We are going a full circle here. The extremists think that by forcing others they will have achieved something that Pakistan never had. In my mind, the people of Pakistan will reject their version too just like Zia's cosmetic efforts failed. But for this to fail, the people first have to see it and experience it. What I know for sure, and most Pakistanis may not agree with me, is that Pakistan needs something like the Turkish model. Have Islam in our lives but not to the extent that everyone else is being forced fed the same or in the manner its being done in Pakistan. Proselytizing is not a problem by itself, but it should be limited to conveying the message and if someone tells you to get out of their face, you must!
One other thing, there has to be a compelling moment where people will react to the extremist ideology (not to be confused with the mainstream Islamic ideology, which has been a part of our lives for the past 60+ years). I am not sure what this compelling event will be, but I know that most people in Pakistan are seriously upset with the murder of Salman Taseer and things like this are slowly eroding the support of the Islamist parties.
Saudi Arabia and Iran are theocratic Islamic states, but the minorities don't feel as choked there as they do in Pakistan, and the reason for this is that the governments moderate the leeway given to their people in these countries. In Pakistan, our government is hapless, helpless and clueless, thus individuals like the local village mullah become the government!