I admire your post it could have almost the same that I would have written but you wrote it...Sorry for replying you late.I was busy Praying and visitors arrived.
Yes your right Kashmir should be independent because non of both countries Pakistan and India wants to loose its land and your right its an ego problem if they both loose their part of Kashmir it will be like loosing to your rival and who want to loose?(So it'll be best that Kashmir is free.
Ofcourse Both Army Men have shed their blood for their country and Kashmir but the Kashmiri People Too.But the blood flow will keep its track until the Kashmir wound stays and dont get healed.
And Yes kashmir can get its place on the Map through a deadly war which can even lead to Nuclear blast which no one wants to see or by Using serious and soft diplomacy which is the best way...
But my concern is India Media more than politicians because they have to raise there ratings and the best deal is to show Pakistan as a devil all over.Pakistani media is alot mature my friend he does on only a few occassion when the news is mostly hot from India blaming on Pakistan...Media is such a powerfull tool in the world today...It can make War or Peace, make you evil or a hero.Indian
Media should quit these stuff.
Pakistan stayed alive from 4 wars all these years so has far bigger India...SO my point is both have deadly Armies but Indian Army has the number game and is advancing & Pakistan has enough numbers to protect & is also keeping the balance up and advancing.
Your right India has a better image in the world that of Pakistan but its changing rapidly and Pakistan is gaining its image back.
The fact is one is a Muslim country and one is a Hindu Country but called secular.Dont take me wrong.I dont think any of these Religions dont teach Peace.
Believe me buddy Pakistan-India's relation can only go too Highly friendly and extremely Low like now days, it cant be neutral...
But I wish we have Peace...