Iranian Chill Thread

[Militant Atheist]

That was your first mistake.

Unfortunately that is not something I can control.

 

[KingMamba]

Unfortunately that is not something I can control.

Yes you can you chose to get attached, anyway you will soon learn most of the woman here are not worth the "love" you give them. I grew up here so trust me when I tell you.

 

[Militant Atheist]

Yes you can you chose to get attached, anyway you will soon learn most of the woman here are not worth the "love" you give them. I grew up here so trust me when I tell you.

No. I totally agree. But how do I verify if she is interested or not? She approached me on several company social occasions and tried to conversate with me, I didn't even know her prior to that. She rushed to open entrance door for me one time when I had forgotten my access card (I don't know how she saw me) and she always waves at me when she sees me, but I don't know if she tries to be friendly or there could be a possibility that she might be interested? Figuring this out is kinda a big deal for me!

 

[KingMamba]

No. I totally agree. But how do I verify if she is interested or not? She approached me on several company social occasions and tried to conversate with me, I didn't even know her prior to that. She rushed to open entrance door for me one time when I had forgotten my access card (I don't know how she saw me) and she always waves at me when she sees me, but I don't know if she tries to be friendly or there could be a possibility that she might be interested? Figuring this out is kinda a big deal for me!

Talk to her when she tries to open a conversation with you, honestly most woman will never try to approach a dude unless she is interested, the fact that you say she does this all the time is evidence enough imo. Your self doubt is making things troublesome but trust me when I tell you getting rejected and knowing she is not into you is a whole lot better than always wondering "what if". You have to be quick about it too because most women have short attention spans and will quickly lose interest if she feels you are not reciprocating.

Next time she tries to talk to you make conversation, about anything really it doesn't matter as long as she focuses on you and you hold her attention for more than 5 minutes. Then assuming you are over 21 you can close on it with an invitation for drinks. A line I used with my ex who I recently broke up with was a simple, "well you seem cool, if you want we can continue our conversation over drinks"? Just use that if you cannot think of something on your own. Then if she says sure get her number and end the conversation, do not stand around because it will just make it awkward just say I will text you and we will make plans.

If you cannot hold her attention when talking to her for at least 5 minutes and she starts texting or some other bs in front of you she was probably not interested to begin with or has lost interest. In that case just move on cuz you are beating a dead horse.

 

[Militant Atheist]

Talk to her when she tries to open a conversation with you, honestly most woman will never try to approach a dude unless she is interested, the fact that you say she does this all the time is evidence enough imo. Your self doubt is making things troublesome but trust me when I tell you getting rejected and knowing she is not into you is a whole lot better than always wondering "what if". You have to be quick about it too because most women have short attention spans and will quickly lose interest if she feels you are not reciprocating.

Next time she tries to talk to you make conversation, about anything really it doesn't matter as long as she focuses on you and you hold her attention for more than 5 minutes. Then assuming you are over 21 you can close on it with an invitation for drinks. A line I used with my ex who I recently broke up with was a simple, "well you seem cool, if you want we can continue our conversation over drinks"? Just use that if you cannot think of something on your own. Then if she says sure get her number and end the conversation, do not stand around because it will just make it awkward just say I will text you and we will make plans.

If you cannot hold her attention when talking to her for at least 5 minutes and she starts texting or some other bs in front of you she was probably not interested to begin with or has lost interest. In that case just move on cuz you are beating a dead horse.

Great advice! Thanks bro. I think I screwed up, I never really continued the conversation and to her it might seem as if I blew her off, wheras that's not really the case. I'm shy when it comes to these things. She is our Office Admin Assistant and I barely see her, it would be very lame if I sent her a message? Right? And also, won't it be awkward if she were to reject me? Women talk, and half the freaking company knows me, I'm kind of a black sheep here! it would be very awkward to see her after that, right?

 

[KingMamba]

Great advice! Thanks bro. I think I screwed up, I never really continued the conversation and to her it might seem as if I blew her off, wheras that's not really the case. I'm shy when it comes to these things. She is our Office Admin Assistant and I barely see her, it would be very lame if I sent her a message? Right? And also, won't it be awkward if she were to reject me? Women talk, and half the freaking company knows me, I'm kind of a black ship here! it would be very awkward to see her after that right?

Yeah it will be awkward if she rejects you but it will be better than wondering if you missed out on something. To this day I accidentally call dominican girls by the name of a dominican girl I never asked out lmao and it has been 2 years now. Most of the time I do not even realize I do it until they say something like who is that lol.

Honestly though it is best if you do not do anything with girls in the office anyway, especially if you feel like you already missed the opportunity, You know the saying, "do not shit where you eat", that is what I abide by even at my own workplace. Even if you do score with her but then somewhere down the line you guys break up, she will try to cause you problems through her position as the admin assistant.

Do not message her, if you have never messaged her before how creepy you think it would look you message her like that out of the blue and for something like this?

