Its common sense. Pakistan as a nation is fighting against that threatens all that we want and desire just like any other nation. Things like development, education, a strong economy and a place on the world stage.
Pakistan has been in this fight for the long run, and we know the stakes better than anyone else. We are also a nation with dynamics that boggle the minds of many analysts.
The Taliban threaten our integrity in the sense that their brand of "Islam" is nothing more then oppression and hatred disguised in a veil of religious doctrine. If you or anyone thinks that this war can be fought and won by military might alone then you are surely mistaken.
This is a war of ideals and belief. It includes the academics, the religious, the administrative and judicial and executive. But most of all, it requires the support of the common man.
There is no alternative, for the sake of our children's future, inshallah we will be triumphant. And it would serve our neighbours and the international community well to understand this fact...
You have stated very just claims, friend and as a sovereign nation you have every right to have a place at the world stage with a strong economic and educational background. But in order to modernize the mindset of your people, you will have to remove religion from school curriculum.
The other day, I had been going through an article that states the influence the local (mullahs I think) preachers have in your country. Virtually they rule the roost in your land. Unless your government takes reforms along the lines of Ataturk, things won't be changing anytime soon.
Turkey was very chaotic when its modern foundations were being laid. At this time, you are no different and perhaps this evil of militancy is happening so as to bring a better change to your country.
I don't called for closure of religious places like Communist governments (I am conservative myself by some standards), but in your country's case where ignorant people's mindset has a dangerous possibility of going beyond prayers, separation of state and religion is extremely essential. If not permanently, at least for 4-5 decades. Unless you do that, as you said that battling it out with military won't take you anywhere in the long run.
Your opponents here the Taliban have some sort of medium to preach to people which is why they are able to invoke false emotions in people to ensure a fresh supply of recruits each time one supply chain shuts. It can be newsprint, media, radio, anything that can reach especially to the backward and less literate regions of the country. Your government needs to clamp that down. Because to kill an ideology, you need more than guns, tanks and fighters.
The best possible solution to your country's improvement as I see it is:
separate state affairs from religion. Stop taking oaths on your holy book and have a separate book of Pakistani Constitution that enshrines the foundations of your country. Make sure that your officials are largely from the liberal backgrounds who lay more emphasis on economy, infrastructure and education rather than religion and culture. Make culture a thing for tourism that would not only expand your public's outlook but also generate immense revenues for your government.
Abolish any ministry that associates to religion in specific. Strip your school and university level textbooks of religious education and replace it with science, business and arts related subjects only. Disqualify holy education as the minimum requirement considered equivalent for a job in your government service (some countries have such rules, so if you have any).
Make any religion-related poem, ode etc irrelevant to civil education and leave it upon the choice of families. I am aware that Turkey is a strong ally of your country. Take advice from them on how to go about this since they share similar cultural aspects with you than we other Europeans do.
I sincerely appreciate many such members as you who desire to see a moderate, modern, developed country instead of a faith-obsessed backward nation. Religion should be kept in two places only:
Home and Place of Worship.