Proudpakistaniguy
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Who said baby girl is curse? You guys don't even read before jumping toward reply. You are suggesting that having desire for son after having many daughters is some sort of curse. The family whom i know personally love their daughters but want next child as boy. How this is equal to cursing girls when they already have three daughters and love them?First of all baby girl isnt a curse . there is a balance of genders made by nature no need to disturb it .
If the only argument you have is that it is against nature then so is birth control ,IVF, blood transfusions chemotherapy etc . If couples don't adopt birth control then nature would give them dozen kids if not more lol You are talking about overall ratio of males and females on this planet while I am talking about ratio of male and females within one family not entire planet. Nature may make this overall balancing by giving one couple three girls and another couple three son so there is overall balance but its imbalance for individuals family
Third point which is very important. There are couples with two or three sons and they also desire girl as next child to get this feeling of having daughter so would this be a curse for boys? I don't think so
If I talk about my personal opinion then its not practically possible to look after your old parent if you don't live with them when they need you the most. If I am living in UK and they are living n Pakistan then all I could do is call/text/video chat which is not same as giving them helping hand and provide them all emotional and physical support which they need over there.Same way the husband will do WHILE he is living with his wife at a different place?
Again, children aren't caretaker of their parents, thats a toxic way of life which people think they can give birth to a bunch of kids just so they can take care of them in the old age. I don't know where this idea comes from. but it needs to end. Preferring a son over a daughter because daughters might not be able to handle the dad when he becomes sick? Have we fallen that low?
We can no longer use the excuse that both genders are required as kids because of the roles genders play. There are single moms and single dads. There are working moms and working dads. There are stay-at-home moms and stay-at-home dads. So that argument doesn't really work in current times.
There are 100+ countries on this planet. If they can move on from this primitive thinking, I'm sure we can as well
Dude you are very judgemental . I was also harsh on them initially but then I realized that its easy to bash others while its hard to give them suggestions to remove their fears of future. Its natural for parent to develop certain expectations from children and even if parent don't expect anything from children but still society and religion hold us accountable for not caring and looking after our old parent as they did look after us when we were helpless.
I am living in western society and I have seen that old parent waiting for death in old homes or in their flats and most of them feel so lonely because their children are busy in their own lives and give them visit just monthly or just on special occasion like xmas/easter/bank holiday so its not something ideal to copy from west. You also need to look at those families in Pakistan where father/Husband died at early stage and left many daughters and wife behind him who then depend on others . If such family has son then he take responsibility for mother and sisters once father is gone
You have some valid points over there as we all should have faith in Allah and should have minimum expectation from creation of Allah even if they are our own children because you never know what future hold for us . You could be as lonely in old age as parent with no kids even if you have 5 kids but they all turn out to be selfish individuals who abandon their parents at the time of needI have come across families with 4++ girls and then finally a boy and vice versa. And those families too where the only boy (amongst girls) left the parents after he got married and the daughters are taking turns in looking after the parents. And even those who never had a boy but a really loving son-in-law (s).
Point I'm making is that we do not know what the future will be like. So I'm inclined to say 'go with what Allah has chosen for you'. Bring up the daughters as best as you can and marry them in good families with strong values and principles. Leave the 'who will look after us in old age' part to Allah, He provides for all. But do save for old age to avoid financial dependency on children.
I have watched BOL so there is no comparisonreminds me of the movie 'Bol'.
Mullah in movie bol was against birth control so he kept producing girls even when he had no resources to support them while in here they love daughters and have all resources to give them better life but they also wish to have son as next children
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