'Having a Second Kid Isn't as Simple as Adding Another Pair of Chopsticks'

[NiceGuy]

LOL ... don't u tell others that u didn't need to buy a house/apartment for ur family coz ur family with ur old parents living together ?

In China most village ppl like u also living very happy but most not happy in city, coz they need money to buy house and living.

Im 100% sure @BoQ77 ur family is special-class family in Vietnam city or belong to rich-class not stand for normal Vietnamese family, is that right ?

I and my wife also live wt my parents in a city. I have an apartment in SaiGon, but it is for rent so I can have some more money to pay for living.

I got one baby, and I think thats enough. Living in Vn cities is not so easy to feed more kids (if u wanna raise them well ),too . My friends and their wives also live wt their parents to save the living cost.

 

[cnleio]

I and my wife also live wt my parents in a city. I have an apartment in SaiGon, but it is for rent so I can have some more money to pay for living.

I got one baby, and I think thats enough. Living in Vn cities is not so easy to feed more kids (if u wanna raise them well ),too . My friends and their wives also live wt their parents to save the living cost.

Most Chinese family in city having 1~2x kids, in village more than 2x kids. I think future for most Chinese parents still at most 2x kids, the cost of living condition in China city not cheap especially school education & house price.

I didn't have kids yet, but i also plan 2x kids ... i had my house but we need save money for another one, my parents have more than one houses in China but they r enjoying their own life. Im earning life for my family in another city. I hope my child can live happy and receive higher education in China, im afraid it's not easy for me to afford more than 2x kids.

 

[NiceGuy]

Most Chinese family in city having 1~2x kids, in village more than 2x kids. I think future for most Chinese parents still at most 2x kids, the cost of living condition in China city not cheap especially school education & house price.

I didn't have kids yet, but i also plan 2x kids ... i had my house but we need save money for another one, my parents have more than one houses but they r enjoying their life in China. Im earning life for my family in another city.

As I know, China economy is down again in Q3. So, if u have wife u should tell ur wife to live wt ur parents to save the living cost like us. The world economy is getting worse, so we should do our best to survive now.

 

[RISING SUN]

Most Chinese family in city having 1~2x kids, in village more than 2x kids. I think future for most Chinese parents still at most 2x kids, the cost of living condition in China city not cheap especially school education & house price.

I didn't have kids yet, but i also plan 2x kids ... i had my house but we need save money for another one, my parents have more than one houses but they r enjoying their life in China. Im earning life for my family in another city.

It is almost same in most of the major developing countries. Here in India if you are living in village you end up marrying at pretty younger age around 20 to 22 years. While in cities marriage age moves around 25 to 30 years. I am myself 26 and have a girlfriend, engaged with her in hybrid system and marriage date is set for next year 9th may. We have been disscussing how many kids do we want, where to get flat, how to continue enjoy our love life in this stress full life us. She is also military teacher. I understand it is so much difficult to have even 2 kids although I love kids a lot. But here in Mumbai it is pretty hectic and fast.

 

[cnleio]

As I know, China economy is down again in Q3. So, if u have wife u should tell ur wife to live wt ur parents to save the living cost like us. The world economy is getting worse, so we should do our best to survive now.

I have my girlfriend, i believe she's the one be my wife. My parents & her parents & us all live in different cities, we plan to set a family in our working city once work out it's not easy to return hometown, coz our friends & networking & business all in this city different with our hometowns.

 

[William Hung]

I have my girlfriend, i believe she's the one be my wife. My parents & her parents & us all live in different cities, we plan to set a family in our working city once work out it's not easy to return hometown, coz our friends & networking & business all in this city different with our hometowns.

I'm not married yet but I'm already thinking about my future family. I really want to have 3 kids, but according to my calculation, I will not be able to live comfortably and have enough income to look after them all. So I plan to have 2 wives and 3 kids. That way, me and my 2 wives will make enough money to take care of 3 kids. And if one of my kid or wife die in an accident, I still have the spare one.

 

[NiceGuy]

I have my girlfriend, i believe she's the one be my wife. My parents & her parents & us all live in different cities, we plan to set a family in our working city once work out it's not easy return hometown, coz our friends & networking & business all in this city different with our hometown.

