but how is it democracy's fault?
You know it kind of is. In Pakistan feudalism is rife. Landmasses the size of cities are owned by feudal lords. The people contesting in elections are feudal lords. The people who live on these lands have to vote for their feudal lord, the people living around those lands are dependent on their livelihood upon those feudal lords and have to vote for them.
How will the people's choice ever come forward?
Democracy makes you kill yourself voluntarily. With military dictators people have a stronger guy than the feudal lord come in. If he's a good guy then he'll do something for the country. Feudal lords are confirmed not to do anything for the country because they want to continue their grips on to the populace.
This is the difference between democracy in Pakistan and elsewhere.
Of course, its also our fault. Out of an estimated 170Mn pop, we've 80 Mn people eligible to vote.
During elections there's only a turnout of 30 million, out of which 1.5 Million belong these rural areas and 1.5 from the cities/urban areas.
I think if more people only showed up at the polling booths, the results would be very different.
Then again voting booths also don't have a conducive environment. You never know when bombs would go off, you never know when political parties will start up fights, spray of bullets, mismanagement, polling taking hours longer than it should.
So, the enormity of the issues are huge. Don't just simply say that we don't want democracy, but democracy like everything else has its pre-requisites. A lot of people feel that there will be one military guy who will come and will be a decent person and take care of these pre-requisites and then transition towards true democracy.