I m so stressed now a days due to genuine feelings and vice versa. I feel my depression has started impacting on my body...I also feel little unusual in my heart whenever I am getting depressed/Tense, little pain also occurs in heart, may be because as my mind gets tense, it also negatively affects heart.

I gets tense too early and start worrying (feeling hopelessness) even on little issues...But now I think this problem is jeopardizing my health...

I need some tips/therapy/suggestions from you guys..How can I get rid of depression forever.

Thank you...

You did well to speak about it at least here if not elsewhere.

We all go through such periods. Don't worry too much, worrying and stressing does not help in anyway, except that it's destructive for your health and can exacerbate the problems which you were worried about in the first place.

If you don't mind me asking, what is causing you your stress? There's not much someone online may offer about dealing with the root of your stress, even less if we don't know what it is.

Otherwise, what I can recommend is ways of managing stress, depression, anxiety which I found helpful. Number one on my list for me was going to see your family. When away from family for too long, all these problems would be worse for me, this is probably because of our upbringing as desis. If you're too far from them, call them more, skype call them. If not, socialise more with your friends, do something off-schedule to clear your head.

In your spare time, do some exercise, it does wonders for stress. Try doing something else you find relaxing, something to distract you from your problems, for me this ranges from taking long walks for a few miles in a nice setting, or reading a book. If you're a spiritual man, remember God, he's bigger than all our troubles, pray and have faith, not only will it help you manage stress, it'll help you overcome the cause too God willing.

Also, regarding your health, don't worry too much, like I said, it doesn't help to worry. I'm sure you have nothing serious to worry about, your health concerns are likely acute and result from stress. Try to exercise, try to interact with others more, and get out of your house/workplace more often, we're humans and we aren't meant to be trapped in our surroundings for too long. Take it easy, and take on board the advice given here. And last of all, talk to people, it's good that you made this thread, if nothing else keep posting here and let us strangers know how you're getting along.

 

[Verve]

Hello..I am 24 years old. I have been suffering from depression/negative feelings/thoughts for quite long...I m so stressed now a days due to genuine feelings and vice versa. I feel my depression has started impacting on my body...I also feel little unusual in my heart whenever I am getting depressed/Tense, little pain also occurs in heart, may be because as my mind gets tense, it also negatively affects heart.

I gets tense too early and start worrying (feeling hopelessness) even on little issues...But now I think this problem is jeopardizing my health...

I need some tips/therapy/suggestions from you guys..How can I get rid of depression forever.

@Doordie @The Sandman @Zibago and all others

Thank you...

This could be clinical depression and in that case you will need to get the chemical balance right through anti-depressants (3 to 6 months course).

However, saying that I would encourage you to read translation of Quran! There is nothing more assuring and calming than Allah's words. A lot of little things that bother one, those are brushed aside easily after reading Allah's word. Reading just the translation does wonders.

Just remember, body is made of clay and all of body's requirements are from the clay as well. But Soul ... what is the source of Soul's food and energy?

Restlessness, anxiety and depression that one feels is due to a starving and upset soul. Feed your soul.

BTW, been there .... for years! Just don't let it get worse. Realisation is first and major step, and you are lucky you have achieved that already. Now is just the cure, the easy bit.

All the best.

 

[Indus Pakistan]

Exercise. Do it and it is the best 'feel good' for the mind. No medicine can match this. It involves giving some time during the day doing hard exercise. For young fellah like you weight lifting, swimming, running and some competitive sport should be in order. If a man is not employed in heavy manuel work like a builder then a demanding physical work out is a must. Don't do it and over time depending on your make up you will end up with deflated state of mind.

When you work hard your body gives of endorphins which give you a natural buzz and are a hedge against depression. I bet you don't do much physical work out for your age and all that surplus energy translates into creating deprssion. So my adice get out and do hard exercise. Whatever you choose try to push yourself to the limit. Watch how you will feel afterwards.

And don't forget you will have plenty of time to worry in your old age. As a young man go and bite life. Leave the moaning to older people.

 

[Verve]

Dear Marry a pious women soon as possible and inshallah she Wil change your luck.

I will second that. A pious wife can change ones life completely, for better ... but you have to get yourself to certain level as well to make her life a happy one too.

