Dealing with Loss

[Ace of Spades]

Recently, I lost someone to the pandemic and was a part of the process that saw them lose in the end to the virus. There were times when everyone was hopeful but in the end it proved too much. I've been in situations where I've buried more people than I would have liked to in one lifetime and have seen people succumb to death both professionally and personally.

I must say that the current laxness that I'm seeing all around to the pandemic is quite worrisome for me because I don't want to see people go through what I did. It isn't easy because it's different. You cannot say goodbye now, as the recommended thing to do is to avoid funerals and wrap the body in heavy plastic sheets for burial. All religions enable mourning (psychologically) by giving the grieving members a chance to say goodbye as the person unites with their Creator.

This feels quite different as it's taken away from us.

However, in the end we are insignificant in the grand scheme of things no matter what our faith or view of the world/ universe is. Death is the great equalizer for all. We must find meaning in the suffering otherwise, are we even alive even if we're living?

I dedicate this to all those who've lost someone.

Do not go gentle in that good night.

Stay safe and keep the quarantine on everyone. With you in all our tribulations.

Very sorry for your loss brother; may Allah grant him jannah and sabar to all of your family members.

And indeed people are getting desensitized by constantly hearing about coivd related news; hence the lax behavior by masses. It's quite important for us individually to keep reminding our loved ones to stay safe and follow the protocols. Now is the most important point in the covid cycle in Pakistan; hospitals will start to get overwhelmed now. With low capacity it will be very difficult for the system to cope with the intakes. Stay home and stay safe everyone. May Allah protect us all.

 

[Safriz]

So sorry to know about your loss.
May Allah grant جنت to the deceased and صبر to the relatives.

This COVID-19 situation is new to the world and cultural and religious norms were broken everywhere due to this.

Hope Allah forgives us all and ends this pandemic.

 

[jaibi]

Ameen, brother, that's what I'm asking others as well.

Very sorry for your loss brother; may Allah grant him jannah and sabar to all of your family members.

And indeed people are getting desensitized by constantly hearing about coivd related news; hence the lax behavior by masses. It's quite important for us individually to keep reminding our loved ones to stay safe and follow the protocols. Now is the most important point in the covid cycle in Pakistan; hospitals will start to get overwhelmed now. With low capacity it will be very difficult for the system to cope with the intakes. Stay home and stay safe everyone. May Allah protect us all.

 

[I S I]

My father had been on ventilator for two weeks in UAE due to Covid-19. He couldn't survive the virus and passed away on 1st May.
No good-byes, no participation in funeral, no seeing or even hearing him for the last time.
All this is making it impossible to understand the fact that he is no more.
I pray that no one else goes through such thing. All you do is feel empty or nothing at all.

Brother very sorry for your loss. May Allah grant your father highest place in Jannah & give sabar to you & your family. Be strong.

 

[jaibi]

Ameen, brother

So sorry to know about your loss.
May Allah grant جنت to the deceased and صبر to the relatives.

This COVID-19 situation is new to the world and cultural and religious norms were broken everywhere due to this.

Hope Allah forgives us all and ends this pandemic.

 

[Ace of Spades]

My father had been on ventilator for two weeks in UAE due to Covid-19. He couldn't survive the virus and passed away on 1st May.
No good-byes, no participation in funeral, no seeing or even hearing him for the last time.
All this is making it impossible to understand the fact that he is no more.
I pray that no one else goes through such thing. All you do is feel empty or nothing at all.

Very sorry for your loss, may Allah grant your father a high place in jannah and gives you and your family sabr. Ina lillahi wa inna ilihi rajiun.

 

[KhanBaba2]

Agreed, brother, my prayers with your friend. I can feel what they went through.

I am deeply sorry for your loss.

My father had been on ventilator for two weeks in UAE due to Covid-19. He couldn't survive the virus and passed away on 1st May.
No good-byes, no participation in funeral, no seeing or even hearing him for the last time.
All this is making it impossible to understand the fact that he is no more.
I pray that no one else goes through such thing. All you do is feel empty or nothing at all.

