Alpha1
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mayra bhai!..........i personally feel that 35 is the best age for marriage..till then enjoy,save money get a car,a flat and then settle down..
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mayra bhai!..........i personally feel that 35 is the best age for marriage..till then enjoy,save money get a car,a flat and then settle down..
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I propose our masjids/Islamic schools to hold multiple courses of the following structured certification before marriage.
1. Importance of marriage in Islam and why?
2. Eligibility for marriage.
3. Rights and responsibilities in marriage of spouse and respective in-laws
4. How to choose a spouse? Dealing with a marriage proposal- handling expectations
5. Marriage contract- nikkah and its understanding- placing trust in Allah swt?
6. Sunnah of marriage ceremonies- stories from the Prophet pbuh and Ansar
7. What is marriage like? Working on your marriage and its barakah
8. Why have children? As blessings and Sadqah Jarriyah
9. Rights of children and parents rights on them
10. How to nurture and raise children- Importance of raising children for society and in the eyes of Allah swt.
Perhaps after this could be certified, marriage should be allowed in the first place.
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Two questions provide the answers to most marriages:
1. Is the boy having a good job and pay? Munda kerda kee hey?
2. Is the girl young and fair? Kuri kinni sohni hey?
Done.
Yaaaniii aaap kiii baaat pakiii ho gaiii !
I fail at these questions, so NO. Sadly.
Sir jeee mein kehtaa hunnn choroooo parahiii wagheraaa - Mein Butt aur aaap Honorary Butt - Lets open a Pakistani Deli in Canada !
Achaaa jokes aside - Yaraa achaa bhalaaa bandaa tou haiii tuuu....kiyaa ho giyaa haiii ? Why so depressed ?
I dream of marriages to come about after extensive training and understanding- not only will that solve most grievances post-marriage, but better upbringing of our future Muslim youth.
You can't find or prepare for love with extensive training, nor is love something that you can understand ie rationalize. You can find love only by trial and error and even then it might not be for life.
btw i've seen a couple of interviews with old couples, when asked what is the secret to a long lasting marriage (50+ yrs) the man always told "Saying yes".
Kinda depressing.....
although this thread is above my age-has PDF started new service of Matchmaking ?
has PDF started new service of Matchmaking ?