Don't go off the tracks imean GF or drinking. These things feels right in starting but nothing but regret.

These things will feed depression ... short-term gratifications like these almost always backfire horribly!

--------------------------------


Another thing that I've found to work so well ...

Analyse every thought of yours ... and classify it a positive thought or a negative thought!

If you consider it to be a negative thought, brush it aside. If it persists, and you can't stop thinking about it, speak up and say 'I do not want to think about this' and quickly change focus to something else (even getting up to get a glass of water will work).

What is positive and what is negative? Quran will guide you! Recognise the difference between the two voices inside you, one will lead to a negative action and the other to a positive action. Reject the one that leads to a negative action/result - btw, that's the voice of the Satan dedicated and born with you!

Now to get a little science in the mix ...

You need to rewire your brain by removing negative thoughts and actions! Brain builds bridges because it likes to be efficient, in order to repeat something fast and without much effort.

For example: If you hang around a company that uses the F word in every other sentence, your brain is registering that input every single time. The moment you replicate such action (first time you will force your brain to perform that action), your brain will make a permanent bridge to repeat that action easily next time. Before you know it, you are using the F word in every other sentence as well.

This is the effect of negativity on your brain. And then comes depression! Negativity breeds only negativity and too much negativity gives birth to depression.

Get off the forum if reading certain type of news/discussions upset or wind you up. Kill all activities that have a negative impact on you. It is not hard to be positive, especially this way. Think and evaluate your thoughts!

 

[django]

@PaklovesTurkiye

Hey fella,

So I've taken the liberty to read through your post. Given that I work in the medical field (come across this almost on a daily basis), I have to say, it's very normal to experience a down patch, irrespective of age, sometimes our lifestyles can adversely affect our body, mind and soul. Pay attention, stress releases a very unwanted little devil known as cortisol (Branded as the stress hormone), which in turn contributes to an array of health issues and exacerbates them to a point of no return, sometimes- not always. Cortisol is what contributes to sudden weight gain, irregular blood pressure, cholesterol, depression, compromising your immune system and general wellbeing as a whole, yes you figured it- in many cases can trigger a heart attack!


But fear not, all is not lost the glass is always half- full, if it's not convince yourself it is. So without further ado; i will attempt to disseminate some sound advice, in a random order to help alleviate some of your concerns, reservations and reassure you, that everything will be okay. Because it will. At the end of the day, confidence is a mindset. It's contagious in a positive way- unlike it's very dark, sinister cousin, depression.

So here goes:

1) Right off the bat go see your doctor, GP whoever it is that you regularly visit. Get a health checkup just to be on the safe side, the thing is anxiety can contribute to high or unusual blood pressure, can exacerbate other underlying health issues and thus leading to wider implications. After you've determined you're not suffering from any underlying illnesses or diseases- you can then begin your journey in overcoming the common state of depression/anxiety. Remember it's all in the mind, what an exquisite thing the mind is, infinitely powerful, sometimes however it can turn against you, temporarily.

2) Secondly, exercise, there is no better way to release some
of that pent up negative energy and free the misery-laden soul of pessimism, than some regular good old exercise. It will not only improve your health, boost your immune system, but will go a long way in restoring your confidence and promoting a healthier state of mind. Exercise is key in most cases, just remember after a good hard graft in the gym, you'll be exhausted, which in turn means, less time to focus on negative stuff, you'll hit the hay and sleep like a newborn.

3) Diet, improve your diet. Here is another key point, drink water! Lots of it- not only will it rid the body of those nasty unwanted toxins but dehydration can also be a leading cause of depression. Water is what your body needs! Make it a habit to drink water frequently, throughout the day! But don't overdo it. Eat at fixed times and ON TIME! Don't attempt to eat meals late at night either. Which in turn may cause 'wind issues', IBS to say the least and that too can feel something like a heart attack. Coupled with anxiety you got yourself a large bowl of trouble. A big no no.

4) Your sleeping pattern- an irregular sleeping pattern can induce stress- further complicating your state of mind. Wake up on time, sleep on time, eat on time. You got the theme, some structure, order and discipline in your life.
It is then needless to say, lack of a quality sleep, is utterly undesirable as sleep regulates your body.

