Rape Prevention

[Gufi]

Thank you everyone I am happy we have discussed this maturely I hope that everyone keeps this level of maturity in any future thread regarding such topics.

I feel more emphasis shud be given on making ppl believe that its impossible to get away with it.
ridiculously harsh punishments n fast tracking such cases in court of law can do wonders.

Punishment being used as a deterrent is one step that is quick and should be taken and implemented. No one should be above the law.

1- No short short skirt , with Katrina Kaif promotion in movies, 80 sal ka bhuddah bhi jooshila ho
jaiga
2- No item girl songs in movies , vulgar songs, these song just encourage rude behavior
3- Reduction of rape scenes in movies
4- Control on Bollywood , and their low moral values in movies for last 20 years
5- Adaption of more libral approach in highschools, as in west reduces sexual frustration
6- Common sense , by women to not be walking around in evening to be in bad situation

over sexualisation of the female has to be controlled.
Whether it is in movies or otherwise females should be portrayed in different roles. As strong and assertive characters who are smart and rely on their own selves without help from a muscle bound male.
Reduction of rape scenes is also a very valid point.
Another I would like to add is a more stringent age limit to movies with any female exposure.
There needs to an all round change in how we deal with children in schools I am trying to get some facts together hopefully soon will have it ready.
Common sense for females to walk together and keep in packs in dangerous areas can prevent rape. It is a good solution till long term reforms can change social perception.

The simplest thing is to blame it on movies, cell phones , dresses etc. The bottom line is that families are not controlling their sons and condone their misdeeds - something that never happened in the past. The stigma a bad son caused to his family stayed for generation.

More prevention at younger ages is something required.

opportunistic rapists

These are the ones we can hope to prevent in society and the sadistic ones just need to be rooted out and punished.

domestic violence, sexual trafficking forced marriages, honor killings, female infanticide and acid attacks

education and awareness with stricter implementation of laws.

Indians and Pakistanis need Juttas, Chittars , Littars & dandas. - this applies to the citizenry & law agencies equally.

Remove fear and we become worse than animals.

We do not need english, power point presentations & social engineering to make us walk the straight & narrow path.

Listen I agree with you partly but upbringing and schooling also have a goal in this. you will not steal something even if you are alone not because you fear the repercussions but rather because you know it is wrong

 

[Gufi]

Excellent thread , @Gufi !

thank you sir I am pleased to see that the bickering stopped and people looked at rape without any nationality and as simple humans. I hope the lesson stays with them. You seem busy I would love to have some posts from you on issues regarding your field of research

 

[Dubious]

Educated environment (America):
About Victims

• 44% of victims are under age 18
• 80% are under age 30

Sexual Assault Numbers

• Every 107 seconds, another American is sexually assaulted
• There is an average of 293,000 victims (age 12 or older) of sexual assault each year

Reporting to Police

• 68% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police
• 98% of rapists will never spend a day in jail

About Rapists

• Approximately 2/3 of assaults are committed by someone known to the victim
• 38% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance

Ways to Reduce your Risk of Sexual Assault

Avoiding Dangerous Situations
While you can never completely protect yourself from sexual assault, there are some things you can do to help reduce your risk of being assaulted.

• Be aware of your surroundings. Knowing where you are and who is around you may help you to find a way to get out of a bad situation.
• Try to avoid isolated areas. It is more difficult to get help if no one is around.
• Walk with purpose. Even if you don’t know where you are going, act like you do.
• Trust your instincts. If a situation or location feels unsafe or uncomfortable, it probably isn’t the best place to be.
• Try not to load yourself down with packages or bags as this can make you appear more vulnerable.
• Make sure your cell phone is with you and charged and that you have cab money.
• Don't allow yourself to be isolated with someone you don’t trust or someone you don’t know.
• Avoid putting music headphones in both ears so that you can be more aware of your surroundings, especially if you are walking alone.

