First get engaged have the date of marriage decided and make sure it cannot be postponed.............. so that once you go nuts its not that easy for everyone to back off ....... especially your fiancee (emotional hathyachar) ............. smajay? to the decent limits of "May bus app k ilawah kissi say shadi nai karo gi" wagaira wagaira wala level........ matlab sabz bagh dikaho tumhara kya jata hay ........
badh may to sab chand tary bhool jaty hain waisy b.
Next thing if you have already assessed that they are not going to listen to any demands of simplicity from you (don't demand simplicity just assess) ...... make it expensive for them ........ so much so that they start screaming .................. like agar wo barat dhoom dham say karna chahy to bol do tumhary itnaaaaaaaaay barati ho gay ............... demand demand demand ............. dowry shopping kay liay sath chaly jao her cheez may keeray nikalo ....... don't let them settle for anything ......... demand expensive stuff which is well out of their reach .................... once they come back complaining then tell them its either this or your original plan of simplicity ................ now at that point chances are you will be alone fighting your's plus their's family ........ so its better have your siblings brainwashed beforehand to stand with you, start gathering support from start you will need it (Aur hand apni fiancee ko yeh sab btany ki bhool mat karna, ziada jazbati honay ki zaroorat nai hay). Apply the delay tactics as much as you can so that on one hand they keep worrying about approaching marriage date and on other they haven't been able to fully prepare for it.
Once that phase is complete .............. the next stage is paying extra money to band baja barat walay log to ensure their dhol and other stuff doesn't perform according to wishes of audience ...... such a performance that everybody wishes to kill them for performing.
Remember in all this haste don't let anyone sit and agree on Cheeda Cheeda Nukat of Nikah form (Download kar kay parh laina aik dafa) ............... so when the time for Nikah approaches the situation should be such that when Molvi Sb asks for the "Haq Mehar amount" your side and their side is looking to each other confused ............ now don't give them more than half a minute to think ......... gather courage and strike asking Molvi Sb what was "Haq Mehr" of Hazrat Ayesha .............. just tell him to convert that to current PKR value and write that .............. Mazhab ki mar
Once you have said Qabool hay Qabool hay well that is the moment you are officially entitled to start your own family number in Nadra's database. Iss kay badh live a balanced life simple "Mama baba ka tabaydar baita aur bivi ka khayal rakhnay wala insan"
................ ja bacha iss kay badh tayri apni zindagi khatam...... ub tum jeeo gay doosro k liay.