if we are to assume it is true, then don't you think it would make sense for india, if they truly want peace and stability, to engage in dialogue despite terrorist attacks?
No, there is no sense in engaging with Pakistan until terrorism stops.
i've seen it argued in indian media that the pakistani army sponsors these terrorist attacks just when the two nations are reaching the point for dialogue in order to prevent peace so they stay in power in pakistan.
That's why it's a waste of time. The reason is the duplicity of the Pakistani establishment rather than anything else.
if this were true then india could get around this by just continuing dialogue with pakistani politicians and even army folk.
Can't when the talks are just an eyewash in the first place.
Pakistan wants talks to continue so they point out that they are working for peace, and they get money and investment in return from Western countries, but at the same time bullets fly when an agreement is nearing.
So Pak Army allows peace talks, which take a while, then they stop peace talks through terror attacks. We have come quite close to war multiple times because of this Pakistani duplicity, at least 2 times in 2002 itself. And also fought a limited one in 1999.
then the pakistani army would lose it's current influence in pakistani social and foreign affairs because the whole reason it has it is because of the perceived threat from our neighbours, mainly india.
There is no chance of that happening. There was a sliver of hope with Nawaz Sharif. He was the only one in Pakistan's entire history who came the closest to bringing military influence down and then he was kicked out. So we expect no change from the civilian leadership for another 20 years.
Right now, our main focus (the military's in fact) is building up a significant conventional superiority over Pakistan. So the next time we come to the table, we will either have successful talks or war. We haven't seen a war yet because the military has not yet completely convinced the political establishment with respect to the cost to benefit of going to war. Meaning, the civilian leadership in India is not yet willing to accept significant losses over a war with Pakistan at this time, while there are still various other alternative options that are available, for example, global economic sanctions on Pakistan.
So while the civilians work towards forcing Pakistan's hand through political and economic means, the military is working towards lowering the cost over benefit of a war with Pakistan. After trying out everything possible, if it turns out the military solution is the quickest way to achieve our objective, then military solution will become more acceptable to India's civilian leadership.
That's why you have even the new Imran Khan leadership now threatening nuclear war on India. This is meant to keep reminding the civilian leadership in India the cost of going to war with Pakistan.
The Pakistani civilian leadership is entirely useless. Just having talks with them, even if successful, without the Pak Army also taking part is pointless. So talks are futile until terrorism stops. Pak Army can come on the table only if terrorism stops.
i dont have any sources right now about india bringing in third parties so i'll leave that.
No such source exists. A third party is exactly the opposite of Indian interests.
What you are referring to and are confused about is using a third party mediator for the Indus Water Treaty. But that's only specific to the water treaty and nothing else.
terrorism has to stop for sure, but general bajwa has made it clear that he is pro-peace and anti terror.
And you believe that?
You can only believe the Pak Army's words of peace when terrorism actually stops.
however, india must concede that cross-border skirmishes will continue to occur and lives on both sides will be lost before any dialogue is finished.
Border skirmishes are different. They are happening because Pakistan is pushing infiltrators into India. If terrorism stops, so will the border skirmishes.
India and China have a border dispute also, you don't see us shooting each other.