Of course it must always be the right of a woman to refuse to submit to the sexual advances of any male, even if that male is her husband.
Sex must under all circumstances be consensual, even in marriage.
Exactly. Men must ensure that any act of intercourse is with consent of the wife, and that is also the way of Islam. The wife too is required, by Islam, to submit to her husband's needs whenever she is able to do so.
In the same line of understanding, Men must also be able to exercise THEIR rights to multiple wives. This must be strongly encouraged when their spouse(s) are unable to satisfy their needs so that a frustrated husband does not eventually misbehave with his spouse. Sadly, in our society, even the talk of a 2nd wife is like an extreme violation of the existing wife's rights.
The definition of a man forcing a woman against her wishes is rape, even within marriage. Her body is still violated, her mind is still scarred.
We can most definitely do away with nonsense interpretations and the Western ideologies of the word 'rape'; there is NO marital concept of a RAPE in our religion. When we wed according to our religion, we are bound by the laws of our religion and so we must respect them at all times! You must also read up on Allah's commands to wives in regards to the needs of their husbands!
That being said, men must not force themselves on their wives as Allah also commands to treat the spouses with love, affection and respect.
The whole point, which has been spectacularly missed is that a woman is not the property of her husband or anyone else. She is in a consensual voluntary relationship. She has her personal dignity and emotions.
She is not a sex slave from the moment of her nikah.
This isn't about morality, it is about the men's perceived right of dominion over women. This is about maintaining the status quo.
It is absolutely her jism, her marzi.
The more educated women become, the more they will reclaim their rights. That is the exact reason backward elements are against educating girls.
The entire slogan, mera jism meri marzi is fundamentally flawed; it is the parent who cover him/her for the first time when he/she is born, it is the mother who takes care of him/her until he/she is physically able to do so, it is the elders of the family who teach him/her morality, humility, shame; it is the family which gives them education and a sense of independence along with roles and responsibilities.
Mera jism meri marzi is a flawed concept, can we take even a breath or move even an eyelid without the permission of Allah? Beyond that, Are we NOT bound by social and legal boundaries as to what we can and cannot do even with our own bodies? Can a body legally commit suicide? If you cannot even take your own life legally, how can it be mera jism meri marzi?
Moving on, why forget that it is the Men who die protecting their women, their honor? The fathers will die protecting the life and honor of his daughter, the brother will die for his sister, husbands will die for their wives and sons for their mothers. Have men ever sacrificed any less than the women? Even when a man does indeed set boundaries for the women under his charge (daughters mainly), it is only intended to protect the child rather than anything else. Just as an example, I do not allow my daughter to iron clothes even though she wants to do it; it is not because I am infringing on her rights, it is because I am concerned that she may hurt herself. I DO own her, her little pain gives me severe pain, her little discomfort causes me massive discomfort, her desires become my aim and her wishes become the purpose of my existence; she is my little world and I would do anything for her and so to protect her I have many rules.........the only purpose of the rules is to ensure her safety and security because just as she is my daughter, I am her father and it is my responsibility and desire to protect her over all others.