what is the last realistic age to be a first time father?

[Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8]

I think around 45-47...your child becomes 18 when you are 65...(the age when you start declining in physical cognitive powers)

 

[BringHarmony]

I think around 45-47...your child becomes 18 when you are 65...(the age when you start declining in physical cognitive powers)

early to mid 30s. After that you increase chances of birth defects and other issues.

 

[Pakistansdefender]

Hi,

This not a realistic age---but a desperate age to be a father---. You cannot do things with your children and play their sports with them like me getting married at 42.

But dear those who don't get the chance one way or another. Its no harm to be a father at later stage. Yes being a young father is absolutely amazing experience.
But nowadays the problem lie within your society. This problem is still limited to big cities thankfully.
The people are delaying their marriages for no big reason. Just because they have a different idea for themselves or difficult goals, unless they achieve those dream they don't marry. While parents are also becoming very non concerned and in some cases encouraging their kids not to marry early.
Even now women marrying age in cities such as karachi and lahore is as late as to 26 to 28 or even 30.
Boys are easily passing 35.
Which Is to the point of cruel towards these people. People are not meant to be like that to suppress something that is very natural. They have this in their nature, and if they are suppressing these feelings. They are hurting themselves too in the process.
The society or I just say some big cities have taken very very wrong attitude towards sexual actitives.
Of course one must not have illegal relations ideally , but that doesn't mean one must suppress oneself. The society must change their attitude specially these upper middle and middle classes. And start culture of marrying early and living separately.

 

[Imran Khan]

stop reproducing and have mercy on you and nature

 

[padamchen]

35.

First and last time.

 

[Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8]

Hi,

This not a realistic age---but a desperate age to be a father---. You cannot do things with your children and play their sports with them like me getting married at 42.

I think 35 at the most in our cultures---.

Just look at the last two crisis---in 2008---and now---huge number of job losses---older workers not getting back their jobs---children growing up under desperate conditions---children are young and not in their profession during the second crisis---like myself I should have retired but will be working for a few years more---.

you got married at 42?...what was it like getting married in 40s..what was it like raising young children at that age

 

[Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8]

early to mid 30s. After that you increase chances of birth defects and other issues.

especially if you are 45 and your wife is 35....(this being also first time motherhood for your wife)

 

[padamchen]

You also need to be part of the curve of the age group of your kids friends parents.

Though if you have many kids, you are usually on an average older than many parents of the friends of your youngest kid.

Somehow it's not the same in reverse with your first.

 

[Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8]

Autistic men shouldn't have children...better for both of them....

true words..especially the more you age, the more of your sperms become autistic...it's a roll of the dice...if your child is not a high functioning autist, but still autistic, it's a curse

You also need to be part of the curve of the age group of your kids friends parents.

Though if you have many kids, you are usually on an average older than many parents of the friends of your youngest kid.

Somehow it's not the same in reverse with your first.

very insightful, this sort of insight can only come from first hand experience--->thank you

 

[ApparentRaceTraitor]

Became a dad at 28 and 30, and believe me when I say this, my rampaging munchkins are giving me the time of my life

 

[Yankee-stani]

My dad got married when he was 49 in the late 1990s and I was born shortly after but issues is when you in that age as you mentioned your health starts declining thankfully my father for most of my childhood and into adolescence was mostly healthy its only recently that he had to have major Prostate surgery,main issues for me was cultural Dad had issues with mom since the beginning and it did not help they came from different ethnic and religious backgrounds other issues is gen gap hard to understand youth problems when you try to view it from a prism from your youth which is drastically different.I would say the best age would be early 30s because you are at peak of strength that time and most likely have better financial resources too what can backtrack that if you are from a non western backround is nagging parents wanting to have grand kids,working a job they can feel pride in which then hurts your creative and independent path.I also despise the arranged marriage route too but I am skeptical if you ever find any real "true love" in reality

 

[StormBreaker]

I think around 45-47...your child becomes 18 when you are 65...(the age when you start declining in physical cognitive powers)

25-26

 

[Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8]

My dad got married when he was 49 in the late 1990s and I was born shortly after but issues is when you in that age as you mentioned your health starts declining thankfully my father for most of my childhood and into adolescence was mostly healthy its only recently that he had to have major Prostate surgery,main issues for me was cultural Dad had issues with mom since the beginning and it did not help they came from different ethnic and religious backgrounds other issues is gen gap hard to understand youth problems when you try to view it from a prism from your youth which is drastically different.I would say the best age would be early 30s because you are at peak of strength that time and most likely have better financial resources too what cab backtrack that if you are from a non western backround is nagging parents wanting to have grand kids,working a job they can feel pride in which then hurts your creative and independent path.I also despise the arranged marriage route too but I am skeptical if you ever find any real "true love" in reality

how many physical activities did you partake in with your Dad? and was the age gap between your Dad and Mom too great? My Dad had me early thirties...33...but he also died at the age of 54 suddenly .....For me it was too soon and too short as I hadn't seen him for close to 2 yrs till his passing away ....So the absence of my Dad still plays a lot in my mind though I was already in my 20s by that time.....Did your father take Testosterone replacement therapy to keep himself young and strong for his kids? and what would be your view as a young son if your father had taken testosterone replacement therapy to keep himself young and strong

60s. If you become father in 60s your son would be fully independent self dependent and more confident in his 20s. But if you become father in 20s then he would be under you most of his life

whoaaa that's out of the left field...this means you are 61 -62 and your wife needs to be 31-34...isn't that way too much of an age gap?

 

[Yankee-stani]

how many physical activities did you partake in with your Dad? and was the age gap between your Dad and Mom too great? My Dad had me early thirties...33...but he also died at the age of 54 suddenly .....For me it was too soon and too short as I hadn't seen him for close to 2 yrs till his passing away ....So the absence of my Dad still plays a lot in my mind though I was already in my 20s by that time.....Did your father take Testosterone replacement therapy to keep himself young and strong for his kids? and what would be your view as a young son if your father had taken testosterone replacement therapy to keep himself young and strong




whoaaa that's out of the left field...this means you are 61 -62 and your wife needs to be 31-34...isn't that way too much of an age gap?

Sorry for your loss and yeah losing a parent regardless of age hurts even if they were strained anyways my dad was born in 1946 my mom was born in 1959 so my parents were born 13 years apart from each other, the problem was not age but culture I would say early in my age the physical activity was basic learning to ride a bike,showed me the basics of playing Cricket and jogging not very much after that, and no testosterone replacement if he did well hard to say cause he never took that

 

[Indos]

@Juggernaut_Flat_Plane_V8

This Arab Indonesian, Ahmad Albar with his new wife and son. His son was born when he was at 72 while his wife is at 30's. He got divorced with his first wife who married again with Indonesian businessmen. He married his new wife after so long being alone. He married second time at his 70