What should I do if I am sexually assaulted?
Sexual assault is a crime of motive and opportunity and the majority of sexual assaults are committed by someone known to the victim. Ultimately, there is no surefire way to prevent an attack. If you or someone you know has been affected by sexual violence, it’s not your fault. You are not alone. Help is available 24/7 through the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800.656.HOPE, and online at online.rainn.org.


Safety Planning
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted or is in an abusive relationship, there are things to consider when thinking about safety.

For many people who have been affected by sexual assault, current and long-term safety can be an ongoing concern. Safety planning is about brainstorming ways to stay safe that may also help reduce the risk of future harm. It can include planning for a future crisis, considering your options, and making decisions about your next steps. Finding ways to stay and feel safer can be an important step towards healing, and these plans and actions should not increase the risk of being hurt.

Safety planning when someone is hurting you:

• Lean on a support network. Having someone you can reach out to for support can be an important part of staying safe and recovering. Find someone you trust who could respond to a crisis if you needed their help.
• Become familiar with safe places. Learn more about safe places near you such as a local domestic violence shelter or a family member’s house. Learn the routes and commit them to memory. Find out more about sexual assault service providers in your area that can offer support.
• Stay safe at home. If the person hurting you is in your home, you can take steps to feel safer. Try hanging bells or a noise maker on your door to scare the person hurting you away, or sleep in public spaces like the living room. If possible, keep the doors inside your house locked or put something heavy in front of them. If you’re protecting yourself from someone who does not live with you, keep all the doors locked when you’re not using them, and install an outside lighting system with motion detectors. Change the locks if possible.
• Keep computer safety in mind. If you think someone might be monitoring your computer use, consider regularly clearing your cache, history, and cookies. You could also use a different computer at a friend’s house or a public library.
• Create a code word. It might be a code between you and your children that means “get out,” or with your support network that means “I need help.”
• Prepare an excuse. Create several plausible reasons for leaving the house at different times or for existing situation that might become dangerous. Have these on hand in case you need to get away quickly.

Safety planning when someone is stalking you:

• Tell someone you trust. Stalking shouldn’t be kept a secret. Tell your parents, loved ones, a trusted adult, or the local police to determine if a report can be made.
• Be prepared to reach out. If possible, keep your cell phone charged and have emergency contact numbers programmed ahead of time. You may want to save these contacts under a different name. Memorize a few numbers in case you don’t have cell phone access in the future.
• Change your routine. Be aware of your daily routine and begin to alter it overtime. Switch up the way you commute more often, taking different routes or different modes of transportation.
  Visit the Stalking Resource Center for more ways to stay safe.

Safety planning when leaving the person hurting you:

• Make an escape bag. Pack a bag that includes all important papers and documents, such as your birth certificate, license, passport, social security card, bills, prescription drugs, and medical records. Include cash, keys, and credit cards. Hide the bag well. If it’s discovered, call it a “hurricane bag” or “fire bag.” If you are escaping with children, include their identifying information as well.
• Prepare your support network. Keep your support network in the loop. Let them know how to respond if the perpetrator contacts them.
• Plan a destination. If you’re not going to stay with someone you know, locate the nearest domestic violence shelter or homeless shelter.
• Plan a route. Then plan a backup route. If you are driving, have a tank of gas filled at all times. If you rely on public transportation, know the routes departure times. Many public transportation systems have mobile apps that update their schedules and arrival times.
• Important Safety Note: If the dangerous situation involves a partner, go to the police or a shelter first.

How can I protect my child from sexual assault?
While there is no sure-fire way to protect your child from all dangers, there are some steps that you can take to help reduce the risk of a sexual assault.


Protecting Your Friends
Tips on how you can prevent sexual assault and keep friends safe.


In a Social Situation
Here are some tips to help reduce your risk of being assaulted in social situations.


If Someone is Pressuring You
If someone is pressuring you, it is important to remember that being in this situation is not your fault...here are some things that you can try.

