Dear Pakistanis, why do you think single women are a joke?

[I.R.A]

sir jee who to pagal tha no one want to live among those guys .
main to yeah kah raha tha kay agar ek banda casual drinker ho( alcoholic nahi) .haftey main ek adhi bar ek peg laganey wala or who non marital relation main rehna chahta hay to asey logon say bhi society walon ko masla kyu hota hay.who to na kisi ko tang kartey hain bus apney kam say kam rakhtey hain.

Yar its different when you are living in apartments, garo ki bat aur hay. Apartments may privacy kum rehti hy. Masla tab hota hay jab pooray ka poora tola pee pila kay train chalany nikal ata hay sarak par ........... aur bahi ashnai aik kay sath rehay to phir bhi theak hy ....... par her haftay aik naya chehra namoodar ho to zahir hay shareef log to wahan say baghay gay he na.

 

[Hell hound]

Yar its different when you are living in apartments, garo ki bat aur hay. Apartments may privacy kum rehti hy. Masla tab hota hay jab pooray ka poora tola pee pila kay train chalany nikal ata hay sarak par ........... aur bahi ashnai aik kay sath rehay to phir bhi theak hy ....... par her haftay aik naya chehra namoodar ho to zahir hay shareef log to wahan say baghay gay he na.

sir jee is bat main bilkul app kay sath hon .bahir nikal kay tamsha karna or pr****tutes lay kay ana sara sar galat hay.

 

[I.R.A]

sir jee is bat main main bilkul app kay sath hon .bahir nikal kay tamsha karna or pr****tutes lay kay ana sara sar galat hay.

Aur yeh sab hota hay jabi families in ko apnay area may nahi anay deti ................ aur baychary kuch shareef in ki waja say khuwar ho jaty hain.

 

[Hell hound]

Aur yeh sab hota hay jabi families in ko apnay area may nahi anay deti ................ aur baychary kuch shareef in ki waja say khuwar ho jaty hain.

sir jee 5 flats or ghar change kaye thay lahore main different reason ki wajha say (kabhi rent ki to kabhi ek banday kay chor kay janey ki wajha say) har flat pichlay waley say zyda mushkil say milta tha.or kabhi koi ulti harkat nahi ki thi larki or bottle to dor ki bat. pata nahi as pass kay log pehlay din say hi kyu hostile hotey they.
app sari sari raat loud volume main tv dekhtey thay hum loud volume main ek movies dekh lain to owner ko phone

 

[I.R.A]

sir jee 5 flats or ghar change kaye thay lahore main different reason ki wajha say (kabhi rent ki to kabhi ek banday kay chor kay janey ki wajha say) har flat pichlay waley say zyda mushkil say milta tha.or kabhi koi ulti harkat nahi ki thi larki or bottle to dor ki bat. pata nahi as pass kay log pehlay din say hi kyu hostile hotey they.

Yar may nay yeh sara bughta hy Karachi may .............. aik jaga to flat ka owner razi tha humay flat dainay k liay par paroosi nay rola dal dia ............ hum parosi say ja k milay bhi btaya b kay bahi hum subah jaty hain rat ko wapis aty hain aur weekends pay kapray dhonay aur parhai k ilawa humary pass time he nai hota .......... par nai he said mayri jawan baitia hain .............. humay Jauhar complex (mat pocho kaisi jaga hy) may rehna para 8 mahinay phir ja kay Malir Cantt may aik portion karay py mila. Ub kuch ulu kay patho ki waja say doosro ko bhi bhugtna parta hay.

 

[padamchen]

