To the Ladies..

[Nefarious]

1) Very controlling.
2) Taking what the man gives for granted and almost expecting it, having an entitlement attitude
3) Never admitting they are wrong
4) Full of double standards, I.e. wanting to be treated equally when it comes to working but then expecting to be treated in a traditional manner in social life

Etc, etc

Try before you buy, you can tell diamond from the trash after a while.

Same for the ladies, get to know him before you get stuck with the ogre.

 

[Verve]

Try before you buy, you can tell diamond from the trash after a while.

Same for the ladies, get to know him before you get stuck with the ogre.

Not practical this 'get to know before' approach as only living with each other reveals much more and more after children are born (thus arguments on how children should be raised). Boyfriend girlfriend relationships by their very nature are very masked and tolerance levels are much higher, but that's only temporary as majority fail. Moving from one partner continuously to another only to find that 'perfect click' has serious effects on one's personality.

The main thing is the lack of patience in developing an understanding of each other. 'I'm right' attitude by both men and women, due to low maturity levels, pre-conceived notions (rigid mindset) and absence of balanced & rational guidance from elders, leads to major issues.

Find a partner who has same core value system as you, without a compromise and right at the very beginning. Big decisions that couples make without conflict all boil down to the principles each holds dear. Late marriage means a lot of personality traits are set firmly and very difficult to change or realign thus leaving little or no room for compromise. Focus on core values/principles is key, when finding a compatible life partner.

 

[Taygibay]

Females are good at giving men advice too like 'directions' but they seem to have too much of an ego to understand.

100% agreed ... but then again, we likely have differing reads of that pronoun.

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[Verve]

And if there are unreconcilable differences leading to an unhappy marriage, end it when reconciliation efforts are exhausted instead of both being miserable.

 

[Nefarious]

Not practical this 'get to know before' approach as only living with each other reveals much more and more after children are born (thus arguments on how children should be raised). Boyfriend girlfriend relationships by their very nature are very masked and tolerance levels are much higher, but that's only temporary as majority fail. Moving from one partner continuously to another only to find that 'perfect click' has serious effects on one's personality.

The main thing is the lack of patience in developing an understanding of each other. 'I'm right' attitude by both men and women, due to low maturity levels, pre-conceived notions (rigid mindset) and absence of balanced & rational guidance from elders, leads to major issues.

Find a partner who has same core value system as you, without a compromise and right at the very beginning. Big decisions that couples make without conflict all boil down to the principles each holds dear. Late marriage means a lot of personality traits are set firmly and very difficult to change or realign thus leaving little or no room for compromise. Focus on core values/principles is key, when finding a compatible life partner.

I agree wife and gf are different. But like some of us are commenting here, people can see what level we are on straight away let alone going into a relationship to find out.

Yes, the rest depends on destiny, you can only only do so much.

 

[Blue Marlin]

100% agreed ... but then again, we likely have differing reads of that pronoun.

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good at giving directions!
yeah right i were on the road looking for a B&Q(hardware store) i asked a lady nearby were is the store. and this is what she said."left at the lights then go straight past the ring and make a first right and you should see a sign for B&Q and then use your brain"

 

[Verve]

people can see what level we are on straight away

How many 20+ we know these days who are mature and wise enough to select a life partner leading to a happy and successful marriage? If they were, Divorce rates wouldn't be accelerating as they are.

Heck, major blunders are being made in arranged marriages by current generation of parents/elders. Status has taken precedent over values and that's being fed to the next generation.

 

[Nefarious]

How many 20+ we know these days who are mature and wise enough to select a life partner leading to a happy and successful marriage? If they were, Divorce rates wouldn't be accelerating as they are.

Heck, major blunders are being made in arranged marriages by current generation of parents/elders. Status has taken precedent over values and that's being fed to the next generation.

People aren't helping themselves by that. Nothing is guaranteed. Nothing wrong with coming to compromise...I hate it when people start waving lists of demands/qualities. Steer clear of them as this sort are never satisfied.

 

[Verve]

People aren't helping themselves by that. Nothing is guaranteed. Nothing wrong with coming to compromise...I hate it when people start waving lists of demands/qualities. Steer clear of them as this sort are never satisfied.

Yeah, it's ironic that list waving lot do not meet those levels themselves or possess grossly inflated egos!

Oh well, this topic is beyond the remit here. Those who can understand will and those who can't will snigger.

 

[Divergent]

This thread is gradually turning into men whining about females LOL

 

[SMC]

This thread is gradually turning into men whining about females LOL

Whining so you say? What is this then:

Boys will be boys...always peep into ladies section

Females are good at giving men advice too like 'directions' but they seem to have too much of an ego to understand

If you want your Mrs Happy:

- reply on time
- don't make promises you can't keep
- listen to her. As in, hear her out.
- she's not your enemy
- give her room to grow. Don't own her. She's on a journey
- show her mercy and be soft
- don't publicly belittle her
- say sorry. If it's your mistake. Don't let pride get in the way
- take lead


Remember out of all the Men. She chose you.

 

[Divergent]

Whining so you say? What is this then:

 

[T-123456]

We see too many of these. What we really need is someone telling women how to treat their Mr. Because most of them treat them anywhere from bad to horrible.

Its all up to the man,if he is a man,she'll treat him good.

 

[SMC]

Its all up to the man,if he is a man,she'll treat him good.

You are oversimplifying it. Lot of women love control and are crazy. Most women still prefer the traditional double standards that favour them and take the guy for granted.

 

[Verve]

This thread is gradually turning into men whining about females LOL

It had turned to how immature and actually stupid most 'we know it all' types are!