gambit
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From living in both cities and suburb.People instinctively separate themselves from each other in the park? What are you talking about? People obviously separate themselves if they don't know each other. What do you expect? Strangers forming up a circle together?
New Yorkers have to go outside to have a sense of privacy because apartments does not give privacy? People visit parks to have a sense of privacy? Where did you get that from? I find your claim getting more and more unfounded.
Nowhere did I said an apartment do not give you a sense of privacy. What I said was a different kind that one would get with a standalone house. A prisoner in solitary confinement definitely have privacy from his neighbors, no ? Maybe that was an extreme, but it illustrated the point. When you live in a house, even though you know there is another house to your right, one to your left, and one behind you, that empty space between everyone gives a more psychologically assured sense of privacy.
When I had to travel for business, I do not have that sense of privacy in a hotel room, no matter how much I paid to have a good suite instead of a room. When you pay rent, it is difficult to call your apartment a 'home', and you use the word 'home' in the most casual context. But for a house and even if that house have a mortgage, a sense of ownership is inevitable and you look at that abode in a different manner, like a captain of a ship calling that ship 'mine' even though he knows the government is the real owner of that ship. Home ownership gives a sense of freedom and responsibility that no apartment under renting can give.
That is why over the yrs, I came to regards the apartment as a prison cell, regardless of its luxury level and how many people wants it.