I used to laugh at such kind of post , that Pakistani people are a bit nosy about other peoples private matters. Our aunties and uncles are always asking"shadi kub karani hai" and i get into a long argument "shadi kerni hai kerani nhn hai lolx"...but thats their traditional way .......aunties inquiring bout khush khabri . everyone nosing into every single affairs .......but i have not given it a bit of a thought.
But me as a male , 26th year old and my parents are after me that i marry instantly . They have been asking me to marry since i graduate, first they are merely start mentioning , then insisting and now forcing , always pointing out potential partners. they are parents and its their job to think about their kids .
But what i am most amazed and mad about is the behaviour of the society . everyone inquires about you . apparently the quote of jane austin modified by me a bit is very right
"It is a truth universally acknowledged in pakistan, that a single man in possession of a good job, must be in want of a wife."
It is very strange , the neighbors are inquiring your mother that why you dont marry at the age of 26 , your aunties are most worried and telling your mother"ab to ho jani chahiya shadi etc" . and apparently all every family member was interested in is your marriage . even the far flung relatives inquire about your marriage .
the married friends look at you pityingly as though your parents are doing injustice with you by not marrying you instantly , they don't grasp the idea that maybe you not ready to be married yet........
what they fail to grasp is that one marries when one wanted to, and its none of their business . if they are married it is not their duty to get everyone married .
i don't discouraged early marriages but everyone has their own mind , most of my friends are married instantly as soon as they graduate from colleges . but one can also choose to marry later in life . its not the end after all .
i can totally imagine what scenario it is for girls if this happens in the society with guys.
it is totally different thing if your parents worry about your marriage but the society , relative have no business but none follow this formula . apparently it is every body business in pakistan .....

Bro, your parents and all other nosy aunties and uncles are right. I had a one year old at your age. Its great to be a parent. Its just that much nicer (and easier) being a young parent.

 

[I.R.A]

Its just that much nicer (and easier) being a young parent.

Also good for well being and confident personality of the child.

 

[padamchen]

Also good for well being and confident personality of the child.

I have seen old-er parents. Whether first timers or not. Not being judgmental, but the parent kid relationship is different. And obviously the energy levels are much lower.

 

[I.R.A]

I have seen old-er parents. Whether first timers or not. Not being judgmental, but the parent kid relationship is different. And obviously the energy levels are much lower.

That's what I had hinted in one of my posts here. I had a colleague who wanted to get married at an age of 23 ...... I asked him why so early? And he replied I want to ride with my 17 year old son when I too look young

 

[padamchen]

Masla tab hota hay jab pooray ka poora tola pee pila kay train chalany nikal ata hay sarak par ...........

Jawani yaad dila di

 

[LeGenD]

@padamchen

You are wise and very logical about it. Unfortunately, Feminists do not get it. I think that people like you should become more vocal about your point-of-view to create balance.

 

[padamchen]

That's what I had hinted in one of my posts here. I had a colleague who wanted to get married at an age of 23 ...... I asked him why so early? And he replied I want to ride with my 17 year old son when I too look young

The biggest ego boost I got once was when my son and I had gone trekking with a big group on a particularly difficult technical ascent. At one of the rest points when everybody was relaxing and having water, energy bars etc. I saw/heard couple of pretty girls ask my son whether I was his elder brother. I made sure my wife got to hear about it when we returned of course. And a few times afterwards as well.

 

[I.R.A]

Jawani yaad dila di

Why train yar? Koi bus chala lo yeh sab train he kiu chalaty hain

 

[خره مينه لګته وي]

In my experience, very few women actually consciously delay getting married. Bas ho jata hai. There is then a period of depression and frustration. If she weathers that, then the woman who emerges on the other side is someone who more often than not is really interesting.

Many womens dont want to get married in age which is suitable rather they want to complete their studies (i'm not against it) including get a Job & when they reach the age of 28+ then they start looking at marriage !! when they cross 28 mark then obviously you'll have a partner who is 10 years older or in some cases 4,5 yrs gap in age, that's the exact time when they start complaining abt the (possible) life partner age i have seen some women who have a prob with that & without Thaluqaths and if u dont have a lot of Rishtedars who can help u to find a partner for u then they face a lot of problems and have to marry without many choices...

 

[padamchen]

Many womens dont want to get married in age which is suitable rather they want to complete their studies (i'm not against it) including get a Job & when they reach the age of 28+ then they start looking at marriage !! when they cross 28 mark then obviously you'll have a partner who is 10 years older or in some cases 4,5 yrs gap in age, that's the exact time when they start complaining abt the (possible) life partner age i have seen some women who have a prob with that & without Thaluqaths and if u dont have a lot of Rishtedars who can help u to find a partner for u then they face a lot of problems and have to marry without many choices...

Ya I know. Marriage and kids completely buggers up studies. And I'm a guy. I used to study late into the night holding my little one because he would not sleep. Him in one arm, the other one holding the book and turning pages. Very smoothly, lest he wake up. And then I had to walk around.

Would I do the same given the option once more? You bet!