I have read a lot of very informed and insightful analysis about the context and intricacies of the US Pakistan relationship, so it was time well spent.
But I think Pakistani forummers are missing the point, missing the woods for the trees.
In the 1920s or so a US president said that the 'business of America is business'. That sums it up, end of. A nation's interests are permanent, friends and enemies come and go. America's permanent interest is just that, business. Any nation that wishes to engage with America's polity and its people must engage in business with America. Everything else is secondary.
I do not wish to be misunderstood; having lived and worked in the US for five years now, I greatly admire America and Americans. America is racist, it discriminates against the poor, it has no 'heart' as we South Asians understand 'heart'.
But it is also, in my opinion, the least racist country in the world, the one place where you can be everything you want if you work for it. Americans are some of the most generous people in the world. There is no other country like it. It is, again IMO, the greatest experiment in democracy that the world has known.
But America always asks the question - what have you done for me today? Pakistani forummers would do well to understand that. 'We had your back in the 80s against Russia' will not hack it. While the Americans are a honourable people, 'honour' will not hack it when dealing with them. American regimes come and go, opinion swings this way and that, but one thing is permanent - America's business.
To be fair that is the question that Americans ask each other as well - 'What have you done for me lately'? It's the question I am asked - overtly and covertly - every single day I go to work. After the first few months absorbing the intense cultural shock of this reality, it is the question I now ask my subordinates as well. It is professionalism at its most intense.
You think Pakistan is being treated badly? Perhaps. Observe how Americans treat Americans who are no longer relevant to their professional needs. I am not saying it is cruel, although it can be. It's just - business.
Why did the Japanese, from an American perspective, go from cartoon caricatures in WW II to the deadly, powerful businessmen in Rising Sun. How did anime and Manga become so popular in the US? What was the common link?
In a word, business. Create value that is more permanent than the events of a decade or two.
America absorbs influences, America takes cultures from round the world and makes it uniquely American. But to engage with America, to become a significant partner to America, to become part of its culture/ psyche and therefore create an enduring relationship? Business.
Anything else will be a relationship built on sand. Strategies and tactics by themselves will not mean much except for a short span of time.
I have already written a lot. I can elaborate on some of the nuances, but hopefully this perspective will help.