what is the last realistic age to be a first time father?

[313ghazi]

It's better to have your children whilst you are young enough to play with them and be a dad not a grandad.

At the same time you need to be a man not a child. Being able to reproduce does not make you a man. You need maturity of character to be a man.

 

[Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8]

I see was your father involved in this business, did you go for higher education too

that's more reasonable..and good realistic couple...she is gorgeous!

Where she from or she mixed Eurasian


looks like he is from the Gulf region[/QUOTE]

@OsmanAli98

finished my high school here ..the last yr and then got enrolled here...Nope this is a business I made solely out of connections...my father was wrongfully bankrupted overnight (that too by my uncle) and in the shock he suddenly died ....So there is always that wounded tiger in me that I have to make it big in business and become the top dick of my clan...that I become the Patriarch of the extended clan and not my old uncle...that daughters of the clan and their parents come to me to do their Rukhsati/kanyadaan/giving away the daughter in religous ceremony/Vidaai...The Patriarch of the extended family in our case takes over this role rather than the father of the bride ----though it is more of an honour that is conferred to the Patriarch

Yeah sorry if that TMI

Ya, I think 40-50 years old man can still get gorgeous lady at late 20 or around 30. InshaAllah.

Lolz donot push your luck...20 yr is the max acceptable difference..and that too is on the high side

Imo, ideally when your kids should be atleast 30 years old when you die.

Smoking reduces your life.
Drinking reduces your life.
Drugs, well never mind...lol

So, if you smoke and/or drink then you should already reduce your average age to 5-15.

Lets say your average is 70 years. Reduce 15 years. That gives you a life of 55 years. In this case, you should be married and become father at 25.

ANd if you have healthy lifestyle and want to spend rest of your life with your wife then you should get married to a woman who is 5 years older than you. Because on average woman live longer than men. You both should die together instead of you dying earlier and she taking care of you and she dying later all alone. It should be you to take care of her in her dying age.

Anyway, I am 33 and have no intention of getting married and having kids.

good alt opinion ....yeah this is Thought exercise is a relic from a time when I envisioned a different future for me ....but never really resolved it then...so I wanted a crowd sourced solution..and I am loving all the answers

PS: I am extremely clean regarding my health and diet...no smoking, drinking, drugs whatsoever

 

[Indos]

Where she from or she mixed Eurasian

I can say native Indonesian.

Some native Indonesian look like that, you will look many like that in mall in Jakarta where upper class native live (South Jakarta) or school for rich kids native (Islamic school). Even my best friend looks white Arab with white skin although native. That kind of people may have white Arab/Persian DNA due to ancient immigration. Not many native Indonesian married Dutch since our religion is different.

 

[-blitzkrieg-]

I think around 45-47...your child becomes 18 when you are 65...(the age when you start declining in physical cognitive powers)

Soon as you are out of university/college and secure a job.
best age would be 23-25.
Having grand kids by the time you are in mid 40s and great grandkids by the time you are hitting 70 is the best thing to experience..
By the time you retire you have children who are likely past their financial hardships and not waiting for you to leave them behind anything.it also gives you a stress free retired life.
Besides early marriages can knock sense and responsibility from an early age that runs long..however exceptions are there and its not suitable for spoiled folks.

 

[gangsta_rap]

finished my high school here ..the last yr and then got enrolled here...Nope this is a business I made solely out of connections...my father was wrongfully bankrupted overnight (that too by my uncle) and in the shock he suddenly died ....So there is always that wounded tiger in me that I have to make it big in business and become the top dick of my clan...that I become the Patriarch of the extended clan and not my old uncle...that daughters of the clan and their parents come to me to do their Rukhsati/kanyadaan/giving away the daughter in religous ceremony/Vidaai...The Patriarch of the extended family in our case takes over this role rather than the father of the bride ----though it is more of an honour that is conferred to the Patriarch

wow this is godfather tier

 

[Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8]

wow this is godfather tier

LoLz utnaa bhi nahin...I think this is kind of common in South Asia..it's a dog eat dog world...

 

[BringHarmony]

especially if you are 45 and your wife is 35....(this being also first time motherhood for your wife)

Yes, it gets worse as both partner age.

 

[ArabianEmpires&Caliphates]

Is he of Indo decent cause he looks a bit Euro looking tbh than Arab but his paternal ancestors could be Lebanese or Syrian

I hope you do realize that half of Europe is genetically and ancestrally the off-spring of people native to the Arab world (Neolithic farmers) who colonized all of Europe. What makes Northern and Western Europe genetically distinctive from us Arabs is the native European Paleolithic ancestry (haplogroup I) and fairly recent (4000-3000 years ago) steppe invasions from what is the Russian steppe today.

Racially both Arabs and Europeans are Caucasian people. There is no difference expect for complexion and certain more and less predominating features and that depending on where in Europe. We are not talking about the racial difference of a Congolese or Chinese here but geographically and genetically related/closely related people.

99.99% of the Arabs in Indonesia (some 5 million people largest non-native ethnic group in Indonesia - even larger than the Chinese diaspora) are originally from Arabia, mainly Eastern Arabia, Hijaz and Yemen.

Looks pretty Arab to me, just a reddish complexion, which is not unknown in the Arab world, Arabia included, even found among isolated Bedouins.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arab_Indonesians

Similarly there is a large naturalized community of people of Indonesian and South East Asian origin in KSA (Hijaz mostly) who have been living in KSA for generations.

Whenever Arabs and South East Asians intermarry, the offspring is often an lookalike of the Arab part in the relationship or the South Asian part. Although the mixtures (where you can see both racial influences) tend to be very exotic looking and beautiful if you ask me.

I think around 45-47...your child becomes 18 when you are 65...(the age when you start declining in physical cognitive powers)

Males can in theory create offspring as long and from the exact time that their equipment is working/starts working. It all depends on the female. Males (at least in the Arab world) who decide to have offspring in an advanced age (60 + years) with their second, third, fourth wife or relationship, often have a large family already with numerous siblings. So even if the father passes away at an early age (from the perspective of his youngest offspring) that offspring will be surrounded by a large family, many siblings, nieces and nephews in every age group and a fairly young (in comparison for sure) mother. In fact an uncle, older male sibling etc. often takes a role of the father if the advanced aged father passes away.

Ideal age is 25-35. Earlier as well, it depends on your maturity and life situation but it makes little sense to put a number or limit as every situation/relationship is unique.

The question of time is more a thing that females have to worry about, which they do greatly. There is a much greater taboo (in every culture that I know of) of a lone women that have not given birth, than the opposite case.