When a student,or while in the phase of building up/choosing your career never ever take up a responsibility on your shoulders.
Hopefully you'll know where i'm coming from.There are exceptions where resources give someone the freedom.Society in our part of the world is such that,they'll make you do things that you'll not find anywhere in your priority list.
For a student ,the goal should be higher education in the best or a better institution.Try to just focus on your basic responsibilities -- those are really all that matter, and everything else is just a distraction.Things don't get easier when you strap yourself to some seat and think of performing every feat in the book that your heart desires.
I don't know how much do you agree with me on this.But at the end the decision must be yours and you must not let yourself be influenced by emotions.While climbing the ladder better not stop and pluck the flowers you find around you.Finish your journey and go for the fruit at the top.You'll enjoy the respect and everything that comes your way.
We are the third world and mostly our institutions can not afford highly qualified professionals for services,so they pick us up from an immature level and try to build upon that base in a way they desire.Meanwhile doing so, we pay the price with the precious time we have in our hands.I'll stop here.
Firstly, S.U.R.B. I would like to thank you for your advice: it is very mature and relevant. I see exactly what you mean and what you have tried to highlight. However, SURB, it's not so. If you read my first post, I've basically told everyone that I'm from a middle-class family with parents in the education service, I'm the eldest of my siblings, and I know that I'm a gifted student but my family has really taken some hard hits. I had to leave college and give my A'Levels privately because of family reasons; I had to start tuitions to be able to help. So, as Marxs says, I am well aware of the power of economics.
Secondly, SURB, I have tried for jobs in my field: with publications in the journals, editorship and such I believed I would be a strong candidate for teaching jobs but guess what every single time I got turned down and people with much lower skills and qualifications than me got the jobs. Reason?
Seefarish and I do not have that. That was why I turned towards a merit based employment, the private sector and even the government run jobs not on merit are basically run on contacts regardless of your qualifications and this has happened to me 6 times.
Thirdly, with P.hD, which takes about 4-6 years, there is no guarantee of employment. I saw it in my own university that a Cambridge Ph.D fellow was kept on contract and then easily let go; ever since the HEC has been stripped of power our educational institutions are running like the perfect bureaucracy of Pakistan. I have witnessed this change during my 4 year tenure at my university how the face of the whole educational scenario has changed. Ph.D professors on the tenure track system of HEC were quitely shifted to the institutional pay scale and then fired within 6-8 months. I personally know of 5 people who have done either Masters or Ph.Ds from outside and could not find employment in their own city. They had to go to cities like Multan, Jhang, Narowal etc., for meger employment. We, as a nation, do not have a place for intellectuals.
Fourthly, the option of CSS is perhaps the one where people are most disillusioned. The pay is less, the facilities do not start for at least 5-7 years and you are basically on your own. A person I knew had to serve in Quetta and was basically on his own in terms of security and this was in 2010. The only way to rise is to be corrupt and I cannot do that.
So after all this process, thankfully, I have the forces. The job is secure, the recruitment is on merit and they post you elsewhere but they also provide the necesarry accomodation. I have seen this problem from a purely practical eye, not an emotional one. I have researched on the alternatives and narrowed it down.
I was really glad to read your post though, thank you, I wish I had people like you in my life more.
Regards.
dont be disheartened...i think you should go for @
Armstrong's option if it doesnt work for the Arm Forces etc....
you will still be doing great without being in PAF or PN!
Thank you, lil' Marsha, please pray I go where it is the best for me!