oh !! that is closer for you than any experience all the mocking hyenas on this thread ever had in their short mediocre lives.
and though below i focus on our subcontinent i will also ask to mention two other chaotic and urgency societies where the scenario is true as well - japan and china.
in my 10+2 ( for non-indians this is at age 18 ) i felt all that institutionalized manic urgency about exam-vexams and the artificially-induced compulsoryness about those tuition classes and the guide books ( i don't know what they are called now but there are even paid websites for this ) are all burdens and efforts that are simply unnecessary for my intellectual growth, and suffocating and unnecessary for the personal efforts and paths that i will put in the years to come... so i simply dropped out of college... it actually helped that i failed in the maths exam previously ( preparatory exam or something ), i being not so desperate to become a "expert mathematician" anyway... it takes much courage to drop out of college in india ( and the subcontinent ) at the immediate point and in the years to come... it takes years to show parents the right path and even more fatiguing are the supposedly successful older relatives ( successful meaning in some job, especially public sector ) who in actuality are nothing but just because they have children and are older in age than you, they declare pompously that "the system is like that so we must adjust to the system so do mehnat this time and pass the exam"... pathetic cowards and wastrels these relatives are !! no elon musk or mandela they became in their own life !!
it is easily understandable why your friend's flatmate suicided or the young man in the op... our subcontinental system is so capitalist that not only are the so-called friends in the same socio-economic desperate rat race that you are in too and so can't and won't help you ( i am not judging your friend here but just giving the general scenario ), most parents don't have belief in their own children's inherent capabilities, which is really why these parents look for "official" legitimacy in some exam board that randomly gives their children pass mark or fail mark, and the parents will behave with the children depending on what some outsider tells them through the exam result certificate... the parents do this because they actually have no trust in their own judgement, no faith in their own intelligence, no application of common sense... such parents would rather throw their children onto the street than arrange for them the resources for pursuit of projects and plans that their children so keenly desire.
you see, the parents are the actual failures... the reason they suffocate their children into accepting the done-to-death school/college degree system and then the inevitable jobs ( wage slavery ) is because the parents themselves in their own previous 20 to 50 years of "career life" neither put life and years at risk to bring in a harmonious socialist welfare system where most things are free or subsidized or low costing, or better yet, removed money system entirely thus removing the entire artificial rat race at the simplest level... the parents didn't risk their life and years for progressive political change and so are the real failures but instead of admitting this to their children and perhaps now participating in political change at this later state in life what they do is force their children into treading the stagnant path of the surrounding society, the stagnant path they the parents themselves lived for decades, just so that they don't have to monetarily pay for whatever their children desire, whether a dress or whether some machinery for a project or whether a convalescing stay at a hill station.
most subcontinental parents are neither as monetarily rich as vijay mallya ( he still is rich ) nor are they fanatically communist... they didn't try either circumstance... these parents simply are selfish, cowardly and insensitive, and here i disregard and hold contempt for whatever false sentimentality subcontinentals have built around their traditional family system... what is "honor killing" then?? great grand love of parents towards the child they birthed and saw closely all these years??
certain hyenas on pdf ( certain indian members ) keep insulting me about how they are doing work ( meaning wage slavery ) while i am leeching off my parents' monies... now i simply ask these hyenas if their parents would support them through thick and thin, happiness and sadness, if these members were to stop their life of wage-slavery right today... after all, aren't subcontinental parents the greatest parents on earth?? isn't subcontinental family system all that is godly, pure and soft focus?? but reality is that these members know, and they nervously laugh about this to hide, that their middle class parents would eventually kick them out or leave them to die rather than support them monetarily and otherwise.
these hyena members don't know what real struggle and suffering is, because they have neither challenged their wrong-path parents nor the surrounding socio-economic system nor at least the managers in their offices.
these hyenas called the tragic young man of the op a coward and other mocking things, whereas these hyenas are the cowards and parasites because this young man's story and of countless others hasn't put in them the anger against the rubbish socio-economic situation that caused these suicides in the first place... the hyenas are blaming the victim, a old game among them.
you know, there is no real reason for anyone to be in job ( wage-slavery )... real work is entirely different from wage-slavery, after all socialism declares that "one who produces, can consume" and "from each according to ability, to each according to need"... but all this is dependent on people rejecting the anti-human socio-economic system their parents gave them and working to bring a social/political system where these people and the next generation ( their own children perhaps ) don't have to suffer, whether for money reasons or whether in failing to find friends from among their "friends" who could have removed the socio-economic impediment that is the real cause for most suicides in the subcontinent or anywhere in the capitalist world.
that is true... in the subcontinent parents always feel they are doing good for their children when in reality they are suffocating their children.
in so many films and tv serials we hear "maa-baap toh bacchon ke bhale ke hi sochte hain"... well, kaunsa bhala, kaise maa-baap??
i agree.
from all indications this is also true of other slightly similar cultures - japan and china.
there shouldn't be any competition at all, at least not for survival and getting one's talents recognized and supported.
chaotic societies breed anti-human tendencies and self-centered competition-mindedness and apathy towards others' sufferings... chaotic societies are not harmonious.
only a proper political ideology can remove the chaos and bring harmony.
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