5) If your workload is excessive try to manage your time better, break it up. Don't do everything at once and put unnecessary pressure on thyself. Sometimes the cliche 'little and often' works a treat.. In addition, having a pal or two lend a much needed hand time to time never hurt anybody, unless of-course they have a rich history of offences and crimes against humanity, yes do laugh. It's a joke. I'm sure you hang with angelicesque folks. Make use of them.

6) Invest your time in a new hobby- no better way to distract yourself than discovering stuff that you may excel at and feed that hobby, tweak your skills; who knows where it could lead you. Honestly, the things you'll learn about yourself, when going out there and making the world your oyster. Because you have skills you don't even know about, you are unique, as everyone is (there are an abundance of motivational speeches on YouTube, which cover an array of issues/topics). All of this to say, uncover your vast potential and exploit it for the best. Psychology states be like the person you wish to be, the greater the disparity, the more confidence issues you'll likely have. Apparently 'self-actualisation' is a thing; being the best version of yourself is indispensable for self-esteem and inadvertently allowing one to be more content, if absoluate happiness is indeed a folk-tale.

7) Quran. recite it, do what others have suggested and make a habit of reading those prayers (some members have even given exact phrases) used to heal oneself. Honestly there is no bigger blessing than the Holy Quran itself.

8) Take a break from the screen, it can cause all sorts of health issues. Frequently take breaks, if you must, take some time off from this forum too; given there's a ton of pugnacious, feisty little demons on here. Which may add to your own. Technology can work against you, everything in moderation amigo, everything in moderation.

9) Okay, yes a female. Nothing like a cuddle, which releases the feel good hormone OXYTOCIN produced by the Hypothalamus, but secreted by what's known as the Pituitary Gland, if indeed you're interested in scientific jargon. This hormone (oxytocin) is your best friend, it lowers cholesterol, blood pressure, promotes a healthier immune system and yes you guessed a healthy dose of oxytocin is a great way to ward off cortisol and in turn turning the ride against anxiety/depression. Would you have guessed it, a simple warm hug, priceless in it's right- can change your life around for the good. So my friend get out there chap and give those ladies something to think about, haha!

10) Don't feel sorry for yourself, it can become a vicisious cycle and can drive folks away from you, only creating more unwanted problems for yourself. Instead, remind yourself of all the things you've achieved over the years, set new goals/aims to work towards. An empty mind (owing to excessive free time usually), is the devil's workshop!

P.S. Just some friendly advice, DO TURN to professionals and let them reinforce your to-do list.
I, along with our PDF friends wish you the very best of luck. Feel free to update us as you successfully negotiate these challenging times. Champions get up off the canvas!

Regards,

Folkhindus.

Excessive exposure to cortisol can lead to memory problems, some scientists are suggesting it may also impact working memory and it is well known prolonged exposure does damage to the Hippocampas, the frightening thing is the more cortisol you release, the more the brain gets hacked into thinking you need more and more, hence the brain part that manufactures cortisol gets larger, the result being a stressed out individual seems to get stressed out more and more even by the lamest of events.Kudos and fine informative post from yourself indeed friend.

 

[Safriz]

Get your Vitamin-D checked.
Lack of it causes Depression and many other problems.

 

[British SAS]

Excessive exposure to cortisol can lead to memory problems, some scientists are suggesting it may also impact working memory and it is well known prolonged exposure does damage to the Hippocampas, the frightening thing is the more cortisol you release, the more the brain gets hacked into thinking you need more and more, hence the brain part that manufactures cortisol gets larger, the result being a stressed out individual seems to get stressed out more and more even by the lamest of events.Kudos and fine informative post from yourself indeed friend.

Hey django. Appreciate your kind words.

Indeed the thing with stress is, once your body is used to producing cortisol, indeed your brain is then inclined to remain wired that way and a constant 'stream' of cortisol is no uncertain terms, a ruthless killer. In short, once you're suffering from depression and your body is in overdrive in producing those nasty harmful chemicals, it needs re-wiring, otherwise it's a slippery slope from there on out. Conversely, acknowledging a problem is the first step in the road to recovery. I think everyone will go through a phase of depression/anxiety (albeit mild or severe) at some point in time. In my view, 75% of life is sadness and 25% constitutes happiness. We aren't meant to be 'happy bunnies', until and unless we develop a healthy relation with our creator, understand our purpose and avoid a soul- breaking lifestyle.