My Condolences.

 

[jaibi]

Thank you, brother, please stay safe along with your family!

I am deeply sorry for your loss.




My Condolences.

 

[Joe Shearer]

Recently, I lost someone to the pandemic and was a part of the process that saw them lose in the end to the virus. There were times when everyone was hopeful but in the end it proved too much. I've been in situations where I've buried more people than I would have liked to in one lifetime and have seen people succumb to death both professionally and personally.

I must say that the current laxness that I'm seeing all around to the pandemic is quite worrisome for me because I don't want to see people go through what I did. It isn't easy because it's different. You cannot say goodbye now, as the recommended thing to do is to avoid funerals and wrap the body in heavy plastic sheets for burial. All religions enable mourning (psychologically) by giving the grieving members a chance to say goodbye as the person unites with their Creator.

This feels quite different as it's taken away from us.

However, in the end we are insignificant in the grand scheme of things no matter what our faith or view of the world/ universe is. Death is the great equalizer for all. We must find meaning in the suffering otherwise, are we even alive even if we're living?

I dedicate this to all those who've lost someone.

Do not go gentle in that good night.

Stay safe and keep the quarantine on everyone. With you in all our tribulations.

I avoided reading this as long as I could. Finally an overwhelming sense of guilt drove me here.

You see, @jaibi , these days every month certainly, sometimes more frequently than that, there is news of a friend, a former colleague, a former college mate, a former school fellow, a relative, some poor soul I had known casually, going away. Now there is not so much a painful feeling any more, there is more of a sense of dread.

Older people no longer ask for whom the bell tolls; we recognise that it is tolling for us.

I am now over the average life-span for an Indian. Statistically, I must take my leave of you; it may not be given to take it formally later. It is not pain any more; more a sense of grim and unwilling acceptance of what is inevitable. I am very sorry for you, but that is all it can be; there is too much scar tissue over the cuts, bruises and bigger wounds to feel very much any longer.

My sincere condolences.

 

[Nilgiri]

Condolences for your loss @jaibi and all others here that experienced same.

 

[DESERT FIGHTER]

Innaililahewainnaileheyrajeoon

May Allah Pak bless your loved ones and give patience and strength to you all.

Im truly sorry for you losses brothers.

 

[jaibi]

Sir, thank you for your warm words, I really appreciate them. The same thing that you feel, I have felt too from the same sources. Unfortunately, I think, this pandemic makes more sense to those of us who've been closer to death than rest of the population and that's why we are taking it much more seriously. However, I sincerely hope that this isn't our goodbye but if it is, then it's been a pleasure.

This has overpowered me the same way it has done you; all I can be is sorry and sorrowful and nothing more but in the end perhaps that's all that humanity can be in the end.

My deepest regards, sir.

I avoided reading this as long as I could. Finally an overwhelming sense of guilt drove me here.

You see, @jaibi , these days every month certainly, sometimes more frequently than that, there is news of a friend, a former colleague, a former college mate, a former school fellow, a relative, some poor soul I had known casually, going away. Now there is not so much a painful feeling any more, there is more of a sense of dread.

Older people no longer ask for whom the bell tolls; we recognise that it is tolling for us.

I am now over the average life-span for an Indian. Statistically, I must take my leave of you; it may not be given to take it formally later. It is not pain any more; more a sense of grim and unwilling acceptance of what is inevitable. I am very sorry for you, but that is all it can be; there is too much scar tissue over the cuts, bruises and bigger wounds to feel very much any longer.

My sincere condolences.

Thank you, brothers, please be safe and keep others around you safe as well. Until we see better days.

Condolences for your loss @jaibi and all others here that experienc

Innaililahewainnaileheyrajeoon

May Allah Pak bless your loved ones and give patience and strength to you all.

Im truly sorry for you losses brothers.

ed same.