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You are contradicting your self by suggesting that there is nothing wrong with Islam, but then saying that it needs to be changed. Well if there is nothing wrong with it, then it doesn't need to be changed.I am not saying that there is anything wrong with Islam.
I am questioning whether the interpretation needs to be updated to modern setting.
As you know that a flowing water keeps it fresh, whereas a stagnant body of water starts to stink. Hence, with the flow of time, religious interpretation needs to also get updated.
With regards to your asking source, I agree that I do not have any authentic source but I am leaving to anyone's best judgement / common sense to what we see in today's times.
Keeping concubines / mistress is a thing of bygone era. Kings and high ranking ministers used to do so. Today, monarchy is almost non-existent. Where in non-muslim societies do you see people keeping concubines.
If you are saying that having 4 wives suppresses men's urge to have extra marital relations, do you have any proof of that? If one wife did not satisfy the man, what is the guarantee that 4 wives will?
I understand that most muslims are still in monogamous relationship and thats a good thing. However, the ones that are in polygamous relationship, what is the psychological and emotional impact on wives (I would say that these are semi-willing at best since they are financially dependent in most cases)? What is the impact on children in such a household? These children might grow up to assume that having multiple sexual partners is perfectly fine.
I think I have laid out all my arguments and I have nothing further to contribute on this topic. We can agree to disagree on this.
Thank you for participating in this discussion with me.
Keeping mistresses is not a thing of the bygone era. I am sure you can search that up yourself if you really believe in that argument.
No where did I suggest that having 4 wives is enough to suppress a man urge. I didn't not even bring that up in discussion. My argument has nothing to do with what is able to suppress the mans urges. It simply states, that regulating polygamy with restrictions and allowing it under some circumstances has benefited society. And the results of an Islamic system can been seen in reduction of rape, prostitution and cervical cancer.
Thats your opinion when you generalize that most women in polygamous relationships are unhappy financially dependent and emotionally abused. I disagree with that, and instead believe that most women who enter into a polygamous relationship (esp non muslim), they do it when the man holds a substantially higher social status.
Bottom line in Islam, they are not being forced. They are open to join or leave as they please and they will still remain muslim. Where as the muslim man is being restricted to 4 and puts serious conditions on the modus operand. Which other religion puts such a restriction on men?
Why should Islam be reformed for restricting this. Where as the whole world can choose to be in a polygamous relationship if they desire. How will Islam stop non muslims from being in polygamous relationships or stop the men abusing women as mistresses. There is a whole culture and market for learning to become a mistress. Various documentaries on it are available on line.
Cheers