 

[The SC]

Hello..I am 24 years old. I have been suffering from depression/negative feelings/thoughts for quite long...I m so stressed now a days due to genuine feelings and vice versa. I feel my depression has started impacting on my body...I also feel little unusual in my heart whenever I am getting depressed/Tense, little pain also occurs in heart, may be because as my mind gets tense, it also negatively affects heart.

I gets tense too early and start worrying (feeling hopelessness) even on little issues...But now I think this problem is jeopardizing my health...

I need some tips/therapy/suggestions from you guys..How can I get rid of depression forever.

@Doordie @The Sandman @Zibago and all others

Thank you...

Read Qoran loudly as to hear your own voice.. go for walks in nature or parks and meditate on its beauty and sounds.. you need nature's therapy, watch an entertaining movie, comedy/laughter is the best to alleviate your depression.. learn to relax, call friends to talk to, consult with a specialised doctor, and if nothing works go get a woman for yourself..

 

[Verve]

@PaklovesTurkiye

Hey fella,

So I've taken the liberty to read through your post. Given that I work in the medical field (come across this almost on a daily basis), I have to say, it's very normal to experience a down patch, irrespective of age, sometimes our lifestyles can adversely affect our body, mind and soul. Pay attention, stress releases a very unwanted little devil known as cortisol (Branded as the stress hormone), which in turn contributes to an array of health issues and exacerbates them to a point of no return, sometimes- not always. Cortisol is what contributes to sudden weight gain, irregular blood pressure, cholesterol, depression, compromising your immune system and general wellbeing as a whole, yes you figured it- in many cases can trigger a heart attack!


But fear not, all is not lost the glass is always half- full, if it's not convince yourself it is. So without further ado; i will attempt to disseminate some sound advice, in a random order to help alleviate some of your concerns, reservations and reassure you, that everything will be okay. Because it will. At the end of the day, confidence is a mindset. It's contagious in a positive way- unlike it's very dark, sinister cousin, depression.

So here goes:

1) Right off the bat go see your doctor, GP whoever it is that you regularly visit. Get a health checkup just to be on the safe side, the thing is anxiety can contribute to high or unusual blood pressure, can exacerbate other underlying health issues and thus leading to wider implications. After you've determined you're not suffering from any underlying illnesses or diseases- you can then begin your journey in overcoming the common state of depression/anxiety. Remember it's all in the mind, what an exquisite thing the mind is, infinitely powerful, sometimes however it can turn against you, temporarily.

2) Secondly, exercise, there is no better way to release some
of that pent up negative energy and free the misery-laden soul of pessimism, than some regular good old exercise. It will not only improve your health, boost your immune system, but will go a long way in restoring your confidence and promoting a healthier state of mind. Exercise is key in most cases, just remember after a good hard graft in the gym, you'll be exhausted, which in turn means, less time to focus on negative stuff, you'll hit the hay and sleep like a newborn.

3) Diet, improve your diet. Here is another key point, drink water! Lots of it- not only will it rid the body of those nasty unwanted toxins but dehydration can also be a leading cause of depression. Water is what your body needs! Make it a habit to drink water frequently, throughout the day! But don't overdo it. Eat at fixed times and ON TIME! Don't attempt to eat meals late at night either. Which in turn may cause 'wind issues', IBS to say the least and that too can feel something like a heart attack. Coupled with anxiety you got yourself a large bowl of trouble. A big no no.

4) Your sleeping pattern- an irregular sleeping pattern can induce stress- further complicating your state of mind. Wake up on time, sleep on time, eat on time. You got the theme, some structure, order and discipline in your life.
It is then needless to say, lack of a quality sleep, is utterly undesirable as sleep regulates your body.

5) If your workload is excessive try to manage your time better, break it up. Don't do everything at once and put unnecessary pressure on thyself. Sometimes the cliche 'little and often' works a treat.. In addition, having a pal or two lend a much needed hand time to time never hurt anybody, unless of-course they have a rich history of offences and crimes against humanity, yes do laugh. It's a joke. I'm sure you hang with angelicesque folks. Make use of them.

