I agree but somewhere along the line, we have to find a mechanism to accomplish our goals without it hurting us
Yeah, if it is possible then well and good. That is what we want. We want to be friends with US too. But if not possible then we can not sacrifice ourselves and our children's future for some other guy's benefit. As for sanctions, I do not think they are going to hurt as much as people fear and their effects are going to be very transient. Their options to sanction Pakistan are limited. Lets look at how they can sanction Pakistan, comparing how they sanctioned Iraq or Iran.
1- They can freeze Pakistani assets abroad. Good lord, Pakistan does not have much assets to begin with. The most valuable is perhaps the Roosevelt hotel in New York. But there are alot of foreign companies which have assets in Pakistan and also Pakistan has debts to tune of over 59 billion dollars. In retaliation Pakistan can freeze those. Simple. They will lose.
2- They can freeze assets of Pakistani leaders abroad. Again not much concern there, I think.
3- They can stop selling some equipment to Pakistan. But with a little hard work these can be manufactured locally. Pakistan is not Iraq that could not manufacture even its medicines. Through there might be some things Pakistan can not produce but these can be bought from black market. The price is going to be higher but this can be adjusted by removing custom duty on those items. It is very difficult to sanction a nation of 200 million people with big borders.
4- The only effective sanction they have is military equipment sanction. Again without a UN security council sanction, these will be not effective since Pakistan will buy from other countries like China. But even if at extreme case scenario as they did with Iran they get such a resolution, still it will have no effect. The last time they sanctioned Pakistan, it developed its missile program which was very successful. Since they lifted sanctions, there has not been much development in that sector. If new sanctions come this time, surely Pakistan can develop intercontinental missiles. Again Pakistan will win.
5- They can sanction refined fuel just like they did with Iran. Again this is not effective, since Pakistan refines its own fuel. And crude can not be sanctioned since Iran is next door.
So sanctions are probably just talk to scare Pakistan. Already Turkey and Switzerland are buying Iranian gas. So even legal precedence is in our favor.