Our objective is to keep the tension in the border area alive , yes we may "lose" some skirmishes here and there but we are looking at the long term scenario . By keeping the tensions high in the border region we force the pakistanis to spend more on military , which means they spend less on their people , which in turn reduces their ability to spend more in the military in the future . It is vicious cycle .
We can easily absord the cost of prolonged military tension in the area simply because our economy is much bigger than yours . You want to have parity with india militarily , but for how long will you be able to go on ? Specially when you compromise investing on your people for maintaining that parity . You shot down one of our jets or maybe two but the economy is the real battleground .