If you need to get out of an uncomfortable or scary situation here are some things that you can try:

1. Remember that being in this situation is not your fault. You did not do anything wrong, it is the person who is making you uncomfortable that is to blame.
2. Be true to yourself. Don't feel obligated to do anything you don't want to do. "I don't want to" is always a good enough reason. Do what feels right to you and what you are comfortable with.
3. Have a code word with your friends or family so that if you don’t feel comfortable you can call them and communicate your discomfort without the person you are with knowing. Your friends or family can then come to get you or make up an excuse for you to leave.
4. Lie. If you don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings it is better to lie and make up a reason to leave than to stay and be uncomfortable, scared, or worse. Some excuses you could use are: needing to take care of a friend or family member, not feeling well, having somewhere else that you need to be, etc.
5. Try to think of an escape route. How would you try to get out of the room? Where are the doors? Windows? Are there people around who might be able to help you? Is there an emergency phone nearby?
6. If you and/or the other person have been drinking, you can say that you would rather wait until you both have your full judgment before doing anything you may regret later.

What Can Bystanders do?
The majority of those who commit sexual assaults are men. Even so, it is important to remember that the vast majority of men are not rapists.

There are many things men and women can do to help prevent sexual violence.

If you see someone in danger of being assaulted:

• Step in and offer assistance. Ask if the person needs help. NOTE: Before stepping in, make sure to evaluate the risk. If it means putting yourself in danger, call 911 instead.
• Don’t leave. If you remain at the scene and are a witness, the perpetrator is less likely to do anything.
• If you know the perpetrator, tell the person you do not approve of their actions. Ask the person to leave the potential victim alone.

Be an ally:

• When you go to a party, go with a group of friends. Arrive together, check in with each other frequently and leave together.
• Have a buddy system. Don’t be afraid to let a friend know if you are worried about her/his safety.
• If you see someone who is intoxicated, offer to call a cab.

If someone you know has been assaulted:

• Listen. Be there. Don’t be judgmental.
• Be patient. Remember, it will take your friend some time to deal with the crime.
• Help to empower your friend or family member. Sexual assault is a crime that takes away an individual’s power, it is important not to compound this experience by putting pressure on your friend or family member to do things that they are not ready to do yet.
• Encourage your friend to report the rape to law enforcement (call 911 in most areas). If your friend has questions about the criminal justice process, talking with someone on the National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-HOPE can help.
• Let your friend know that professional help is available through the National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-HOPE and the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline.
• If your friend is willing to seek medical attention or report the assault, offer to accompany them wherever they need to go (hospital, police station, campus security, etc.)
• Encourage him or her to contact one of the hotlines, but realize that only your friend can make the decision to get help.

Computer Safety
These are some valuable ways to manage your personal information online, as well as tips for following safe browsing procedures.

Below are some valuable ways to manage your personal information online, as well as tips for following safe browsing procedures.
Find a Safe Computer
Please take a moment to think about whether your computer is safe. This is particularly important if the person abusing you may have access to your computer.

Edit Privacy Settings on Facebook
Review steps you can take to manage your personal information on Facebook.

Edit Privacy Settings on Twitter
Review steps you can take to manage your personal information on Twitter.

Clear History/Cache on Mobile Devices
Quick steps to clear your browsing history on iPhone and Blackberry mobile devices.

Clear History/Cache on Firefox for PC
Quick steps to clear your browsing history on Firefox (for PC).

Clear History/Cache on Firefox for Mac
Quick steps to clear your browsing history on Firefox (for Mac).

Clear History/Cache on Internet Explorer
Quick steps to clear your browsing history on Internet Explorer.

Clear History/Cache on Safari
Quick steps to clear your browsing history on Safari.


I didnt cover everything just took some which seemed interesting....rest can be found here:

Computer Safety | RAINN | Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network

 

[sancho]

Since this is a defence forum, we should not forget, that rape is often used by a superior (armed) force in conflict areas, be it as a wide spread policy or by individuals. Imo that's the most shameful part, since it's the simple feeling of having or being in power, makes people do that, that in normal life and as part of a society wouldn't do it (at least the most part of these soldiers). So it's not only a problem of civil society, but also within armed forces and we know that it's not only limited to enemies, but also happens to female soldiers within the own forces.