We can talk about history openly without a bad taste in our mouth. Indeed China has dealt with a lot of terrible things in its history but we don't have the feeling of vengeance or anger, only redemption through empowering oneself and understanding the world. This is caused by the simple reason because we are
guided by Chinese philosophy and not religion as one knows it in the West.
In religion there is this battle between good and evil, one
always puts oneself on the side of good and everything that is going against you in the world is
evil. Thus one feels compelled to rid the world of evil and might act upon it when empowered (coerced by political gain). The view of good and evil is very useful if one's society is weak and scattered, it makes the enemy clear and empowers its individuals but what happens when your society becomes strong and win that battle of good and evil? Religious entities from the middle east and europe have never dealt with the reality/history of ruling their civilisation under a single religion.
Chinese views things very differently, one is not necessarily good or bad, your opponents are not necessarily good or bad, we don't judge people or societies like that. There is only what is or isn't. We see imperialism and religious wars in Chinese history as just another force of nature that we should overcome within China, just like how we build dams and infrastructure, we think reality is something man can try to overcome. We don't have an evangelical compulsion to spread our world view globally. This causes us to view the west, Islam, Christianity as entities neutrally but they have their defining characteristics. Whether those characteristics are helpful for certain contexts are up for debate but we think there is reasons that they existed in the first place in the context of human history.
Islam, Christianity, Catholicism, etc. formed in an environment when the natural state is constant wars with the nearest tribe, due to geography. Thus one can be binary, to empower one's tribe in the hopes of unifying this bloody mess of politics, and bring the peace of your view. China's natural state is peace due to long history of unification (occasional wars), when the civilisation is unified with a binary philosophy of good and evil the leader in charge becomes a tyrant/霸 (ba) that doesn't allow for room for development. If you think China today is very constricting, if religion in its traditional form rules China it will become even more tyrannical, the west or middle east have yet to see a unified civilisation that have lasted multiple cycles. Having to deal with the reality of a unified realm, Chinese scholars developed extensive philosophy in coping with this reality, trying to overcome the problem of the tyrant. Confucian philosophy tries to compel the ruler to be actively empathetic/understanding to its members of society, avoid being a tyrant and compels him to not view the world so black and white, to understand that there are things he doesn't understand and must seek to understand.
Chinese has multiple works of philosophy in governance. It comes down to the struggle in making our dictating body more suitable for our development because whatever the case is, a unified and stable China will only have one source of ultimate power.
Rujia or Confucian philosophy
https://www.britannica.com/topic/Confucianism#ref1008344