Let me see if i can understand you. It is not our business to tell these people to not kill/beat women for not wearing beehives
If the law there states that women must wear "beehives"/burkhas, then that is the law. If the law in the US states you must wear trousers, then you must wear trousers. It is only a difference in what different cultures consider normal. The punishment is again up to the Afghans. You can pick out hundreds of other countries in the world with equally harsh laws that aren't invaded, Saudi Arabia for one (a good ally of the US). The death penalty in the US for some crimes sounds utterly despicable and barbaric to some. But it's used because that is the law of the land. You might justify it through your social conditioning, others will not agree.
and it is not our business to tell them to not behead non muslims
obviously beheading non muslims would constitute a genocide. That isn't acceptable. If you have proof that the goal of the of any group in Afghanistan is ethnic or religious genocide, then that is grounds for interference.
or to try to educate their people to at least read something besides the Quran (granted they can read). It is probably none of our business if they happen to have harbored the people that murdered 3,000 civilians and the people of my country aswell. Since you know that is part of their culture as you say. Interesting way of spreading such a culture.
Imagine how an Iraqi would feel, or the 100,000 or so that were killed by US troops over faked stories of WMD. You would think they would want to invade the US. Or the wars in Vietnam and Korea where millions of civilians were killed alone.
The Arabs of Al Qaeda were invited into Afghanistan by the Northern Alliance. The Taliban should have handed him over, but didn't due to their tribal codes. Consequence, Afghanistan was invaded, and now the Arabs are not in Afghanistan anymore. So there is no reason for the war.
Just like in pakistan we should respect that law that now has a doctor in jail for throwing away a card that had the name Muhammad on it and now have a mob out to kill him.
Noone suggested you respect the law. But whatever country you visit, I would suggest following the law, and respecting it. If Pakistanis want a blasphemy law, that's up to them. I think a blasphemy law can work, no need for death as a punishment, a year in prison perhaps, if someone brings a false case, they receive the punishment. Better still no blasphemy law at all. But it is Pakistanis who should decide this, not Americans.
Forgive me if i have no respect for any of these things and view them as backward and having nothing to do with culture but islamic extremism and if that is part of your culture then all i can say is god help your culture.
You're being deliberately misleading here. Islamic fundamentalism is a choice. Islamic terrorism (though I don't like the term) is certainly wrong. I presume you mean Islamic terrorism is bad. That is very true. Islamic fundamentalism is just a conservative view of Islam. Though I don't like it, if someone wants to hold that view, or if a whole population wants to hold that view, it is their choice until they see the light of being less fundamental.