6) Invest your time in a new hobby- no better way to distract yourself than discovering stuff that you may excel at and feed that hobby, tweak your skills; who knows where it could lead you. Honestly, the things you'll learn about yourself, when going out there and making the world your oyster. Because you have skills you don't even know about, you are unique, as everyone is (there are an abundance of motivational speeches on YouTube, which cover an array of issues/topics). All of this to say, uncover your vast potential and exploit it for the best. Psychology states be like the person you wish to be, the greater the disparity, the more confidence issues you'll likely have. Apparently 'self-actualisation' is a thing; being the best version of yourself is indispensable for self-esteem and inadvertently allowing one to be more content, if absolute happiness is indeed a folk-tale.

7) Quran. recite it, do what others have suggested and make a habit of reading those prayers (some members have even given exact phrases) used to heal oneself. Honestly there is no bigger blessing than the Holy Quran itself.

8) Take a break from the screen, it can cause all sorts of health issues. Frequently take breaks, if you must, take some time off from this forum too; given there's a ton of pugnacious, feisty little demons on here. Which may add to your own. Technology can work against you, everything in moderation amigo, everything in moderation.

9) Okay, yes a female. Nothing like a cuddle, which releases the feel good hormone OXYTOCIN produced by the Hypothalamus, but secreted by what's known as the Pituitary Gland, if indeed you're interested in scientific jargon. This hormone (oxytocin) is your best friend, it lowers cholesterol, blood pressure, promotes a healthier immune system and yes you guessed a healthy dose of oxytocin is a great way to ward off cortisol and in turn turning the ride against anxiety/depression. Would you have guessed it, a simple warm hug, priceless in it's right- can change your life around for the good. So my friend get out there chap and give those ladies something to think about, haha!

10) Don't feel sorry for yourself, it can become a vicisious cycle and can drive folks away from you, only creating more unwanted problems for you, as it may weaken your immediate support network. Instead, focus your efforts on a dose of positivity, constantly reminding yourself of all the things you've achieved over the years, and set new goals/aims to work towards. An empty mind (owing to excessive free time usually), is the devil's workshop!

P.S. Just some friendly advice, DO TURN to professionals and let them reinforce your to-do list.
I, along with our PDF friends wish you the very best of luck. Feel free to update us as you successfully negotiate these challenging times. Champions get up off the canvas!

Regards,

Folkhindus.

Very well said Sir!

 

[WarFariX]

Hello..I am 24 years old. I have been suffering from depression/negative feelings/thoughts for quite long...I m so stressed now a days due to genuine feelings and vice versa. I feel my depression has started impacting on my body...I also feel little unusual in my heart whenever I am getting depressed/Tense, little pain also occurs in heart, may be because as my mind gets tense, it also negatively affects heart.

I gets tense too early and start worrying (feeling hopelessness) even on little issues...But now I think this problem is jeopardizing my health...

I need some tips/therapy/suggestions from you guys..How can I get rid of depression forever.

@Doordie @The Sandman @Zibago and all others

Thank you...

dear , exact same case was with me until i addressed the core issue and got it solved by talks and agreements with my source of depression...i spent horrible 8 months in this state

 

[Indika]

Hello..I am 24 years old. I have been suffering from depression/negative feelings/thoughts for quite long...I m so stressed now a days due to genuine feelings and vice versa. I feel my depression has started impacting on my body...I also feel little unusual in my heart whenever I am getting depressed/Tense, little pain also occurs in heart, may be because as my mind gets tense, it also negatively affects heart.

I gets tense too early and start worrying (feeling hopelessness) even on little issues...But now I think this problem is jeopardizing my health...

I need some tips/therapy/suggestions from you guys..How can I get rid of depression forever.

@Doordie @The Sandman @Zibago and all others

Thank you...

Nothing is permanent , every thing is transitory. Its just a matter of time before it goes away. Its not you every one encounters the same. But does it last long nope. How would do you come to know what light is unless you dont know what darkness is.
Remember if you have lived for 24 years then you have come way too far ,this is not something that can take you down.

On the other hand it also means you are starting to think , trying to become more responsible its just another phase of adult hood. Its any thing but natural that you are doing self introspection.