 

[haman10]

@Turkish_FR sorry to barge in on you like this , sis .

just wanted to 1- reiterate the fact that some turk and iranian members are KNOWN for harassing other members like crazy insane douchebags .

the same harassment has been going on for sometime regarding @ALPfollowerOF373 , and i hope the admins of this site put an end to it

@Horus @WebMaster @Serpentine

2- iran is what it is .... we follow our version of islam (shia islam) and its really strict on the hijjab thingy . its our rules and we are proud of them .

so yeah , if you ever visit iran (and we'd love to have you here) you have to wear an scarf to partially cover your head (at least) . i know that this may come bothering to people who don't view islam as restrictive of hijjab or to christians and jews who don't share the view , but our constitution is written based on shia sharia law which complicates the situation for those people .

and yep , iran is not a heaven . we have our own faulty things , but sure as hell we are not obsessed crazy bunch .

we love others and we hate no one .

visit some time and see for yourself . i doubt that it'll cost much as we are just across the border

 

[Militant Atheist]

Yeah it will be awkward if she rejects you but it will be better than wondering if you missed out on something. To this day I accidentally call dominican girls by the name of a dominican girl I never asked out lmao and it has been 2 years now. Most of the time I do not even realize I do it until they say something like who is that lol.

Honestly though it is best if you do not do anything with girls in the office anyway, especially if you feel like you already missed the opportunity, You know the saying, "do not shit where you eat", that is what I abide by even at my own workplace. Even if you do score with her but then somewhere down the line you guys break up, she will try to cause you problems through her position as the admin assistant.

Do not message her, if you have never messaged her before how creepy you think it would look you message her like that out of the blue and for something like this?

Thanks bro, I really appreciate all the advice. That is exactly what my coworker told me: "Don't shit where you eat". Well, if I found a chance the next time I try to communicate, if we could hit it off, good, if not, I try to forget her

 

[-SINAN-]

No. I totally agree. But how do I verify if she is interested or not? She approached me on several company social occasions and tried to conversate with me, I didn't even know her prior to that. She rushed to open entrance door for me one time when I had forgotten my access card (I don't know how she saw me) and she always waves at me when she sees me, but I don't know if she tries to be friendly or there could be a possibility that she might be interested? Figuring this out is kinda a big deal for me!

Very is to understand, is she treating every body like that or just you ?

Great advice! Thanks bro. I think I screwed up, I never really continued the conversation and to her it might seem as if I blew her off, wheras that's not really the case. I'm shy when it comes to these things. She is our Office Admin Assistant and I barely see her, it would be very lame if I sent her a message? Right? And also, won't it be awkward if she were to reject me? Women talk, and half the freaking company knows me, I'm kind of a black sheep here! it would be very awkward to see her after that, right?

Just ask her out dammit.

Like going to a cafe or restaurant after work. If she accepts, go out, be yourself, go with the flow. If she doesn't accepts, be cool, continue with the life.

Nobody will be like "Militant Atheist asked her out". It's not that hard, bro.

 

[Militant Atheist]

Very is to understand, is she treating every body like that or just you ?




Just ask her out dammit.

Like going to a cafe or restaurant after work. If she accepts, go out, be yourself, go with the flow. If she doesn't accepts, be cool, continue with the life.

Nobody will be like "Militant Atheist asked her out". It's not that hard, bro.

Well, I personally haven't seen her to be like this with anyone. But just because I haven't it doesn't mean it couldn't be the case. There are not awful lot of guys at my company, woman to man ration is 6:1 But unfortunately most of the females here are either too old or not my type, so that leaves it at 2:1 ratio!

The problem is that unfortunately I don't see her that frequently, it would be awkward for me to go to her and tell her to go out with me all of a sudden, no?

 

[DRaisinHerald]

I sure love visiting loveadvice.pk from time to time

 

[-SINAN-]

Well, I personally haven't seen her to be like this with anyone. But just because I haven't it doesn't mean it couldn't be the case. There are not awful lot of guys at my company, woman to man ration is 6:1 But unfortunately most of the females here are either too old or not my type, so that leaves it at 2:1 ratio!

The problem is that unfortunately I don't see her that frequently, it would be awkward for me to go to her and tell her to go out with me all of a sudden, no?

Mate, then let me tell you my story.

2 Years ago, I remembered my friend (girl) from highschool(I have not seen her like 6 years). I found her from facebook. Did a little chat and asked her out. We will get married in the summer.

So, it isn't awkward if you ask me. Just take the chance. You'll lose nothing in the end.

 

[Militant Atheist]

I sure love visiting loveadvice.pk from time to time

To be fair, wars have been fought over women :d

 

[Abii]

Guys I like this girl at my company, I think she likes me too (but I'm not sure 100%, you never can be sure what a woman wants!) but I don't know what to do? I don't see her very often, I don't want to **** things up at my work , otherwise I can't even show up at work. So what the **** Am I supposed to do? I could tell you my interactions with her, and you expericed bros tell me if she is intetested or Am just delusional or something!

I'm not experienced, but I learned one thing very early on: flirting is natural and you have to understand that normal flirting isn't always a sign. Girls are much better at flirting b/c they're more social creatures. We're not as successful when it comes to flirting and we always consider flirting as a sign that she wants more. That's not always the case.

As to what you should do, I have no idea lol.

 

[Militant Atheist]

Mate, then let me tell you my story.

2 Year ago, I remembered my friend (girl) from highschool(I have not seen her like 6 years). I found her from facebook. Did a little chat and asked her out. We will get married in the summer.

So, it isn't awkward if you ask me. Just take the chance. You'll lose nothing in the end.

Ok. Bro, I will. :p