If this thread was opened by pakistani poster with considerable rep(as you included INDIA of all countries) in this Forum ,it would have brought a significantly better discussion from the people who know the ground situation better than people from outside. Also this psychologically makes them feeling caged and less likely to participate in a logical debate.
However i feel these are some things which may help them develop better(Outsiders perspective).
Accountability
I think that pakistani have to choose what they actually want in terms of governance . Some of them prefer democracy ,others prefer the army rule them(Currently in this forum many are inclined towards the army IMO).
Currently the situation of governance seems to be some sort of hybrid of Civil/Military .This is bad because any failures of the government can be attributed to interference ,Politicians saying due to army we could not do some things ,The army saying it is due to this corrupt politicians we failed.
Lets take the example of the current operation of against terrorists. The current narrative is Pak Army is winnning but still there are suicide bombings occuring frequently , So who is accountable in this case ? Is it the civilian government or Pak army ? Can the COAS be made to resign or be held accountable for this ? if so by whom ? There are people who will take the side of the army and some the civilian government.
Transparency:
The army expenses in pakistan are never made public(specific details) ,It is usually a blank cheque .I do not say pakistan should not be spending so much money on defence/security But if it is transparent to the public it will helping further analysis of the problems faced by the army . The civilian government has the budget to show how much is being spent and on what ? But not the army.
Reg Religion:
Either they can separate religion from state policies or reinforce the religion with a positive narrative