What are the wierd wedding traditions you have?

[313ghazi]

I'm sure we've all been to many weddings and seen many customs traditions, even partaking in them, without ever knowing their origin.

I'm going to start a list, hoping you guys can help.

Mendhi - why do we have mendhis? Why does the bride wear henna? I've noticed in the past some grooms have done too!

Also what's the deal with all the candles you see in plates nowadays? And why all the oil in people's hair?

Sehra/Kulla - what are they about? Why do you have to wear a hat? I'm not a fan of hats. They make my head warm and mess up my hair.

Garlands/money haar - where did they come from? Who thought about putting money on them?

salami - why do we have to give people cash in every ritual?

Also we have this one where women pose with a decorated pot/kara as we call it.

Then you have a ceremony where they waft garlands over you as you walk. Why? Whats the origin?

Also whats the deal with the decorative lota?

Choor - why do we sent/get a choor?

Also whats with the throwing of colour on people?

just sooo many odd things. just listing it all bought back the trauma of my own wedding.

 

[User]

Mendhi - why do we have mendhis? Why does the bride wear henna? I've noticed in the past some grooms have done too!

Not sure about this. But from the looks of it, it`s for aesthetic purposes.

Also what's the deal with all the candles you see in plates nowadays? And why all the oil in people's hair?

There is Mehndi with candles standing in those plates or whatever the container maybe. Again, I have no idea of what it signifies. But women dance with it in a circle and then place it on the floor and continue to dance around it. There have been mishaps where someone`s hair got on fire from an adjacent plate of Mehndi.

Sehra/Kulla - what are they about? Why do you have to wear a hat?

Bride wears it and so does sometimes groom. Perhaps it might help with moments of shyness or to increase the curiosity or maybe to save them from Nazr-e-bad.

salami - why do we have to give people cash in every ritual?

It`s a way of putting in your share to meet the expenses. People also do it when they visit someone sick.

Also we have this one where women pose with a decorated pot/kara as we call it.

Not sure about it. But we have a ritual where a pot is carried to some place and a party goes with it singing and all. And then finally break the pot. Sometimes they also put sweets in it. So by the time it is smashed on the ground, everyone jumps at the sweets/toffees/chocolates.

Then you have a ceremony where they waft garlands over you as you walk. Why? Whats the origin?

To symbolize welcome. Just my thoughts.

Also whats the deal with the decorative lota?

Sorry we don`t have this one.

Choor - why do we sent/get a choor?

Clueless about this one as well.

Also whats with the throwing of colour on people?

It is actually sand type plastic with different colours. They throw it around and paste on each other`s face to show involvement in the happiness of others.

just sooo many odd things. just listing it all bought back the trauma of my own wedding.

Ahahahaha. Sir you forgot about Jootha Chupai, Muu Chupai that are very common as well

 

[Black.Mamba]

I am not a wedding or traditions kind of a person but recently came to know about a new thing happening in Pakistan.

Shandy: Shadi , Mehndi, Barat combo

 

[User]

I am not a wedding or traditions kind of a person but recently came to know about a new thing happening in Pakistan.

Shandy: Shadi , Mehndi, Barat combo

Ahahahahaha looks like it all ends within an hour or so

 

[Black.Mamba]

Ahahahahaha looks like it all ends within an hour or so

I have no idea. I was recently catching up with an an old friend and she told me she has to goto a shandy, i thought it might some eatery or some other activity thing until she clarified and i just completely lost it, creativity ends on us Pakistani's

 

[User]

I have no idea. I was recently catching up with an an old friend and she told me she has to goto a shandy, i thought it might some eatery or some other activity thing until she clarified and i just completely lost it, creativity ends on us Pakistani's

Buahahahahahahahahaha Btw we have a cold drink by that name

 

[User]

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[Zulfiqar]

Don't know about others but in KPK one of the pre-wedding tradition is that the parents have to go in person to your house to invite you to their son/daughter's weddings.

It was OK when everyone lived in the same village but you seriously don't have to travel 120-200 KM all the way from a different city/province to give an invite.

A card in courier would do.

Things are changing though.

 

[Black.Mamba]

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[User]

Don't know about others but in KPK one of the pre-wedding tradition is that the parents have to go in person to your house to invite you to their son/daughter's weddings.

It was OK when everyone lived in the same village but you seriously don't have to travel 120-200 KM all the way from a different city/province to give an invite.

A card in courier would do.

Things are changing though.

Sir it is considered disrespectful when one is not invited in person. They think you actually don`t want to invite them and are only fulfilling formality.

Ahahahahahahahahahahaha!
Not sure whether running or flying around hahahahahahahaha

@Black.Mamba

 

[peagle]

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I think it time to let go of some traditions, I'm shocked more people don't get killed,
Plus, those bullets have to land somewhere, so I'm sure there must be few injured parties at every wedding somewhere.

Think something similar happens in almost all parts of Pakistan, especially in rural areas, but not insane as that example, Totally crazy.

 

[Zulfiqar]

Sir it is considered disrespectful when one is not invited in person. They think you actually don`t want to invite them and are only fulfilling formality.

Yes, but this tang nazri needs to change. One needs to understand the limitations of the parents.

I told my parents to not follow that route owing to Covid. In person invitation is not necessary. If the person being invited considers that disrespectful even though we have no mal-intentions then perhaps it is time for us to move on.

Similar is the case in deaths. I have a job with long hours and I can't be expected to run to village 150+ KMs away every time a distant relative dies (at least not on the same day).

This "gham khaadi" culture may have worked when everyone was living within a distance of 4 km in a single village but expectations should change for those living cities/provinces away.

 

[User]

I think it time to let go of some traditions, I'm shocked more people don't get killed,
Plus, those bullets have to land somewhere, so I'm sure there must be few injured parties at every wedding somewhere.

Think sometime similar happens in almost all parts of Pakistan, especially in rural areas, but not insane as that example, Totally crazy.

Sir, a bullet had landed on my right arm on the first day of Eid when I was 10 years old.
And I totally agree, we need to scrap such fanatic rituals that endanger the lives of others.

Yes, but this tang nazri needs to change. One needs to understand the limitations of the parents.

I told my parents to not follow that route owing to Covid. In person invitation is not necessary. If the person being invited considers that disrespectful even though we have no mal-intentions then perhaps it is time for us to move on.

Similar is the case in deaths. I have a job with long hours and I can't be expected to run to village 150+ KMs away every time a distant relative dies (at least not on the same day).

This "gham khaadi" culture may have worked when everyone was living within a distance of 4 km in a single village but expectations should change for those living cities/provinces away.

Sir za taso sara completely agree kom.
Khas kar Corona da lasa kho la noram har sa difficult shal.
Ao pa kali k kho hara vraz la sok pa haq rasedali e ao la ye waada v.
Day kaar day para um yo ozgaar khel kas pakar day che agha nora sa nakai bus kala yo zay ta zi ao kala bal zay ta.

 

[IsThisNameAvailable]

In India, weddings go on for WHOLE NIGHTS. Mine happened in January. It was cold in north India. Even with all the heaters & blowers & what not, keeping awake the whole fking night was not something I liked. At one point, in one ceremony where the couple is made to sit in a corner inside the house (I think its the kitchen) and does some pooja, I go so irritated that i shouted "its enough". It was wrapped up quickly.

 

[Riea]

I think mehndi is islamic traditions. Its not cultural.