The reason I was disappointed was because of expectations, of women and children with colorful dresses and an atmosphere of comradery between men and women folks that I see in our Hindu weddings. Muslims and Dalits tend to live in isolated bubbles of their own making. Only solution is education and upliftment. As an example, out of 30 or odd commercial tenants our family have, only one is Muslim. Even though my cousins are reluctant to give their properties to Muslim, I did not discriminate. My muslim tenant turned out to be the best tenant one can hope for. He pays on time and is very progressive and religious at the same time. Only has two kids, one daughter is doing phd and the other son is in Australia doing MS.