Ah, luckily I was born ,grew up, got married and have a job in the city, so I can live wt my parents. Many of my friends studying wt me in university dont have houses in the city, so they and their wives have to rent a house . Many of them r in financial trouble when having 2 (or more) babies coz they have to pay for many things to survive in the city.

SO, we should have only 1 kids if we live in a big city and when r not rich.

 

[cnleio]

I'm not married yet but I'm already thinking about my future family. I really want to have 3 kids, but according to my calculation, I will not be able to live comfortably and have enough income to look after them all. So I plan to have 2 wives and 3 kids. That way, me and my 2 wives will make enough money to take care of 3 kids. And if one of my kid or wife die in an accident, I still have the spare one.

lol ... that's a dangerous idea ! Girl / Woman is very easy to jealousy ...

 

[NiceGuy]

I'm not married yet but I'm already thinking about my future family. I really want to have 3 kids, but according to my calculation, I will not be able to live comfortably and have enough income to look after them all. So I plan to have 2 wives and 3 kids. That way, me and my 2 wives will make enough money to take care of 3 kids. And if one of my kid or wife die in an accident, I still have the spare one.

2 wives ??? , bad idea.

 

[cnleio]

Ah, luckily I was born ,grew up, got married and have a job in the city, so I can live wt my parents. Many of my friends studying wt me in university dont have houses in the city, so they and their wives have to rent a house . Many of them r in financial trouble when having 2 (or more) babies coz they have to pay for many things to survive in the city.

SO, we should have only 1 kids if we live in a big city and when r not rich.

Rent house is OKay, although i had my house now i also rent a house for saving money. We clearly know the life having baby or not, it's a very different life for most family ... it means the extra cost for new family member.

Rent house + feed babies, it's a very hard life for many parents ... it means u have to abandom ur dream to take care ur baby.

A successful person must be stick to the dream and get achievement, ur kids is the only problem and u have to spend time & money to take care them.

 

[William Hung]

lol ... that's a dangerous idea ! Girl / Woman is very easy to jealousy ...

No, a wife only get jealous if they found out you have a girlfriend or mistress. I will be very careful to keep my girlfriend a secret from my wives.

2 wives ??? , bad idea.

No, it's a good idea:

If I make $900 a week, then I have to divide by 3 = $300 to look after my 3 kids.

If I have 2 wives, then both of them work for the total income of $1800, divide by 3 = $600.

This means I dont even have to work and just spend time with my girlfriend.

 

[Soryu]

I'm not married yet but I'm already thinking about my future family. I really want to have 3 kids, but according to my calculation, I will not be able to live comfortably and have enough income to look after them all. So I plan to have 2 wives and 3 kids. That way, me and my 2 wives will make enough money to take care of 3 kids. And if one of my kid or wife die in an accident, I still have the spare one.

what ? Where're you come from ? Arab states or Indonesia !?

 

[William Hung]

what ? Where're you come from ? Arab states or Indonesia !?

You can use my strategy no matter where you are.

 

[cnleio]

No, a wife only get jealous if they found out you have a girlfriend or mistress. I will be very careful to keep my girlfriend a secret from my wives.



No, it's a good idea:

If I make $900 a week, then I have to divide by 3 = $300 to look after my 3 kids.

If I have 2 wives, then both of them work for the total income of $1800, divide by 3 = $600.

This means I dont even have to work and just spend time with my girlfriend.

LOL ... when u find a girlfriend, she will make u disappointed. That's unwork !

I don't know foreign family ... at least in China after u get marraged, the Household Finance managed by ur wife and u will hand in most of ur salary to wife on time ... so if a Chinese husband wanna find another girl / woman in secret, u'd better earn more money or have another business.

 

[FairAndUnbiased]

I never knew Chinese also have arranged marriages, I will most probably go for arranged marriage to someone in my distant relation(this is the best way to know about the girl or boy through relatives). Once my roommate proposed a girl, she got angry and broke the friendship, stop talking with him after that. So, many Indian boys are shy to go beyond friendship.

In my parents day, there were no arranged marriages in my province. Usually what happened in those days is an introduction by parents or relatives, to start up the relationship, but whether to take it further is up to the couple. Right now, independent love marriages probably account for about 80% of all marriages, 19% are introduced, and less than 1% are actually arranged.

However, my grandparents on my father's side had a real arranged marriage with neither having a say. They're 80+ years old.