i have never heard of a thing known as flirting like a gentleman
Well, then my poor man you either do not understand flirting / seduction in a relaxed social setting
or are not a gentleman to begin with. Sorry to say.
This is a new thing imported from the West my friend. Go to any major parade or public celebration here in America women get groped, raped, sexually assaulted, and humiliated in public and no one says anything due to the fear of the massive gatherings of thugs and rapists who indulge in this behavior. By the time the police comes the entire group of rapists disperses and the deed is all done. The cops ain't gonna catch every sexual assaulter, they can only do so much when they have to look after thousands of peoples at these public events.
Really? It so happens that I worked in security for many years including events-type jobs with crowds
over 50 000 people and can tell you that you are wrong. I was even a bar bouncer and part of our job
is to look for such things in groups of scantily clad folks gyrating wildly in what would be unacceptable
fashion by the moral rules of many other lands that I visited. Yet despite the overflow of sexual tension
I was always able to tell when a situation was inadequate and act upon it. Your description is incorrect.
I'll try to be clear without going into details about sexual rules in the West.
First, both limits and common behaviour vary from place to place. America is rather prude about sex
and yet revels in it, a sort of dichotomy. France is less hung up but public sexual displays are rarer.
And so on from place to place; those are socio-cultural differences.
Second, there can be a gap of importance between the feminist narrative and reality. That can make
an observer wonder which is true. Is one supposed to judge by imported standards, official viewpoint
or refer to extremes like pornography. The proper answer is that there are folks of each & every kind.
They share this society without agreeing on how it is or should be or should behave just as it happens
in Pakistan or anywhere else.
Third, because of the wider field of allowed behaviour, it is much harder to gauge specific instances,
especially if some of the ways in which women are allowed to interact are not known or acceptable to
the observer's mindset.
I have seen women dressed to show off their bodies almost entirely complain when a man looked!
In that case, the woman is wrong IMHoO but as a man, you still have to deal with it.
To stereotype, in America, the guy will back off and in Europe, he'll call her an idiot.
Of course, past such social differences, there is always the question of what type of man one is.
Furthermore, sexuality is always conflictual no matter where or what the society both because as
humans we don't recognize the sometimes overpowering natural animal part of the equation and
because as said above, not all members will agree since individuals come in myriads of shapes.
In any case, the point can easily be made simple : will! If a person is forced, it's wrong!
Whether it's about sex or anything else. Whether from the freest of lands or the most restrictive,
it doesn't take a genius to understand that a woman wearing modesty enhancing clothes, veil and
so on is unlikely to welcome sexual advances. But then again, even if dressed as a slut, when she
asks you to back off, you do so!
And last but not least, for real Alpha males, there is a pride in inspiring your partner to give you
what we are talking about freely and none in bringing her to do so under coercion.
Forced sexual interaction of any sort and regardless of sex is for losers and deviants.
No matter what pride or shame the woman may apply to herself, it is my pride to act correctly!
That in the end directs my actions, not the constructs of the social environment.
No woman will ever be cheap enough to have me relinquish my own personal judgment.
If I succumb to basic desires, it is my choice / fault. I am in charge of my self.
Good day all, Tay.
Yea when people cant reply thats where they head!
