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Born in Europe, I remember that family and friends always talked about this issue. The overwhelming majority of people wanted to be buried at home in Turkey. How does Pakistanis in Europe/America think about this topic?

Unfortunately, as you likely already know, the transfer of the deceased to ones own country is extremely expansive. In our case, transportation from Europe to Turkey will easily cost several thousand euros. It's sad but not every family can afford this amount of money.

So, to share the costs fairly within the community, Turkish people in Europe set up several "funeral funds" recognized as charitable organizations. You have to get registered to become a member. After this step, you will get at the end of every year a letter from the fund management in which they explain the current financial situation and the number of deceased persons. The amount you have to pay is calculated on the basis of the sum of the projected number of deaths/costs divided by the projected number of members.

Usually, you pay roughly 40 euros at the end of the year. Your children and wife/husband are automatically covered by this fund as along as you're staying a member. Do you have a similar system?
 
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Born in Europe, I remember that family and friends always talked about this issue. The overwhelming majority of people wanted to be buried at home in Turkey. How does Pakistanis in Europe/America think about this topic?

Unfortunately, as you likely already know, the transfer of the deceased to ones own country is extremely expansive. In our case, transportation from Europe to Turkey will easily cost several thousand euros. It's sad but not every family can afford this amount of money.

So, to share the costs fairly within the community, Turkish people in Europe set up several "funeral funds" recognized as charitable organizations. You have to get registered to become a member. After this step, you will get at the end of every year a letter from the fund management in which they explain the current financial situation and the number of deceased persons. The amount you have to pay is calculated on the basis of the sum of the projected number of deaths/costs divided by the projected number of members.

Usually, you pay roughly 40 euros at the end of the year. Your children and wife/husband are automatically covered by this fund as along as you're staying a member. Do you have a similar system?
I must say that is a brilliant system!
 
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Do I need to explain why?
 
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Born in Europe, I remember that family and friends always talked about this issue. The overwhelming majority of people wanted to be buried at home in Turkey. How does Pakistanis in Europe/America think about this topic?

Unfortunately, as you likely already know, the transfer of the deceased to ones own country is extremely expansive. In our case, transportation from Europe to Turkey will easily cost several thousand euros. It's sad but not every family can afford this amount of money.

So, to share the costs fairly within the community, Turkish people in Europe set up several "funeral funds" recognized as charitable organizations. You have to get registered to become a member. After this step, you will get at the end of every year a letter from the fund management in which they explain the current financial situation and the number of deceased persons. The amount you have to pay is calculated on the basis of the sum of the projected number of deaths/costs divided by the projected number of members.

Usually, you pay roughly 40 euros at the end of the year. Your children and wife/husband are automatically covered by this fund as along as you're staying a member. Do you have a similar system?
I want to be buried in our small village in Kayseri
 
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Born in Europe, I remember that family and friends always talked about this issue. The overwhelming majority of people wanted to be buried at home in Turkey. How does Pakistanis in Europe/America think about this topic?

Unfortunately, as you likely already know, the transfer of the deceased to ones own country is extremely expansive. In our case, transportation from Europe to Turkey will easily cost several thousand euros. It's sad but not every family can afford this amount of money.

So, to share the costs fairly within the community, Turkish people in Europe set up several "funeral funds" recognized as charitable organizations. You have to get registered to become a member. After this step, you will get at the end of every year a letter from the fund management in which they explain the current financial situation and the number of deceased persons. The amount you have to pay is calculated on the basis of the sum of the projected number of deaths/costs divided by the projected number of members.

Usually, you pay roughly 40 euros at the end of the year. Your children and wife/husband are automatically covered by this fund as along as you're staying a member. Do you have a similar system?

Most people I see try to come back to their villages,cities for burial if they can afford it...

If I die abroad I'd like to be buried in my village near the final resting places of my ancestors...
 
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I want to be buried in whatever city I die, as quickly as possible, notwithstanding an autopsy or some other necessary procedure. I do not want my body flown anywhere.
 
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My village outside of Bahawalpur.

Interestingly enough, Eskimos would send their old onto ice-burgs when they were decided to be no longer useful to society. The elderly would be taken to an ice-burg and let it flow away into the sea. It's not practiced anymore, but I gotta say that is a rough way to go. Being stranded onto an ice-burg drifting into the ocean. That's a cruel death.

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You don't like boats....?

We Vikings love boats... it's why we'd never burn one:D. The cremation at sea is a myth that's often attributed to the Vikings and took on a life of its own, but isn't the reality of a Viking burial. Rather they were buried in a boat on land.

A boat would be built, filled with the deceased and their belongings, such as thralls or slaves, prized possessions like weapons and wealth or their widow, and the boat would be covered in stones and earth until it was buried.

This practice was called a "stone ship"

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You don't see any such monuments in Norway, but they are present in Sweden and Denmark.

Of course the burial of one's thralls or widow wasn't always a pretty affair, or a bloodless one if you've ever read of the account of Ibn Faldan, but it was tradition. This may help explain:

Því at hánum fylgja
fimm ambáttir,
átta þjónar,
eðlum góðir,
fóstrman mitt
ok faðerni,
þat er Buðli gaf
barni sínu


Or if you can't read Old Norse:

Bond-women five
shall follow him,
And eight of my thralls,
well-born are they,
Children with me,
and mine they were
As gifts that Budhli
his daughter gave


Cremation at sea may be a myth, but most met their end on the pyre before their ashes were buried - their thralls and widow, wealth and prized possessions followed them into death.
 
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