This blame game needs to stop. And I believe Pakistanis need to stop interfering in Indian affairs, particularly when it comes to Indian Muslims. I, being an Indian Muslim, absolutely hate it when Pakistanis say they pity us, or feel bad for 'what we go through'.
One thing you need to understand about India is that, if Hindu extremists target Muslims, then Muslim extremists also target Hindus (Varanasi, a Hindu pilgrimage site has been bombed numerous times; Amarnath pilgrims shot to death by Muslim extremists, etc.)
Now, you can get into this chicken or the egg argument (who started it first). But does it really matter? Fact is that both Hindus and Muslims have been both the culprits as well as the victims in post-partition India. Pakistanis tend to justify terrorist attacks by talking about how victimized Muslims have become in India. Then similarly, Post-Godhra riots can be justified by the murder of those 60 Hindu pilgrims. This hypocrisy must end.
And all this has to do with the terrible history we've had, as well as the horrors of partition which only divided the two communities further.
What India needs is reconciliation between the two communities. The atmosphere is there, but the politicians won't let it happen, as it harms their interests.
There has been a lot of improvement, though, in recent years. Nowadays one sees Muslims in every walk of life in India. This is something I take pride in. Not only because India is capable of providing equal opportunities to all Indians, but also that Muslims are becoming more and more educated.